how can a girl know that the guy she loves is inlove with her too?
By rhodalyn
@rhodalyn (251)
Philippines
May 3, 2010 11:47pm CST
Hello guyz!!
For me, guys are unpredictable..It is hard for a girl like me to know what they think and feel.That's the reason why some girls assumes the wrong thing which is always the reason why we cry..
So for the guys out there or even a girl having an idea on how to answer my question, how will you know that the guy you loves is inlove with you too?
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16 responses
@hyren2012 (14)
• China
4 May 10
i know my boyfriend doesnot love me but i still choose to stay with him.because everytime we go out ,he never offer to hold my hands and take care of me .many times i just followed him and he didnot stop to wait for me .many details hurted me and made me sad.i am ver sure he even donot like me but why he doesnot let me go.i want to leave .
@hyren2012 (14)
• China
5 May 10
hm i know he is not showy.but if he loves me deeply,i am sure i can feel it.actually i feel nothing.i talked to him ,about my feeling,why he should treat me like that,he said he didnot know,that was what he is,and he asked back to me then what he should do.
@nehmer (607)
• Philippines
4 May 10
hi rhodalyn it easy to spot a guy that is inlove with a girl. first they find a way to get close to the girl for example sitting next to her or finding a way to talk to her. second that guy will research the girl she like. either on friendster or facebook to know more about her and lastly they would find a way to date that girl by not telling her that it is an actual date.. u know wat i mean.. hehe.. hope this helps.
@Ingkingderders (3832)
• Philippines
4 May 10
I don't like assuming, cause it really destroys what friendship you have in the first place. For me, it's still better to tell it as it is, and just tell each other how they feel whether they like each other or not. It's the best way to go, and that way, you are sure about what the others are feeling, and you are just not assuming, and reading all the signs.
@getbiswa2000 (5544)
• India
4 May 10
I couldn't agree more. Unfounded assumption brings expectations which in turn always ruins relationships.
@PriestessLong (115)
• United States
4 May 10
Ask him.
the best way to know how someone is feeling ask them. communication is the key to any relationship
@mokkka (881)
• Bulgaria
4 May 10
And he will either say the truth if he really loves you or lie to you as no man who is with you will tell you straight in your eyes he doesn't love you.Conversations are not enough.What is more important is to trust each other,make compromises and put yourself at the other's place.Then you may have the chance to understand what he feels.
@jamed28 (1903)
• Philippines
16 May 10
I am a guy and I don't know if you would believe me. For me if you can see a guy doing things for you in a small things. I know it's more expressive if you show the girl that you love her in big things. For me it's showy, If a guy can show you his love in the smallest possible thing, that means he really loves you. Like texting you before sleep, when you wake up, bringing you home from the school or office, small notes, simply saying take care. Those are the small things.
@Facevalue (65)
• Ghana
24 May 10
How you can know this can be simple. You can tell if he is really in love with you or not by several means. Amongst which include the way he talks with you, the way he answers your question and even from his eyes. His body language and just totally everything about him. If someone is in love with you I think nature has it's unique way of letting you know
@maean_19 (4655)
• Philippines
4 May 10
It is a tough question because you are definitely right that guys are really unpredictable. You can't really say if they are real or true with what they say to you or just pretending. I have encountered guys who are pretending and likewise seen true ones.
However, here's one thing i can say, there are also true ones that can make you cry. In other words, even if a guy is in love with you, there is no guarantee that he will not hurt you or give you pain or make you cry. Besides, guys who love you are the guys whom you can feel hurt the most.
You can tell a guy is in love with you by his actions. Action speaks louder than words as they say. If a guy talks to much about his feelings for you, but never show it is suspicious.
Furthermore, a guy who is in love with you accepts your flaws, not only your strengths. He can see you straight into the eye and cries with you when he sees you crying. A guy who is in love with you can stay with you even you do nothing.
A pretending guy is skin deep. If he is not true, you can sense it.
@Genericbe (1376)
• Philippines
4 May 10
A girl can only know if the person she love has the same feeling with her when that guy had presently showed his true feelings. This is a clarification and an awareness that both of them are in same tract of feelings and stages undergoing for that matter before a deep or serious relationship may occur.
