Do you appreciate your single status?
By myy0220
@myy0220 (60)
China
May 3, 2010 10:28pm CST
I think there are some things that only singles can take for granted. The first is sleep. When you're single, no one's nagging at you to get up or counting the hours that you've spent in bed. You are left in peace with you box fan and body pillow. Sleep all day guilt-free! The second is money. When you are single, there are no joint account. You can do whatever you want with your money. There's none of that "what's yours is mine, what's mine is yours" foollishness. No household budget. Go ahead and buy that hideous, life-size statue of Wayne Newton. Put it in the middle of the living room. No one is the boss of you! And what's more, you can do whatever you want to amuse yourself. Host a poker tournament complete, see how much laundry you can fit into washer, creat a new dish out of the few things you have left in the cupboard and eat it up in the middle of the night...... The possibilities are endless.
19 responses
@kedralynn (980)
• United States
4 May 10
Hehe I don't know what kind of people you've dated but my partner and I do all those things together. We sleep all day, we have separate accounts, we buy silly things if we feel like it, eat random things at night, and do laundry together, hang out with friends while the other one goes out with their own friends, and we never boss each other around. Maybe we're just a strange couple... We do budget money tho but my partner was doing that before he met me anyway because he wants a house someday...
The only thing I liked about being single before was being able to go out and party and flirt and go on dates. And now that I have someone I love I don't care to do those things so I don't mind.
@kedralynn (980)
• United States
4 May 10
That's true. And there's wrong with being happy single either. I'm glad you enjoy it as too many of my friends keep dating the wrong people just because they don't want to be single. They end up in a lot of pain. So I say good for you enjoying the single life :)
@catalyser (531)
• Malaysia
4 May 10
I totally agree with you, the money part is pretty important since I'm a student. Some girls who are student themselves tend to expect men to give them gifts eventhough we are short of cash ourselves. So that will leave the men trying harder to please their partners.
But this isn't always true though, I realized that when I am in a relationship, I tend to try harder because I have somebody to inspire to do so. There is always somebody there to support you and be a purpose for whatever you are doing. When we lok at the bright side of things, there are a lot of good reasons why relationships are good for a person.
I'm just saying that there are always two side of the same coin. There is good and bad things, sometimes, being in a relationship is better than not being in one
@Catkin (480)
• United States
4 May 10
There definitely are two sides, though I think oftentimes the degree to which you appreciate one or the other depends on the relationships you've had, as well as how recently they've occurred. I was in a nearly 4-year long relationship up until about 4 months ago, and immediately afterward, being single felt absolutely awful. Sleeping alone was terrible, having no one to come home to or go pick up, or just go out with was a very bad feeling. But then, within a week or two, I began to enjoy again the things that are so great about single life. Being responsible for only myself and not having to worry about someone else's schedule was so refreshing! The delight I took in rediscovering all the pleasures of being single has now worn away a little, but I'm still quite content. I'm at a point right now where I can see being in a relationship again sometime soon, if the right person comes along, but will also be happy to remain partner-less if that person doesn't.
Money was definitely a big thing, it's much easier for me to save when I'm the only one doing the spending! But I did notice the effect of halved income, with one less person in the equation...still, I'd have to say that right now, the pros of single life are outweighing the cons. :)
@catalyser (531)
• Malaysia
4 May 10
I was in the same boat as you, after the breakup, it was just awful. I felt as if I had nothing to look forward to the next day. But thanks to my friends, they reminded me how nice it was having a single life all over again. My relationship lasted half as long as yours did, about 2 years but it took quite some time for me to get adjusted. Now, having a partner or not, I'm quite content with my life
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@miranda521 (427)
• China
5 May 10
Most people being single doing things just like what you said.No nagging,no counting,and NO BOSS.But for me,it's not always being in this status.I must afford myself,so I must go to work and earn enough money to afford my life.That really bothers me so much. And in my working time,I must get up early and have my breakfirst quikly and run to my office,OMG!And the happy times also exist everywhere.You can enjoy all the happiness.
