Do you have a fear of having a baby?

I think I'd make a good mother. I've helped my sister raise her 4 kids. But I am also very scared. I don't want to have a baby until I am ready. I want to have enough money to give her/him all the things it'll need. I don't mind giving up parties and late nights with the friends. I pretty much don't go out anyway. But I worry about being able to provide everything my child will need, both emotionally and physically. I want to be as good of a mother as my mom is. Also I have a genetic disorder that I worry I will pass on to my kids. So I fear that probably the most.

Fear could mean you are not yet ready to be mom, it was unwanted cause you are still young, your parents will be devastated, or you just want to stay slim forever. i've never been afraid to be a mother although i was nervous when i was to give birth but everything is worth it. have a nice day!

I've had that feeling before, actually until now I still get them, from time to time. I think fears are normal to come along with thought of having a baby or actually having a baby. In fact I already have one child. From time to time I get these fears, and I can't shrug them off, because I love my baby too much. What I do is pray about my worries and anxiety, and just hope for the best so that everything will turn out fine. It's true, a life is a lot more hassle-free without a baby - but for me life has become more meaningful when I had my first child. And all the pain and effort of child-bearing and child-rearing is worth every second of my child's life. He's my biggest blessing, the best thing that ever happened to me so far :D

I am pregnant at the moment, and very looking forward to my baby coming along! I have three sisters who have all had children, and one of them I was very close with when she was pregnant with all 3 of her children, and when I was 12/13 we would sit watching birthing videos of all the creaming and crying and shouting during labour, i heard all the gory details about many women doing a bit of a poo during labour, and about it HURTING!!! And you would think that would put me off kids for life...but it did the opposite! It prepared me for it all! I am now 21 weeks along, and not worried at all about the birth (apart from something been wrong with the baby!), as I know its going to hurt, I know its not goign to be pleasant, and i know there is going to be blood and mess!!! My husband has been told alllll about it!! And I know that there is more than likely going to be a point where I don't think I can do it!! But I am prepared for it all, I know what my options are if I DO hit the wall and cannot carry on pushing, I know the pain relief availble should I need it, though I'd like to do it with nothing but gas and air if I can!!! I think the BIG problem with women nowadays is they aren't prepared for birth, they dont realise what it is really like, there are no longer the same programmes on TV which I watched almost 10 years ago with my sister and so it is a worry of the unknown rather than what is going to happen! I find that now I know it isnt goign to be nice, I am prepared for it, but one thing I do know is that it is going to be well worth it when I hold my baby for the first time, and I know that although it is going to hurt me more than anything else I will ever go through, I know it WILL end, it wont last forever and within a few hours we will have the most precious little gift we could ever receive!!! SO no, I am not scared of having a baby at all! I am more scared about the motherhood than the birth, worried that I won't be able to cope, but then I see other mothers, and i know I can do it, even if it is hard!!!!! :)

I have 2 little girls and I am pregnant with my first little boy.. I actually want 5 kids.. My husband and I can't even remember what life was like before our children.. The fear is always there.. You are right about that, but it is that fear that makes you a good parent.. those what ifs that go through your mind make you think things out better than you would if it was just you.. because now you have those other person that you are responsible for... and that is wonderful.. its a great part of life... I wouldn't change anything. yes you do make mistakes but you are much more likely to learn from them

Some couples are not afraid of the baby, they are afraid of the responsibility of raising a child. To be honest raising a baby is not a joke and it requires a person or a couples to be more responsible and stop their bad habits in work because they need money. Personally I like to have a baby when me and my girl are ready to face those responsibilities.

i'm afraid of delivering a child. i'm scared i'd screw up during the 9 months of pregnancy. i'm scared i'd mess up my "labor". i'm scared i'd become too conscious of the doctor that i won't be able to do it right. but that's the only thing i'm scared of. in fact, i prefer having a baby more than a partner. i don't really think of getting into a relationship now. and i'm not even dreaming of getting married. but i wanted to become a mother and raise a child.

not really a fear,but more of uncertainty.I am a good pet mom,but I am not sure if I can be a good mom.sometimes,crying babies can drive me insane.I have short patience and a little bit of temper.I just can't handle that kind of responsibility.I am ok if I don't get married and have my own family.

As you see,having a baby means too much for a mother.

All of these things you described after having a baby seem really awful...I don't think i am afraid of having a baby.In fact,i like kids and want to have kids.I have been always dreaming of having a baby or two right away.In my opinion,having kids is one of the greatest events in one's life,just like such events as choosing a lifecareer or getting married.Yes,having kids is no easy thing,but we don't stop eating just in fear of being chocked. Yeah,i am going to have at least one kid in the future.