Making up with someone

You must keep it out and if not you have all the burden and carry the world of hatred. Communication is the best, blow it out in your system so that half of it will be less. You can communicate her and clarify those words calmly wither its have a positive nor negative result, because sometimes assuming and anger will break, as long as you keep it out, its now easy to forget everything.

I don't understand clearly why you have to make up with her. Why you have to be friends? Don't force yourself to do something. Time always heal your wounds. Maybe she does not deserve your kindness. You can forgive her.But you must be clear with your intentions. Forgiven not Forgotten!

Saying sorry is hard to do when the hurt has penetrated deep inside the heart. What ever it is, life is too short to live with grudges. The best thing is to forgive and forget.

You really have to feel as if this person is worth it or not. Ask yourself questions like.. how close was I with the person before? How do you think they will react is it predictable where they will start talking to you again like an adult or will they react in a negative way and act like a child? When people are angry they don't make decisions that are good for them later on and the feeling of regret kicks in. I was always told not to say things when I'm angry and I've learned why a few times in my life. I was friends with this girl and we worked together and she started playing the seniority role just because she worked there longer than me she felt that she was the boss so she said some bad things to me too and we haven't talked since and that's been over a year ago.. I see her at work all the time in the passing and we still don't talk.. it's awkward and I don't like it. I wished sometimes we could laugh and have good times like before but I have too much pride when it comes to talking to her and I think she is feeling the same way. Hope you have a nice day

-.- you're not the only one... Yeah I do find it pretty damn hard to even make an effort to try to make up with someone when they said some stuff about something that helped shaped me and my life in some way and I took great offence to it causing me to be hurt deep down inside, by barely noticing it... hurting them in the process since I was really pissed off about it. -.- Some people just live on different planets, but within time your expectations about them might change. If you and that person are still together then try to do something to keep your mind off of them for a while and wait till they come around, if it's just a friend or former acquaintance try to talk it out somehow... and if you're not then try your hardest to move on. I'm still with my guy, but I'm taking some time away from them for a while to help me clear my mind. I never really meant to hurt them, but they've hurt me in some way which made me look like a total wreck in the morning... I myself do not know what to think after all that. Hopefully along the week, I'll have enough strength to face them because right now I'm in a fragile state of mind and it's not helping much. So my advice to you is just try to forgive, but not forget... The naive forgive and forget, the stupid never forgive nor forget... The wise forgives but not forget, because holding grudges is really a waste of energy, time, and life. Just try to enjoy the small things in life that makes you very happy. ^^ But if you do want to make amends and reconcile do it now, before it's too late... Now or never.

if you want to make up with guys who you ever hated, what you must do is to let it slide, let the time recovering what they has done something bad to you.when you call up, you may also consider it should be a cherished memory which you experienced. to be on the sidelines of things which happened to you and don't beset by the history, then before long, you may get what you want

tess quinain I know its really hard when someone has done something really mean or said really hateful words to you. I think is that hate becomes a burden after awhile and can actually make you feel physically ill. I know I lived for years with a burden of hate towards my own father as he molested me as a child. I did not think I could ever forgive him but my husband showed me that my hatred toward him was onlyhurting me, not my father. so I went to him and make a formal statement that I forgave him but that I would not ever be able to really forget but I had moved on.He never did anwer my question why he did such a horrible thing to me at age 8, All I can say is try to forgive as hatred is not hurting her but it is hurting you. So go tell her you forgive her but you do not wish to be friends. it is up to her then as what she wants to do.

Hi tess_quinain, It is really hard, I know. For me, it was more about what a person, a person I love, did to me. I will never forget what he did and some of the things he said. If I were to go on remembering all the things that he did, I would not get anywhere emotionally. I would be bogged down by the past. But I'm trying really hard, not to forget all the things that happened, but trying hard to keep it together. I'm doing it for my child. You have to consider - is this person worth so much to you? If she is, then you have to work your feelings around it. If you know that the benefits would outweigh the negative consequences, then just be practical and work to be free from these words. They may still ring in your ears from time time, but they will get less prominent.