My Father was Jailed and I love Him Despite Everything
By borgiefame
@borgiefame (166)
Philippines
May 3, 2010 6:59am CST
Yes, you read it right, my father was jailed when I was 11 years old. He was jailed in 1999 and freed two years after.
He is not an ex-convict because he was never convicted. Why do am I sharing this? Because I'm so proud of him. That after that fate, he is now a 'new man'. He is more responsible and really cares for his family. My tears are flowing as write this, literally. Another reason why I am proud of him is his being been in the jail never hindered him to look for a living for his family. He endured the judgmental eyes and criticisms of soooo many freakin people to prove to us, to the people who stayed with him during his fate inside the jail, and to those who unfairly judged him that he is now a 'new man.' I love my father so much.
Anyone can react to this discussion. For now, I can't throw a question to stir discussion.
Good evening everyone. Love your dad.
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10 responses
@mysticmaggie (2498)
• United States
4 May 10
When you did wrong as a child, did your parents hate the act or you? I'm betting it would be the act, but no matter what, they would continue loving you. So, why would it be a surprise that you love your dad whether he spent time in jail or not? I think it's wonderful that he cares enough about his family to turn over a new leaf.
By all means love him and give him all the moral support you can. He served his time; let him be truly free in your eyes and the rest of the world can go jump. It's none of their business.
@borgiefame (166)
• Philippines
4 May 10
wow! your response is impressive. it touched me. thank you mysticmaggie. :)
@vinne22 (5)
• Philippines
4 May 10
You really love your father that so much. It's amazing how understanding you've been. That's what he needs after what had happened. A family that he can depend on in rough times. A family who will be their ready to support him and welcome him. You're such a good son you know. Your father will be proud of you. =)
@borgiefame (166)
• Philippines
4 May 10
To tell you honestly, I got angry to my father and hate so much when he was jailed following the horrible killing he has done. But through the years, I have seen how he improved SO MUCH and because of that I have learned to forgive him and love again.
Thank you for the kind words.
@Saranggola (956)
• Philippines
4 May 10
As everyone know, nobody's perfect. We have committed mistakes in every ways and there's no little nor big crime which makes us equally imprefect with one another.
@kedralynn (980)
• United States
3 May 10
It's good he didn't let it ruin his life and that he's facing it head on. That he's a new man. It's also good you let him know you are proud of him and support him. I wish my father was a better father. Good luck to you and your dad. Have a good day :)
@borgiefame (166)
• Philippines
4 May 10
Thank you kedralynn. We, in some point of ourselves have or would face some unwanted events, we may stumble, but God is good, he always give us new chances for everything and to make things better.
@borgiefame (166)
• Philippines
4 May 10
thank you mejofin. actually, i've kept this stuff from anybody whom i don't know personally. i have told this to just four people (my five friends and my girlfriend) and now the i think the whole world knows it. somehow, my father is a role model for people who have been unwanted. there is always tomorrow, and there is always new chance/s, new life.
@kenites (337)
• Philippines
4 May 10
Hi friend, I appreciate your unconditionial love you give to your father.
My father and I has a certain gap in our relation, he used to beat me hard in my younger days and he has a difficulty in communicating with us (siblings). I'm certain that our father loves as very much and he really works hard, he is a rags-to-riches story, and we are very proud of him. Now that I'm mature enough I can understand why he did that thing. And now I'm a father myself, I tried to avoid the mistakes of my father which I think is the lack of communication with his children. I always talk to my children, I'm with them if I can find time and I always tried to bring them to my workplace if it's not busy just to show them that sometimes I cannot be with them always because I'm working for them. I'm very close to my children and I can really feel that they're really returning the love I showed to them and they are very vocal about it. I'm proud of my kids :)
@borgiefame (166)
• Philippines
4 May 10
Wow. Your story and the little story about your father is amazing and inspiring. There are some things that are fathers used to do to us when we were younger, like beating, and I believe there is a wisdom behind those act. As of now, I haven't understand why my father has to beat me when I was younger, coz I don't yet have children.
And it is good also that you are not doing that in your children. Don't let them hate you. You are a loving father, I'm sure. God bless you and your family.
Thank you so much for dropping by and sharing your stories.
@rsa101 (38148)
• Philippines
3 May 10
I admire you for being like that for you're father. I think of all the person that we must love and respect are our fathers. They are part of who we are and if they committed mistakes in the past who are we to put them down if he truly is making effort to stand by his family and provide for it despite the fact that he was jailed. Keep doing that and you will blessed for just being a loving son that you are.
@besthope44 (12123)
• India
26 May 10
Well happy to hear that your dad has become a new man. Surely he is gonna love you and the family more and will be a greatest dad!
@borgiefame (166)
• Philippines
3 May 10
yes, and by that, he will be forever caring to you. let us be thankful that we existed because they are part of our lives.
@ericpapasit (1274)
• Philippines
3 May 10
Yap.... my father in my young age was so mean to me, he used to beat and even punched me but.... father is father.... I had forgave him for all and I love to see him whatever happens.... Cheers to that borgie...
@borgiefame (166)
• Philippines
3 May 10
Your post/reply reminded me of my younger days. Same as yours, my father used to beat me and my sister next to me. He would ask as to lie face down, and there, he would beat. But I acknowledge the wisdom why he had to do that, he wants us to be disciplined. At some point, he's right of doing that. We grew up disciplined.
