How do you compromise between two sons who have two different needs?
By tomitomi
@tomitomi (5429)
Singapore
May 1, 2010 7:08am CST
The four men in my life. I love them all. But I just wanna share two of my sons here, worth mentioning. One is the second eldest and the other the second youngest. That's right, the ones in the center, the second and the third child in the family.
They have two very conflicting attributes and ideas. While my second child is homely and likes to spend his free time at home the other is not. They go to different schools though. But for things that happen in school and I think as a parent I need to know what's going on, I'll be the last to know from my second but not from my third. When it comes to eating one prefers a traditional dish and the other more contemporary or I would say western. I have never really complained and have always tried to give both my possible best.
I'm planning for a holiday at the end of the year. And I've not actually decided where to go. Since my sons are saving up for this it is equally fair to listen to them and I want it to be a happy occasion for all of us too.
My second son, Alex, wants to spend time in the countryside but my third, Darius would prefer the city instead. In this hard times where resources are limited how do you compromise between two sons who have two different needs?
3 responses
@mackiejp (374)
• Philippines
2 May 10
Hi Tom,
That would be a tough decision you are facing right now...But, there is one thing a Father can do for his children, you still have a long time to save for both they desire. I have two sons and both have different wants and to satisfy them both we need to work extra hours to give them exactly what they want. Not to disappoint both of them. My husband travel extra miles just to provide them anything even beyond their needs. But the decision is yours to make, a good explanation can make a good decision where to spend holiday...sight some good reasons to convince them all why you need to go to where you want the holiday to spend.
@charylady (419)
• Philippines
2 May 10
my question to you is where do you want to go? you did not mention your son's ages but maybe now is a good time for them to learn how to compromise. why don't you decide and let them know that it's your personal preference. i'm sure they will want to please you.
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@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
2 May 10
Hey tomi~ I think you really have a problem on you hands! How
are you supposed to please everyone if they all have very
different needs? You also have two more sons! What do they want?
You have to take the consensus of the whole family in order
to make the final decison! You can't possibly please everyone
so you have to please as many as you can! That is the only fair
thing to do! So when you look at the family as a whole, you have
to go with what would make the most people happy and decide from
there! It is too hard to please so many people in this case! I
wish you luck making such a difficult decison!
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