Anyone have to be separated from their child because of work/study

Canada
May 3, 2010 2:29pm CST
I'm a single mother who studies in Ireland while my family and daughter lives in Canada. I know this is an extreme example of being separated from their child but, there we go. It's really difficult sometimes and luckily I'm nearing the completion of my studies or it would be almost unbearable. My question is how has your studies or work affected the time you get to spend with your child? And how do you cope with this separation?
3 responses
Yasmin
@jasmeena (846)
• Indonesia
8 May 10
My mom had that experience, but only for 3 months. It was a month after I was born, then my dad was sent to join a course on development sponsored by World Bank in Montreal, Canada. My mom had to take care my eldest sister who was still 4 years old at that time and me, a newborn at that time. Well, it was pretty hard as there was no computer and email technology as what we have now ( my dad went to Canada in 1977, I was born on Christmas 1976). My dad sent postcard, or called my mom on the phone. and luckily, there was a nanny and our grandparents ( from my mom`s side) to help my mom take care of two little daughters.
scottliu
@scottliu (21)
• China
4 May 10
So, firstly i am very sorry to hear about your story! Also, I don't have baby now! But i can frgure out the situation that far awary with the cut baby. I think it will be very hard!
cheatedaphrodite
@cheatedaphrodite (810)
• Philippines
3 May 10
Being separated from your angel is a very very difficult situation. Though you wanted very badly to be with them, there are times that you also need to be separated for future's sake. Because you chose to stay far from your child just to finish your study shows how open minded you are. It shows that you want to prepare for your child's future and that is a very rewarding move. Children of today are very intelligent, and talking to them or explaining to them the reason why you need to stay away is a good thing for you to do. tell your parents to help you discuss your situation to your daughter even if she's still young so that she won't even think that you do not care for her. Tell her that you need to do this because you love her more than anything in the world. A little explaining and reasoning will make a child think that no matter how distant you are, she will have something to hold on to, not just a promise but an assurance that someday she will be holding your hand forever. A little sacrifice will end up with great miracles, just believe in it. I salute you for being strong woman. Be the BEST MOM! Good luck!