The end - Game Over

@ronaldinu (12422)
Malta
April 29, 2010 3:58am CST
For those who have followed my previous discussion on my head, already know what I might be talking about. My boss is terminally ill in hospital This morning we had the latest news about him. The school chaplain visited him in hospital. It seems that he is in his final moments, he is not able to recognise any visitors. The chaplain told us that he did not recognise our head if his wife did not call him. It's saddening to hear that our head who was more like a father to us, is in this state and cannot do anything to help him. At this stage I prefer to keep a good memory of the old days when we shared good memories together. Right now I am almost in disbelief. Life is not fair. He has been retired for three/four years. He should be enjoying life and reaping the good fruit he sought in the past and not be on his death bed. How do you feel when a closed relative or friend is in his final stages? What are your thoughts?
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@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
30 Apr 10
I am sorry your dear friend has reached the end of his life. It is difficult to describe the helplessness one feels watching a loved one who is so sick. I went through a dark time like yours when my dear mother in law was dying from cancer. She was too young to go and, at first I felt angry and it was she who made see that I should make peace with her destiny because she had; she was dying and so peaceful that it emanated from her making you feel at one with her God too. My mother in law was very religious and this gave her an enormous amount of strength at the end. It is what it is…When it is someone’s time the hardest thing is for the ones who will be left behind to accept and move on. All I can say is allow the tears to come when they need to until you can smile again…
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@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
30 Apr 10
HI Paula. Thanks for your sympathy shown. I think we harvest what we sow. REligion plays an important part in our life. Hopefully your mother is in a better place than here where she is free from any sufferings.
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@saphrina (31551)
• South Africa
29 Apr 10
I have been threw that recently and believe me it is not easy at all. But, i tought myself to rather remember them as they were. It makes everything more bearable. TATA.
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@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
30 Apr 10
Hi Saphrina thanks for sharing your experience in this discussion. I am doing the same thing and tryting to remember him in better days
• United States
30 Apr 10
I am so sorry.Just remember your boss the way he was. As long as you remember him, you will never be without him. Every time I think of my mom , I can feel her spirit is with me.
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@dragon54u (31634)
• United States
29 Apr 10
I'm so sorry you are losing your friend. I lost my brother a few years ago, he was only 66 and I honestly thought at one point that it would kill me. But after a couple of days I was comforted by the thoughts that he lived his last year as he had wanted to all his life and very few people got to do that. I was also comforted because I knew it was only a temporary separation and that when my life was done I would see him again. He is in a better place and your beloved friend will also be in a better place than this--no more pain, misery or loneliness, only love and the presence of God our father. It is awful to lose someone we love. We miss them and wish their life had been better. But they are headed for a much better, eternal life--they are going home where they truly belong and where they await us after our journey is done. Life isn't fair but we live life to learn, teach others, spread a little joy when we can and prepare for the eternal kingdom. This life is temporary and all our sorrows are, too. I wish you peace and comfort as you say farewell to your friend.
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@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
29 Apr 10
HI dragon54u, the fact that he will be in a better place and hopefully this new life will end his present suffering makes me feel a little bit better. Thanks for your kind thoughts and sharing.
@gunjanpri (603)
• India
29 Apr 10
Which Game is over buddy. I can not imagine ending a relationship once when it is made.
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@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
29 Apr 10
I used the terminology to instill a discussion. I do think that although our loved ones are no longer present but they still live in our memories.
@viviya (88)
• China
30 Apr 10
No words can describe my feeling then. My late father passed away because of cancer of the esofagus. During his last days, we kids even didn't know what "cancer" did mean.we just learnt from the sadness from the adults that we would lose him.It took two month for him to suffered the terrible pain. He coughed and disgorged too much but could ate little. He loze his weight and hair badly. we didn't say anything serious......and on that sorrowful evening,the Lord took him away. It broke my hearts, and took me over a decade to recover from it.He was still in my deep heart.I still love him.
@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
30 Apr 10
I hope that he is in a better place than here. Thanks for sharing your sorrowful loss of your father. Thank once again.
• Canada
13 Dec 10
It is always hard to deal with the impending loss of a loved one, to know that someone is going to die, and not to be able to do anything about it.
@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
5 May 10
IT's really so sad to hear that happening, especially someone who's as close as our family members.. It's never a good feeling, no matter how much we wanna be strong, and be on the positive side of it.. Let your emotions flow, for that will be the very last time that u will be remembering him in that way.. After which, move on, and let the happy memories stay in your heart and sould forever ^_^ Everybody wants to be remember in the most beautiful way ^_^
@cream97 (29086)
• United States
29 Apr 10
Hi, ronaldinu. I would feel very sad and hurt if that was me. I would feel so much of sadness, that I won't be able to express myself to anyone. I would just curl up into a corner and just fester all day.. I am sorry that this is happening to the man that you love so dearly. I am sorry to see you go through such sadness and pain. I hope that God can do a miracle for his recovery. I am so sorry to hear of this.
@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
30 Apr 10
Hi cream thanks for your understanding and sympathy. Though he is not a family member I have been feeling down for the past days. It is true that life continues but the loss of a loved one is always a sad event.
• Pamplona, Spain
29 Apr 10
Hiya ronaldinu, Sorry to hear about your Boss. Life is ironic and not very fair most times. How do I feel about close Family well it would take me a Book to write it all out how I feel about that so I won´t say very much on that subject. It is a real shame he did not have time to enjoy life in other ways. My condolences to you and his Family.
@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
30 Apr 10
Hi Thanks for your sympathy and condolences. Sometimes I always say that the good ones are always taken first.