A question about true love.
By redhotpogo
@redhotpogo (4401)
United States
4 responses
@melloncollie (661)
• Philippines
5 May 10
This is one interesting question. I always ask myself this question whenever I get in a relationship. Whenever I feel that I am not doing the other person any good, then I can say that it has got to stop. I would rather live a life of momentary sadness than to bear the guilt all my life that I have done nothing good to the other person. But of course, it has to be two-person decision. Not just one. Not just mine. Or else I would be sounding rather selfish even if my purpose was for her good.
@redhotpogo (4401)
• United States
5 May 10
so you won't know if enough is enough, until you talk to your other half. Well that's a good way to do things. If you do love someone you will always include them in your decisions.
@melloncollie (661)
• Philippines
6 May 10
Yeah.. I guess you're right. I still wouldn't know when enough is enough. One tough question. Like asking ourselves, "How do we know if we are already giving too much not to leave ourselves some pride?" Phew! You got me thinking there buddy! 
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
4 May 10
Love is not the only factor in a relationship. There are a lot of couples who started out loving each other intensely only to realize in the end that they are just not meant for each other due to other factors.
There should be respect, faithfulness, the matter of finances, social responsibility among others.
You have to assess first why are you thinking 'enough is enough' in the first place? The mere fact that you're opening this topic shows that there are 'issues' you see in the relationship enough to call it quits.
Assess yourself and your relationship honestly. You could even ask for an honest opinion from a person who could see the two of you from afar. Sometimes, we can't help but be blinded while others have already seen that you two are just not right for each other.
Don't hold on if you truly feel that there's no point in staying together. But of course, before calling it quits, try to make sure you've done your part and not just demanding the other to do his part.
It's tough really. But you have to go through it.
@redhotpogo (4401)
• United States
4 May 10
you would end a relationship if the person didn't have enough money?
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@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
6 May 10
Prior to deciding, I would have to ask some more questions:
1. Has he/she been this way a long time? (no money issue)
2. Do you think he/she will stay in poverty a long while? (or forever)
3. What qualities could I see that lead me to my answer in #2?
You see, there is a difference between poverty due to laziness and poverty due to lack of opportunities. The former means that he has no abilities nor motivation to find ways to end his poverty while the latter is about having the capability and will to do better but opportunities for him to do so is tough.
If a person is lazy, you cannot do anything, neither will he ever do something about his situation. In contrast, if he's not really lazy but just out of luck, then perhaps changes could be seen in the future or if opportunity comes.
A person who is lazy cannot be helped. The person who is determined could be helped.
So, if the person you're referring to is someone who's lazy, then don't waste your time on the person, he will not do anything. But if he's just out of luck these days, then it's not a good idea to leave him. How would you feel if you lost everything, you're tough on luck and then that somebody who you felt would never turn away from you left? karma is bad.
Try to see which is which. Then decide.
@pentagan12 (757)
• Philippines
5 May 10
True love always finds its way to fulfill their destiny. If two people are really meant to be, there is no such thing as enough. Love is always accompanied by pain and problems. Without these, true love defeats its purpose of existence. The problems and heartaches that couples will experience are just part of their challenges in order to make their love grow stronger. There are times in which we think that we could no longer work things out. But we just have to remember that if we truly love someone, we have to give everything we could just to save the relationship and love, and in order to work things out. It's difficult but no impossible. Always believe in the power of true love.
@redhotpogo (4401)
• United States
5 May 10
very true. If they really love each other, then they will never ever give up. enough is never enough.