Girls are much more sensitive than Boys when it comes to feelings. Other girls do instantly assume that a guy may be in loved with him but in the end, there was a misconception of some acts done or misunderstanding. I guess it is also hard for a guy to directly tell a girl if she had misinterpreted such acts because guys sometimes feel that they can offend the girl in some way not intended too.
Good and honest communication is still the best whenever matters in serious happenings do occur. This may prevent unwanted instances or misinterpretations of some acts.
Happy mylotting
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@getbiswa2000 (5544)
• India
4 May 10
Hi,
Someone has to cry not because he/she loves somebody, but because he/she loves the wrong person. I am assuming that a girl loves the right person and wants to know whether the love is reciprocal. The best way to judge is by his body language. Count how frequently he looks at you. If it is more than normal he has got special attention on you. Try to identify his way of talking to you and other girls. Do you see any difference? If he is interested in talking to you and prefers to talk to you alone, it means he is advancing. Try to observe if being with you makes him self conscious, that is, whether he fixes his hair, or costume while talking to her. Also try to identify his attitude. Is he protective about you? Is he being little bit possessive? If he is behaving similarly with the other girls, that is surely not an optimistic note. If he is stealing away glance from you it is not a positive sign. Generally he will stare right at your face as long as your conversation goes on, but if he is a shy guy, he will lower his head every now and then. But frequency is more important here. There are yet so many things that you will learn by exploring. The more you explore the more confident and accurate you will be in your prediction. Thanks
God bless you
@phoenix8606 (4942)
•
4 May 10
well, i guess that the easiest way is to ask him, and then she will definitely know it :) otherwise, she can have a look for some special signs :)
@shynepapin101 (1879)
• United Arab Emirates
4 May 10
I know that affections are difficult to hide and disguised. So watching out for those sign which are significant in showing affection, support, understanding, care and time, will means he really cares. So start watching out for those signs, he doesn't have to say he loves you.
@sweechi (157)
• Philippines
4 May 10
Sometimes, girls may assume the wrong thing. But girls do have a good feelings if the person is in love withhim. Sometimes, you will feel that the way he acts towards you. Even if the play boy type, there's a difference between someone he likes or simply flirting around. It is also in the matter of trust. Trust to your gut and to that person. But dont always assume immediately, you'll really be in pain.
@elleb0418 (1107)
• Philippines
4 May 10
One of the love expert said,Never trust words of love whispered at the beach,under the moon, or any romantic and beautiful place or ideal moment,it's all a lie.
But when this situation happened,Your travelling then suddenly the tires explode,the sun is very hot,both of you had already headache,you start to quarrel,you get angry with him,then suddenly he said i love you.That time you believe in what he said to you.
In short you will know true love works with someone if they still love the other person,even at the worst time of their lives.:D
@starmoon2815 (176)
• India
4 May 10
Well i am not experienced yet , But what do feel is that if guy has feeling for you then he go out of his way, to talk to you, help you out more,, he may also show feeling of caring towards you.He want to see you happy so if you sad then he try out best and do things that make you happy.Well such thing also good friend will do, but it will differnt one.There are some guys who would have feeling for you but are releculant to come up, so they would try to know more about you through thier and your friends, and slowly try to make friendship with you.
I f you want to know if guy u like too having feeling for you, you can just test them by avoioding them for day and see hows thier behaviour.I f he feeling upset about this then you make out.
@redhotpogo (4401)
• United States
4 May 10
They talk to you alot (not girly stuff, those are gay guys). Guys don't really talk alot to girls, not even really to other guys. "Yo dude what's up?" "nothing" "later" So if a guy is really talking to you about certain topics, he's showing he's interested in you. If he's trying to spend alot of time with you then that's a sign. If the guy is not talking to you (other than hi), not really trying to be around you, he's not interested in you like that. Most girls ruin this though, and say "oh you're like a really good friend" Bad! Guys don't want to be your girlfriend.
@amelly (1554)
• Malaysia
4 May 10
you know.i've been in a realtionship with my boyfriend for 6 years and at first we didn't know that we like each other.i mean i like him but i afraid he would not like me..but soon he is the one who confess that he like me.i'm thrilled and then i knew why he likes to talk with me and even walk with me to go to the library and recess.they show it by their actions by sometimes girls did mis interpret it..poor those girls
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