What do you think about online dating sites? Would you try one or have you?
By Tallygirl09
@Tallygirl09 (1380)
United States
May 1, 2010 5:36pm CST
I'm recently single again and just starting to think about maybe dating again. I work from home so meeting someone at work isn't an option and I'm not a bar type as I don't drink. And since I have my own company, I work some long hours. What do you think about the online dating sites? Have you ever tried one? Would you?
2 people like this
15 responses
@danitykane (3183)
• Philippines
2 May 10
Hello tally,
As for me there is nothing wrong with dating sites or dating online and trying it won't kill you either. LOL. It is just that most of the people you'll meet online won't tell you 100% of the reality (facts) about them since you don't see them personally. In most cases it won't work but there are some who found real love thru this type of dating. I haven't tried it yet but I have met few people online via IM's but honestly, I find it hard to devote time and energy for someone that I am unsure who they really are. Maybe I would but I don't still find the "light"..haha! good luck!
@AjaySinghBaghel (5506)
• India
2 May 10
I have never done online dating and frankly do not believe doing so. This is not a good idea for me. There are male acting as a female who chat with you and fool you. There may be chances tha you will find someone good online but most of the time it would be someone doing time pass online and not looking for serious relations.
@bird123 (10643)
• United States
2 May 10
I used to think the online dating was crazy. Then a woman at work told everyone she was getting married to a guy from online dating. She said she went slow. They wrote lots of emails back and forth. In time they went on a date meeting in a public place. After dating awhile, presto, they are getting married. Yes, one must be careful with online dating but everyone in the world isn't bad, just be careful as always.
@angelajoy (1825)
• Philippines
2 May 10
I've never used an online dating site and I don't think I ever will. It's just that it's very hard to trust people you meet online. There are lots of predators on the Internet. I think it's better if you would get to know someone in person. I'm not a very outgoing person, but I belong in an organization, and that's where I met my current boyfriend. Maybe you could join organizations too so you'll meet lots of people.
@camomile07 (1420)
• Germany
2 May 10
I never tried one of those sites, but I also knew my husband through Internet. We knew us ten years ago. Since then we are still together and share two nice children. In my case, I met him in a special site to chat called ICQ. So maybe you could try it or something similar. But you have to be carefull, because you also might have bad experience as sometimes people are not what they say they are. I had luck, but many people had bad experience through internet.
@Kisha14 (117)
• Philippines
2 May 10
I think I am not going to try it. Because first of all you dont know that person. Second you should be aware of people nowadays, they can take advantage of you. Better be safe than to risk your life. Online dating is not appropriate its better to date to someone you already know.
@weasel81 (2496)
• Australia
2 May 10
i'm a member of adult friend finder. i find it a fun site, but at the same time it is a lot more adult than other sites. some i've found are to clean, and cost more.
you only say what u want to, and don't give out details till u want to etc.
i've met one guy from the site, he's nice. seem to also be making a few friends, that if i'm over their way would give them a call. to actually meet.
hope that helps.
@ladym33 (10979)
• United States
2 May 10
It is hard for me to say because I have been with the same person for the last 24 years. But I do know friends who have met and married people they have met on dating sites and so far those marriages have held. I think that if I were single I might give it a try maybe once or twice. I think I would feel a little uncomfortable at first and I would only meet people in public places, but if I were single and lonely I might give it a try.
@annierose (21583)
• Philippines
2 May 10
hi tallygirl09,
I had never tried online dating sites but I have a number of friends online. I met them on the site where I am studying different foreign languages. I just choose the people I talk with online. It is because not all of them are to be trusted. Some have this hidden agenda why they want to be friend with someone and for sure we are all aware what is it. However, I met my boyfriend online. It is not easy having a boyfriend online. There are many speculations that we won't last because we cannot stay being apart from each other. Many of my friends raised an eyebrow with this. Maybe, there is nothing impossible when it comes to love. We are in our relationship for more than 2 years now and nothing is still changing. We are not getting tired of each other, and every day that we will meet online, it seems that love becomes deeper and deeper. Our relationship is build up with love, trust, and care for each other.
You can try online dating sites as nothing is wrong with that. Just be careful with the people you meet. I have heard many successful stories of online relationships. One of my friends got married with a man he met online and now she is a happy life with him.We cannot judge any relationship be it online or not. Love moves in mysterious ways. Sometimes, we have to risk just to find our happiness. I do not say that my relationship with my boyfriend will be a successful one but all I can say is that I am happy with him and distance is not a hindrance for us to love each other and make our dreams come true in the future.
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
2 May 10
I think they've been helpful in giving people girlfriends. :) there are fairly many people having partners cuz of online dating sites.
@hunterkim_07 (458)
• Philippines
2 May 10
Hi. I have an account in an online dating site. I use it more to find friends other than the fact of looking for 'the one' (which I know is a thing we don't have any control). There are many in that site who are really looking for partners, but when you get to chat with them, you'd know that they're asking something different (you know what I mean). But I have met one and he's okay. He's respectful and he's not like the usual ones that you meet online. So I guess it's a matter of luck or something, especially in this crazy world of World Wide Web.
@kaylakilltastic (34)
• United States
2 May 10
I've tried a few sites in the past, and while i never found a BF i have made some amazing friends through it. I was having a hard time a while back with roomates and rent issues and one of the guys I met on a online dateing site ended up helping me out alot by letting me stay in an extra room he had. So, because of that I would say it wasnt a worthless endevor. I didnt find a bf but i've found many good friends.
@mashesu (6)
•
2 May 10
I haven't tried dating online and getting into online dating sites. People are not not the same in a way that we have different lifestyle, culture,attitude, factors like age and gender, and etc. For me it would be best to find a date in person so as to know more of him because some maybe hiding their true color if not met. But in your part, staying at home and in your company and the only nearest thing to communicate to other people is through sitting and facing the pc, it would be good to know the person for days to weeks, be friend to him and have sometime to meet him personally because sometimes you can see the true color of the person through their gestures.
@standbymeforever (887)
• Australia
1 May 10
I have never personally tried a online dating site and would never so in my life either. No offense to the people who use them but I think they are trashy. People should be incouraged to go out themselves and find people not just go the web. There are alot of strange people out there and when its online you dont know if the people are lying or not.
You dont have to go to a bar to meet someone. There are other ways such as book clubs, or if you are apart of a church group or something. The best way to find someone is at a place that you like to go anyways. If you meet someone at a bar they might just be looking for a one night thing where as if you were to find someone at a library you might have yourself a relationship.
Best luck to you!