Looking Your Best

More than any one else I want to look good for myself when I see myself in the mirror and when that is done there is no way that I can see myself trying to look better if someone makes a comment as that would be the best I would have done anyway.

Oh honey, I know how you feel. In fact I am in the same boat. I am not a stay at home mom, but it doesn't make many differences. I have a baby daughter now, and when I come back from work, all I want to do is to play with her. I want to look good for my husband too, but I don't have time . I work full time 40 hours a week and on the weekend I just want to rest. I look gross too, my skin looks dull, my hair is falling . I really wish I have more time to "fix" my self. It's pretty unfair for my husband you know..

I agree that through out your day who has time? So at night, I will jump in the shower and try to look nice that way. he seems ok with this....

LillyBelleDaisyRose hi well now thats your opinion but to your loved ones you probably look pretty darned good a mom who cares for her children and the goats too. but I do know what you mean. I am a widow and elderly too but I want t o look good to all who see me during the day here in Gold crest retirement center. But take a few minutes for your self as you are owed that,and I bet your husband and your children would agree mom needs a little time to herself, to look good, feel good and fell happy about herself.

Actually no, and I know exactly where you're coming from. I fix myself up now because I work in the public. When I was raising my kids I was like you. I kind of look at it like this, he doesn't stop on his way home from work to freshen and spiff up for me, so why should I be expected to stop in the middle of my work day (which wont end until the kids are in bed, supper dishes are done, last of the laundry put away, we're talking what? Around 8,9 pm.) and that's what it is, work, to shower, dress-up, slather on make-up, poof my hair so he can walk in and ask what's for supper?, did we get any mail? and so on. Even after my children were grown and gone my husband rarely came home and found me powdered, puffed and preening. I always had on an old Dollar Store smock, baggy shorts and my hair wadded up on my head. Why? because when I crawled out of bed in the morning, I never knew what I would be doing that day. I could be doing anything from crawling on top of the house to blow off leaves, which than meant I had to rake and burn the leaves. I could be putting down a floor in the barn, digging up part of the yard and so on. Sometimes I would feel bad too, but I got over it. I worked hard around my home, doing things he wouldn't have to do. (I enjoyed it) I know he didn't always care to come home and see me with grime under my neck, leaves in my hair and smelling like who knows what. We had some goats too at one time, the little Pygmy goats and you know how they smell. Not to mention I live in south Georgia so it doesn't take much to break a sweat. After I had my shower, with my hair wet and my face red from my busy day. My husband always hugged me real good and said 'Mmmm you smell good' On my slower days, when I felt like it and had a little time. I would be squeaky clean, all made up when he came home, but I did it for me, not for him. If I got a compliment, good, if not, that was okay too. Actually, I think I even mentioned it to my husband one time. I saw no reason to crawl out bed in the morning, doll myself up just so the dogs could sit around and look at me all day. What would be the point? If it really makes you feel bad, talk to your husband about it, tell him how you feel. You may be surprised.

hey Lillybelledaisyrose! yeah i do, especially if it's almost time for my husband's arrival...lol i missed salon, beauty shop and shopping for the longest time after being a housewife and learning how to be thrifty but i still make it a point to look at myself in the mirror and apply powder or comb my hair before he's home.