I'm being selfish.

U do not have to apologize for your opinion. Do i expect them to pamper me, no , but it would be nice. I pampered them all their lives, always heard time about is fair play. I really don't know why my oldest son quit speaking to me, we had no words about anything. My youngest got mad at me when i wanted to take my grandson to a easter egg hunt & when he said no , i got my feelings hurt. Wasn't the first time i wasn't allowed to take him somewhere. I raised both the boys by myself & think they owe me some respect if nothing else. Have a nice day.

Laglen, I have to defend Antique here. There is really more to her story. I'm pretty sure that if her sons treated her with more respect throughout the year that it would not matter if they chose to spend mothers day with their wives.

Sid - thats why I asked. There always is. Antiquelady - I am very sorry that this is your situation this year. Like I said, you did your best, now atleast pamper yourself.

I guess I didn't make it clear about my granddaughters. The oldest one 16 asked about going, she is my oldest daughters girl, they live across the road from me. The youngest one that has the birthday,is my stepsons daughter, her mother isn't in the picture, we are all getting together and purchasing and putting up a swingset for her for her birthday, I just don't know when we are doing anything. My daughters would go to the banquet if I tell them I want to go. I love giving out the baskets and doing things for the people in our church. I do it through the kids and they just love doing it. They are so excited about it. They are making baskets for their mothers too. I don't know Jo if I am so strong as you say or just 'dumb stubborn blonde'!!!! Jo your son's & wifes sound just like my brother and his wife. My brother was 25 years older then me! My mother was always the last thought or excess baggage for them. She was accepting in how they treated her but I wasNOT so forgiving. She could make excuses for it..I couldn't. He told me once that caring for ma was my job that him and his wife had made their minds up on that a long time ago! He has passed on now too, and his wife I see once in awhile but no love lost there I spend more time being polite because I think I should, not that she deserves it. As for my husband, God has blessed me with the ability to "forgive and forget" It is never mentioned. I know that it is only God that could do that for me. I still remember and have to admit that I am not to trusting. It took a lot of prayer but the whole incident has changed both of us. I don't hold anything in now, if I get mad I am mad and he knows it!!! If I want to do something we do it, he doesn't give me the 'more important' excuses. Other then going to church Sunday I really don't know what we are doing. Noone has said anything and i haven't asked. I told all my kids that this year I want my swing set that I bought a couple years ago put up. I bought it but we have never gotten around to putting it up. It is one of hte large wooden ones with the tunnel slide on it. They always ask me what I want for mothers day, birthday, christmas and I tell them my car washed but they tell me it is to big and they would rather buy me something. I really would rather have my car washed...maybe the swing set will be to big this year and I'll get my car washed!!!!

Christmas, you are so thoughtful and giving. I am glad you are helping make some people happier this year. You could always take your granddaughters to the dinner even if your daughter does not go. I am trying to make a point to get more involved in Women's Ministry now, never have been over the years.

bLESS YOUR HEART, u ARE SUCH A KIND & GIVING PERSON. iCAN TELL u are a very strong lady & i admire so so much. I'm sorry u don't enjoy mother's day anymore. I bet if your mother was the kind of lady u are she would want u to enjoy it. 2002 had to be a nightmare for u. Again i admire u for overcoming your husban's problem, u are a better lady that i am. I could not have been that forgiving. Thanks so much for your response & your sharing.Hope u have a good day sunday. hugs. jo

There will only be me and daughter here as her hubby has gone to another town for 10 for his work!

sometimes it's nice to have just some time with your child. i MISS THAT.

I would prefer that to , Joan. I don't HAVE to be taken out , their wives do tho.I hope u have a good mother's day. Thanks for responding.

just remember, my cats don't know Mother's day, they just love me like any other day And that's why cats (and dogs) are better than children!

Thanks Elic, for your kind response. I would love to join you ladies if it was possible. I know how good u are to your mom & i think that's wonderful. Have a good one. jo

I agree with you 100%, Elic! I never have had any children, myself, and I consider my animals my kids, lol! If you really think about it, they are like children in so many ways!

Antique, did it ever occur to you that maybe your sons are failing as sons and maybe this is NOT your fault. I have heard a good part of your story and I really think your sons are expecting way too much from you as a person. You probably have always done way too much for them and they have come to expect that you as their mom owes them. You provide shelter for your son's dog and he treats you poorly. That is wrong. A shelter anywhere else would be costing him big money. I think that you need to stand up to him and protect your own heart. If he really feels as he does then he needs to find another home for the dog because his silent treatment and complete disregard for your feelings hurt you over and over. I have a daughter as I've told you that has been given to being mouthy and disrespectful. I just don't tolerate it. One time she called me and started yelling at me for something I did not do right in her mind. I'm not above messing up but I try and I don't deserve to be yelled at. I told her I had not even had a coffee and I did not need this first thing in the morning. She continued and I hung up on her telling her to call me when she could talk decent. Well I was in line getting my coffee when someone hugged me from behind. it was her. I'm telling you Antique, stand up to that boy. He'll come around.