@evepin (721)
• Philippines
4 May 10
now that i'm married, sometimes i do think about my old single self and i do get to appreciate those times when i dont have to worry about anything but myself. but then again, with my current married set-up (husband away most of the time) and he gives me the freedom to do what i want and get what i want (he claims i know the budget more), its as if i'm still living the single life. i do have a daughter to think about (and i think of her more often!) and instead of getting stuff for me, i enjoy getting stuff for her and for my husband more than getting stuff for me! weird, but true.
@Catkin (480)
• United States
5 May 10
It's really nice when you can get a lot of satisfaction out of doing something for others. Similarly, I love making gifts for people, knowing they'll be appreciated; or if I find some little thing that I know a friend would love to have, I'll get it for them. It's great to be able to get something like that out of giving and making someone else happy. :)
@chiyosan (30183)
• Philippines
4 May 10
i do. i am single because i am not married yet. but i am not single as to no partner. I am currently attached and is planning to get married too. We are currently on our 1.5 years of relationship and i think we are for each other.
I love being single (not married) now because i have less responsibilities, i can go to whereever i want to go without having to worry about my kids, perhaps or others because i need to only mind for me and my family to which my brothers are also there to be with my mom.
We all got to enjoy our current statuses and make the most out if it, enjoy childhood, teenage days, singlehood, enjoy married life, and even old age must be enjoyed! each stage has its own uniqueness...
@bonsai9199 (87)
• Philippines
4 May 10
I like my status being single. I can do things at my own time and liking...but of course I can't live like this forever. My family is pressuring me to settle down soon as I am now at the right age. I too don't want to be too old to start a family. I want to enjoy it as much as I am enjoying being single...maybe I will just have to take it as a new life challenge, a new life adventure, a new life phase.
@bestylish (922)
• Philippines
4 May 10
I agree with you. Being single is great. Being in a relationship can be a bit tiring since you have to inform your partner about certain things. I like the way I am right now. Being single is my thing right now since I am still studying. I can't let any distractions get in my way. LOL! 
I promised my parents I will have good grades now that I am going to college this May 31. So being single and not getting into relationships is better for me. 
I promised my parents I will have good grades now that I am going to college this May 31. So being single and not getting into relationships is better for me. @Petranka74 (77)
• Bulgaria
4 May 10
Yes. It's definitely different when you're single. I don't actually take it for granted to be single forever.
Good day all!
@gaylevillariza (48)
• Philippines
5 May 10
Yes! being single doesn't mean that there's no one in the world is out there for you. it's just simply a choice for anyone who are singles out there that they don't want to have a commitment with somebody else..being a single status means you are all for you.. you can decide on your own, plan on your own as well as enjoy all things you want to do with no one who's there to stop you right? what you wrote in your discussion are all right... ;)
@advokatku (4033)
• Indonesia
4 May 10
yes, being single is good but not have the challenges of life and the life of a single person may not be appreciated by others. In my religion, Islam, being single was easily tempted and many accept the temptations of the devil
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
4 May 10
Yes. It's definitely different when you're single. But nothing beats having someone to wake up with every morning and someone to hold to at night. And knowing that she loves me in the morning and that she'll continue to love me forever.. Nothing beats that.
@firdauzi (283)
• Indonesia
4 May 10
i am a single person, but i want to end my singularity. I see many pretty women there, and i want to have one girl who is matching with me. I don't have any reason to be a single guy all the time but on the contrary i still have a dream to be reached. It is about money business. But i cannot forced my mind to think about business and just business. Deep inside myself, i want a girl who can accompanied my in my life, together we fulfill our dream. That's my hope.
@adeena2000 (845)
• Philippines
4 May 10
I really appreciate being single but it doesn't mean I'm already free from all responsibilities and obligations like married people do. Like right now I'm doing like a nanny to my niece and nephew. I just can't stay here without noticing them of being naughty and unbehave. I am distracted though...There are a lot of things to do. But of course, I will not remain single, I need to move on to other level of my status.
