Should man marry a woman taller than him?
By scheng1
@scheng1 (24649)
Singapore
April 29, 2010 10:42am CST
I read an article in Xomba about this topic.
The author acknowledges that in some society, it is not acceptable for man to marry a woman taller than himself.
The author finds it unreasonable if both of them are truly in love.
What do you think? Should a man marry a woman taller than him? If you see a tall woman with a short man, what is the thought in your mind? Do you think they are a mismatch couple?
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11 responses
@yugasini (12893)
• Secunderabad, India
2 May 10
hi scheng,
you know that there is proverb,Marriages are made in the heaven,so nothing to worry,some times boy may be taller than the guys in some times and some times the girl may be taller than the boy,nothing will happen,both of they can adjust according their will and pleasure,have a nice day
@yugasini (12893)
• Secunderabad, India
3 May 10
hi scheng,
thanks for the response,here in India mostly people prefer the girl must be less height than the boy,if it is not possible then at least same height,but in rare cases the girl may little taller than the boy,here the rituals and tradition is like that,have a nice day
,here in India mostly people prefer the girl must be less height than the boy,if it is not possible then at least same height,but in rare cases the girl may little taller than the boy,here the rituals and tradition is like that,have a nice day@scheng1 (24649)
• Singapore
3 May 10
Hi Yugasini, I do not really understand why some cultures are so against the wife taller than the husband.
So far, I have never come across this kind of culture. It must be very interesting to learn the reasons behind it.
The ancient Chinese also believe that marriages are made in the heaven, and that a person can meet the soul mate.
@Canellita (12029)
• United States
30 Apr 10
I think it depends on the man. I have known plenty of short men who absolutely love tall women and I have known men of average height who are uncomfortable with a woman who is taller than they are in heels. The only time height matters in a relationship is when dancing.
@scheng1 (24649)
• Singapore
30 Apr 10
Hi Canellita, I suppose culture plays an important part.
If the dance is the Africa war dance, I doubt height matters. This is the first time I come across the idea that short man should not marry a tall woman. Maybe some cultures have certain superstitions about it, I pity those short men. They must find the pool of eligible ladies very limited.
I haven't a chance to meet really short men. I think the shortest group of men is the older Japanese men. Those are the ones really short and cute.
@Canellita (12029)
• United States
1 May 10
I guess when culture comes into play height becomes a question of stature. Tall, strong and fit is going to be more desirable in a son or a mate than the opposite. It's a question of survival and even though life has become more industrial and most of us have left hunting and gathering behind, we still look for some of the same attributes in a mate that our ancestors did.
@tinkerick (1257)
• United States
29 Apr 10
Wow there are actually places that would discriminate based on height?
If 2 people are truly in love, than they love each other for who they are, height and any other faults aside. Therefore, they should be allowed to marry. It's what's inside that counts!
@scheng1 (24649)
• Singapore
30 Apr 10
Hi Tinkerick, I think only strong love can keep the short man and his taller wife together in that kind of culture.
The opposition will probably come from those relatives and well-meaning friends. Anyway, true love can conquer all types of gossips. That article is interesting because i have never thought that height matters so much.
@phoenix8606 (4942)
•
29 Apr 10
well, love is blind but I think and perfer to be taller than the girl :)
@besthope44 (12123)
• India
30 Apr 10
Well everyone opinion varies on this point. But i can say one thing strongly, one who love truly without any expectations will never find heights a big thing. But others who always want perfect and best, will consider this as a big issue. So i truly believe in love and my partner is shorter than me, which is not a matter at all. Outside world notice it different, its problem with the angle they look and definitely not the heights!
@scheng1 (24649)
• Singapore
30 Apr 10
Hi Besthope44, I never really think that height matters much in modern society. Probably the cultures that look upon height as a major concern do not exist in our area or country.
If we come across such cultures, we may have a better understanding of how they think and feel about it.
I think it will take a very courageous couple to go against cultures and all the opposition.
@dvirtualist (399)
• Philippines
29 Apr 10
Why not? If they both love each other and want to spend the rest of their life together, why not? I don't find it reasonable really to not allow a man marry a woman taller than him. In love, height does not matter.
I see couples in my family where my cousin is taller than her husband or vice versa and we don't mind it. As long as the person knows his responsibility, as long as he can take care of his girl, it doesn't matter how tall you are.
@scheng1 (24649)
• Singapore
29 Apr 10
Hi Dvirtualist, I think love is the most important factor in a marriage.
I do not even think that money or look can secure the marriage and make it work. Height is certainly not an issue.
However, I find it weird to see an extremely short man walking with a very tall gal. I will take a second look at them. Some men are so short that they do not even reach to the shoulder of the women.
@LovingLife139 (1504)
• United States
29 Apr 10
What a close-minded author! It isn't acceptable to marry someone based on love? Now you must have an entire list of acceptable materialistic points to meet before you can say, "Okay, we both are up to par...let's get married!"?
I fell in love with a taller man myself, but I was in love so fast it didn't matter one way or another. I've always felt bad for shorter men simply because I think it's unnecessarily ridiculous how they have these ideas out there against them. Not to mention how many women I've heard claim that shorter men aren't attractive. I see it all as just another form of our judgemental society.
My uncle is a little over five feet, and my aunt is one inch over six feet. Do they cause people to look twice at them? Sure. It's adorable to see them next to each other, her so much larger than him, but they are still in love. They've been together nearly thirty years now, and have been married over twenty. I respect them more than I would a couple with a taller man and a shorter woman who marry for materialistic reasons rather than love, whatever the case. No wonder couples are getting a divorce so often nowadays...with skewed judgemental materialistic viewpoints like that author, it is obvious there are people out there who believe marriage is for a safe, mutual benefit rather than love and respect first.
I can understand if someone finds short men unattractive, because we all have our opinions. I can understand if someone finds a short man with his taller married wife odd, since you don't see it often, but unacceptable? Please. 
@scheng1 (24649)
• Singapore
30 Apr 10
Hi Lovinglife, the author is not closed-minded.
It is just an observation he made, and he did say that height should not matter if both are in love.
Anyway, if the culture is like that, it will take a lot of courage for the man to marry a taller woman or a tall woman to marry a short man.
It's surprising how the rest of the world thinks. I thought love should be the most important factor in a marriage, can't believe that height matters so much.
@resonance2050 (105)
• India
29 Apr 10
no, man should be taller than women, as we talk about astrology if woman is taller its going to be divorce, why to take that much rish!!and another thing we will be seen in tv, radio, all people will think we all fool!!!why to do this type of thing,
@scheng1 (24649)
• Singapore
30 Apr 10
Hi Resonance, that article is very interesting, since I have never thought of marriage from this angle.
Most people will look at the couple, and privately think why a beautiful woman wants to marry an ugly man or why a handsome man chooses such an ugly wife. Hardly anyone makes remark on the height.
@moonkerstin (116)
• Philippines
29 Apr 10
why not. but for my own opinion, i like that the guy is taller than me. i feel confident.
@joanick27 (141)
• Philippines
30 Apr 10
Why not? Love conquers all. As long as these two people are madly in love and they are not stepping on anyone, they are free to love and contract a marriage. Physical differences should not in anyway hinders innocent love. I don't think height should bear complications neither do I see them as mismatch couple. I don't see any wrong when a man falls in love with a taller woman. And if the woman would want to settle for a shorter man, so be it. It's her choice. I know for sure that her decision will not create inconvenience to her neighbors. Will a couple with height differences cause a disease that should warn the globe? I don't think so. Both of them are entitled to their own happiness. Just be happy for them. Remember, there is no discrimination in love.