Thanks sid, for your understanding. U make me feel much better. I'm so glad your daughter realized she had been ugly to u & made up for it so quick. That shows u have done a good job of mothering. I just don't understand my sons acting the way they have. It is very hurtful. They bith need a boot up their buttes.U have a great wed. jo

I hope y'all have a wonderful day together, Sid. Being together is what it's all about. Congraulations to u & your daughter & to your other daughter for being a good mom. I have always thought i was a good mom to but undoubtedly i failed somewhere for my sons to both not be speaking to me. I never ever thought it would be like it is. Thanks so much for your kindness, it's greatly appreciated. Thanks for responding.

Thanks for your kind response. My mother is deceased as is most of my immediate family. They are my only two children. I'm not expecting anything from them sunday & that makes me very sad. I like your idea of a substitute. thanks. Have a great tues.

U are right, GG, IT is what it is but that n't make me like the way they are acting. I hope you have a great mother's day & hear from your daughter & get a big ol' hug from your son. Thanks for your response.

Nothing other than your sons giving you a big hug and letting you know how much they love you will help you, Antique. I know that because that's how I'd feel and how I do feel when my kids and I are on the outs. Maybe you should send your son a "thinking of you" card. Whatever you do ...don't apologize because you have nothing to apologize for. You could say that you miss him and being mothers day, you are remembering his birth . Maybe suggest you set up a time to talk. I'm really surprised the wives are not pushing them to include you in mothers day. When I was married if my husband was ever disrespectful towards his mother and he was, I pushed him to make amends with her.

Thanks for your concern, sid. Hope u have a great mother's day.

Good morning Barb, thanks for your response. I have never liked to go out & eat by myself. do u? I don't evcen care whether i get to go out & eat sunday, it's not that. I would just like to be shown some love & respect. Have a great tues. jo

Thanks for responding, Jill. I hope it turns out to be a happy day to but i'm very afraid it want. I don't mind u asking me anything. I think my youngest owes me an apology for the ugly name he called me. As for my oldest i don't have a clue why he's acting the way he is. A year ago this month he had a birtday & was acting stange then but i went out to his house to wish him a happy day. That is the last time i have laid eyes on him.

Thank you, neil. I really appreciate your greeting. I'm sorry about your mom & mil. Hope u have a great wed.

Your grandmother had the right answer for sure. Thanks for responding, Bon. I hope u have a wonderful mother's day & i'm sure your children will see that u do. I hope for the best sunday but fear the worst. hugs.

ps, wish i could spank your sons as im sure you wish also. oh if only they were little again. as grandma used to say, when they are little they step on your toes, but when they are grown, they step on your heart.

I am sorry to hear of your mother passing. That first year after is the hardest. My thoughts and prayers to you. Do you have children? God bless you!

What a sweet response, thank u very much. I am sorry u lost your mom. I know it's been hard on u, i can tell from your response. my sons are not on mylot. I wish they were so they could read what u wrote.Good wishes to u. Thanks for responding. Take care of yourself.

Thank you, Wolveren, u are very kind. I would take up on that invitation if i could. It would be a wonderful day to get things straightened out but i don't see it happening. Mother's day is this sunday, the 9th. Thanks again, your mom is lucky to have a son like u. hugs.

U are very kind. thanks.

The pleasure is all mine Antiquelady. A tribute to all Mothers! Happy Mother's Day to all you sweet mothers out there! Cheers!

Thanks for your kind words, Lelin. It is a day that should be shared but it hasn't been in a long time. There is an old saying, a daughter's a daughter all her life, a son's a son till he takes a wife. I have never wanted to blame mt dil's for my son's actions but u can't help it when it comes to mother's day. Thanks for responding.

Oh Sweetheart I wish I was closer I would be there and give you a big Hug If you ever want to talk just shout ok

U are a sweetie, Gabs. I appreciate your response soooo much. Would love to spend the day w/u & gissi. I know that would be a fun day. U tell gissi to give u a mother's day hug, u certainly deserve one from that young man. It is a very sad situation for me right noww/my boys. I never in a million years thought it would come to this. Have a great thurs. & thanks again. hugs .

Thanks Gabs, u are a sweetie,

I did thanks . Let me be the first to wish you a Happy Mother's Day. Enjoy your day!

Hi, thanks for your response & kindness. Your suggestion is a good one, thanks, Hope u are having a great day.

Thank you very much. I HOPE U HAVE A HAPPY SUNDAY TO.

Thanks for your sweet respone, shirley.U are a sweetie. Wish u could be here to.I'm really dreading it & i know that's being silly but i can't help it. love ya! jo

Hi dear, Thanks for responding. I don't believe one day a year would kill them or their wives. Hope things are going well w/u.

Yeah, but they don't have to be potty trained, never borrow your car keys, or clothes. You don't have to worry about them coming home pregnant because you can spay them and fix the males so you don't have to worry about them getting the other girls pregnant. You don't have to worry about designer clothes (tho some strange folks do it anyway) and you don't have to save for college... on the other hand, they never really grow up and leave home - as a friend who had 2 that lived to 21 - had said.

Thanks Kathy. I'll just be glad when sunday passes by. Happy days to u.

U make some mighty good points, elic.

Thanks for your kind response. Love your avatar by the way. It's real cute. I appreciate all your advice. I have recently gone back to attending church. I hope that by doing so i will find the peace & faith that u seem to have.U are very fortunate to have such faith. Hope u have a great day.

I would be honored to be your friend. thank u. I just noticed i have a friend's request i haven't looked at.Hope it is u. hugs.

Then be my friend?