Women and Material Things
By barkeybark
@barkeybark (176)
Norway
May 2, 2010 6:53am CST
I have a gf that is obsessed with material things such as clothing brands, bags, shoes etc. She saw a ring the other day from Louis Vuitton, and i she desperately wants it... We searched in quite a lot of stores in different countries and i called several countries and of course used money on that. I was trying to be a supportive bf but started getting annoyed because i had to help her find it and the only one available was in the US which is far from Norway we're we live. I got fed up looking for it, and i felt that she got a bit too desperate. I also noticed that most women are like that and i really don't understand it. We even started an argument about it although i tried my best to help her... Are all women so attached to their material things? I know there are probably girls out there not to fond of jewellery or bags or brands for that matter. What i don't understand is the obsession, i mean its just a material thing right?? especially nothing worth aruging over... Oh and she just saw it the other day, nothing planned, and its not a too expensive ring etc. It looks nice but things like that come and go don't they? hope anyone can help me understand this obsession women have. Have any of you who have girlfriends experienced this before?
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12 responses
@hati3kuro (269)
• Malaysia
3 May 10
Well I cant say that Im not materialistic, but to find someone who really looks into your heart and soul (like in the movies) is whether hard or will take a long time.
For me the formula of getting someone as idealistic is to be one yourself.
Sorry for not helping with the obsession-treatment question, but I think the cure should come from inside.
@hati3kuro (269)
• Malaysia
3 May 10
Well I cant say that Im not materialistic, but to find someone who really looks into your heart and soul (like in the movies) is whether hard or will take a long time.
For me the formula of getting someone as idealistic is to be one yourself.
Sorry for not helping with the obsession-treatment question, but I think the cure sould be from inside.
@jinjer168 (1596)
• Philippines
3 May 10
Hi there barkeybark! Do you really love your gf that much? or should i say, can you handle her trait of loving pricey material things when you get married already? Think about this for so many times before deciding whether you could live with her for the rest of your life because this was a hard thing to bear.
Not all the girls was like your gf that was too attached to material things. Me, for example was very simple, i just love to be with my family and my husband do trusts me with our finances solely because he just knew that i could handle our money well. I wanted to make him feel that i really value his hard earned money even if does wanted me to buy whatever i wanted that fits our spending capacity.
Right now, we are in the process of finishing our new home. That's the product of my simple strategy on how i could help him in realizing our dream house instead of putting the money in just bags or designer clothes etc.
Some women really have this tendencies of spending a lot, i really don't understand why so just talk about this with your girl friend and tell her what inside your heart. Good luck and take care!
@Idealisticgirl (392)
• Philippines
3 May 10
I am not a material girl and that's the thing I can be proud of. I can live without those things..
@workoutfreak (377)
• Indonesia
2 May 10
hi there...not all women or girls like that. yup, i admit that there are a lot of girls like that. there is no point to have a girlfriend who are only attracted to material things like you said. i hate those kind of girls like that. yes, i had experience, i got money and wasted in no time because this "material girl" asked me to buy several things like jewelry, kinda girl stuff, etc. so, i realize that this kind of girl just wasting my time and money.
@evepin (721)
• Philippines
2 May 10
yes, i am a bit guilty about salivating over things, mainly bags and watches (not really a jewelry person). however, it does not rule my world. if i can have those with much ease, then why not. but i dont push things too far. if i can't afford it, then i wont buy it. it does not stop me from wishing and looking at things though.
what i can say about my "love" for bags and other stuff is that my standards are quite high, but i do not horde. example, i buy designer bags, but i only buy once a year. i don't buy cheaper bags. so right now i only have around 6 bags but they have been with me for years and i think for more years to come. same with other things like a watch. i may not have a lot of watches but i have a quality one.
i guess mine has to do with quality rather than an obsession to get the "IT" items.
@minasar (30)
• Philippines
2 May 10
Barkeybark, i'm also a woman but i don't indulge in those material things that are so expensive and later you junk them because they are no longer in fashion. Not all women are materialistic. Some are wise others are fashion conscious. We have to be practical nowadays.
@nehmer (607)
• Philippines
2 May 10
man i advice you if possible stay away from this kinds of girls there are tons of girls out there that deserves your love. i have a friend like you who gives everything to her gf too like you. we give him all the advice to stay away from that girl and that she is a witch inside... etc... etc.. but she would not listen to us instead she pursued her feelings. to make the story short he was a boy toy in the end. they broke up and my friend is very upset of what happen.. its up to you man if you can handle it.. its only my advice the choice is yours.. hehe.. you can also tell her that your not that rich to give her anything that she wants =)
@leinrix (490)
• Philippines
2 May 10
not all girls were like your gf girls like that only want your money not your love maybe she is obsessed with such things because she knew you will support her all the way and she must accept t he fact that not all the things she want in life will be hers and that maybe there is something better for her and your right that things come and go
@kedralynn (980)
• United States
2 May 10
I never got into that kind of thing. My female friend laughed at me the first time she showed me a Louis Vuitton purse. I guess I was supposed to be able to recognize it by looking at it and I didn't. I personally don't see the point in spending tons of money on purses. I like cute purses, but I don't want to spent more than 20 bucks on one. I think that's just how I was raised tho. My mom always told us kids to buy practical things growing up. I like new clothes. I like cute things. I like shopping. But I don't really care about name brands and I don't obsess over it too much. I do find it weird tho how happy one new shirt can make me. That must be a girl thing.
