What do you look for in a man or woman?

Hmm. Ever since, I've wanted someone who could: -Love and accept me for who I am. -Likes the same stuff I do: poetry, alternative music, artsy-fartsy/offbeat stuff. -Talk with me for hours on end. :) Today I want the same things, except, I added these: -Great provider. -Responsible. -Has direction in life. -Has a vision for himself. -Will keep smothering me with affection till the day I die. For a guy? While I think that it's true that they're chiefly physical, I also think that they do look for other qualities, like intelligence, the desire and the skill to serve and pamper them, charm, a lady who's not boring... Things like those. :) I gathered this from my experience with my ex. :) Hehe!

I can't speak for everyone...but looks have never been important for me. Even as a teenager, I wanted to be with someone intelligent and who would love me for who I am. When I was in my 20's and ready for marriage, financial stability also came into the picture. I'm not sure about other men but my husband and I share similar thoughts in this aspect. In fact, my husband doesn't even want me to bother much about my looks...he's happy with me the way I am...and don't like it if I prim up. Even about my weight...he can't understand why I want to reduce a bit (I think I need to reduce a bit around my tummy). Maybe I'm just plain lucky and found the right guy for me:)

hi bunnybon for me at thirty I was looking for a man who loved cats and dogs and kids, who believed in God, and who had a positive approach to life. an optimist to counter my pessism and my introspective being. I found him and he was just made for me. we were married for 33 years so we both must have done something right. we sort of completed each other like we belonged together.

Intelligent, kind, some of the same interests that I have, loves cats and children and me. :-)

I think that young men and women may just look for beauty in a potential spouse and never really realize all the other things they may need or want in this person. But as we grow older we are more apt to look for more indepth characteristics. We have some history and wisdom by then.

hi bunnybon, when i was younger what i am just looking for is a man who have the same religion as me, someone who would accept me & my family for who are and what kind of life we have... with physical looks of course it will be a bonus to have a good looking partner...hehe but still what's good looking to me might not be good looking to others, so its still on my eyes. i also dream of having a responsible & respectful husband... and i am really thankful that with God's help, i find one for myself...and we are happily living together now. i think not all men just look for beauty, coz i think different men have different meaning for beauty as well...and still beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. i still believe that men are capable of loving beyond physical beauty...

Hi there Bonnie, well for start I would not have been happy if my Man said this to me, I mean don't get me wrong I would never and never have let go of myself but that is for me not for any one else, when you love someone, you love them for who they are, not what they are, Yes most Men probably do look for Beauty, but others see the Beauty inside What I look for in a man and I have is love, care, sense of Humour, respect and accepting me for who I am I am glad your Son is moving away from the other Woman, that she did not win Hugs

I've always gone for brains, but smart and good looking is a plus - oh, I'm fe-type-male

i JUST DON'T LOOK ANYMORE, IT'S EASIER, LESS HURTFUL & NOT SO MUCH TROUBLE, LOL. At my age they are not too plentiful anyway & if they are there is something wrong w/them. I have worked too hard to take a chance on losing what i have worked so hard for. On top of that they'd be like me & in bad health & i do well to wait on myself, don't want to wait on a gripey old man.

I would decide to date again I would like looks and brains! The guy has to be very good looking,tall,younger then me,intelligent,secure,sincere,similar interests,be toldly understanding and be there when I need and want him.Not the other way around! I have been used to much the guy has to be Mr.Perfect and nothing else!

Hi bunny bon: I think that's a difficult question because even if you think so, not every man look for the same. For me, the perfect woman good be a good looking girl, funny and intelligent. I'd love to find a person with a good job but I also love to find a dreamer, someone that would love to change the world. In other words, that depends of the things you want to do with your life. And it's not all about the physical. I can guarantee you that, maybe we, the guys, look the physical at the beginning but that's not everything we look when we are looking for the right girl. Thanks for asking me this question. ALVARO

Well that usually what happens when a guy comes up to a girl. The only reason would have to be all about the visual. Believe you me, a guy will never walk up to a girl just because he wants to start a conversation with her. There has to be something that must've caught our attention and made us really amazed not to contain ourselves and stop the urge from walking up to that girl. Girls on the other sees a lot more than what I actually tangible. They tend to read every thing. From the body language, the way the guy converse and my wife recently told me she was reading what I was feeling by the way I stood at the corner when were introduced by my cousin. While women right away rates a guy from how he presents his self (not just the visual) the guy usually rates women after the visual stage. Once we get to know the girl, we start categorizing where we will put the girl. If we discover that the girl is flirtish then she goes into the fun stuff. If the girl is reserved then we put her on the challenging list. But if a certain girl does not fall to any of our categories that we are left alone amazed and wondering -- then we put them on the "it-must-be-love-list" I always wanted a girl whom I can have fun with, and someone who is not scared to get flirty with me. This fun should also include wit. Not just fun fun.

beauty is nt consistnt so choosing frnknes n gud guy is vry imp.

As human are very choosy, it depends upon person to person but in my view man and woman both look for their external beauty first, their goodness, their status in society...

What I look for is humor, tolerance, trust, honesty and intelligence. Not necessarily in that order. Surface beauty/handsomeness has little to do with my selection, although if the important needs are met, then my man is the best thing my eyes can see. I've seen pictures of your son, and he is very good looking. Also tell him that money doesn't buy happiness. I'm glad that he's continuing to look. I'd love to have you for a mother-in-law, and can't see why anyone else wouldn't too.

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