Are you a single mom who wishes they had more time for you?

He does have an important job - as do you. My husband is military contractor. He works nights - which means save for a few hours each morning - he just changed from swing to full nights but since its new - he's sleeping now - we won't really see him. I too look forward to weekends - this one though he worked. Which happens. In fact for awhile he will be working every saturday. His mom is too - in MS - but she, although she contracts to the military as well - is in administrative work - nothing like the physical work he does. He does the pre and post flight checks, and maintainence on the planes and he tells me that his co-workers don't do anything! I know he won't complain - he only told me because I asked specifically. One guy who does nothing was fired once but he got his job back because he claimed discrimination - because int he process of becoming a man - he's still a woman. So that is his ticket out of working but still receiving a paycheck. My husband, unfortunately, the only one of the lot with a good work ethic, has to pay for things like that. People who don't want to work and still want a paycheck. But I totally digress. :)

Does your husband make sure that the kids aren't running to your room and banging on the door and cyring pitifully for you? Do you have good sound insulation in your room so you don't hear them yelling and running about? Actually by the time you go to sleep - are they asleep? What kind of help do you have? With two boys, I'd imagine not enough :)

No, my husband doesn't make sure they do not disturb me. In fact, all 3 are usually creating a ruckus when I'm trying to sleep or already asleep (I've had my neighbour downstairs tell me there was a lot of running around and noise one night...I was fast asleep and didn't know about it). Sometimes, my husband complains that he can't relax or get his work done when they are awake and I am asleep and insists (or rather demands) that I take care of the little one then. No, I do not have good sound insulation...but I'm so tired by the end of the day, I fall asleep soon after I'm done with my 15 minutes of reading. The door is closed and I've taught myself to tune out the noise and concentrate on myself for 15 minutes. Though my boys SHOULD be in bed before I am, they are not...and their dad always supports them in this. So, I've given up and make sure I get my sleep. The help I have is a girl who comes at 6 am to help with the cleaning (which takes a lot off me). But you are right, it's not really enough because we are homeschooling the older son and the younger one is at home too and hasn't started school yet.

Its great that you can tune them out - and vital to your well being and sanity. Whatever hours your husband is working - you work the same hours and more.

Are they all in school? That must make it a bit easier for you. Still, being a single mom is hard work! Though rewarding as you say. Glad you take time for yourself.

So in other words you have TWO jobs - the one you get a paycheck for and the 24 hour job of raising your kids!