Would you stay?

I'd stay. Looks mean nothing to me, never have really. I learned early that looks fade. Plus, what the package looks like has nothing at all to do with what's in the box. Maybe my attitude stems from the fact that my father had to go into a wheelchair when I was 12 years old. (He had muscular dystrophy.) That didn't make me love him less. It did give me a better understanding of people in general, though. As for intimacy, I've never had, uhh, "urges" that weren't founded in love, or at least what I thought was love. I have always had to be in love and he had to love me or at least make me believe he did. (Yeah, I've been fooled before. ) Looks have never had any part of my feelings for another person. Oh, sure, I'm attracted to attractive people, aren't we all? But, that doesn't mean I'd even want to get to know someone just because they were attractive. They would have to have qualities inside themselves that I found attractive before I'd want to know more. If my significant other were in a terrible accident that disfigured him in any way, that would not change my feelings for him and I certainly wouldn't leave him, at least not unless he turned into a bitter, spiteful person because of that accident. If that happened, I'd tell him it's therapy or separation until he changed his attitude.

Heck yes! He is the sexiest man I know. This isnt his looks. It is his brains, his charm, his sense of humor. If you could see him now compared to when we met. He used to be clean shaven. Now he has this monstrosity on his face and looks like a redkneck with a long handle bar mustache and a long beard he braids..... lmao no I am not here for his looks.

been with hubby 30+ years.. can't quit now.. guess we've both been a little bit of beast and of beauty!

Yes, I would stay. He would still be the same person. Looks change as we get older anyway. Physical appearance has never been tops on my list of qualities that I look for in a man. It's always been about the person's personality, how they treat others and things like that. My ex-husband was not what most people would say an attractive man but before the marriage went south and when things were good, in my eyes he was amazing.

Hi, bunnybon7. Yes, I would stay. If I loved him enough before he was in the accident, I can love him even more after he has been in the accident. My love will always be the same. His looks would not change my feelings towards him at all.

tWO THINGS came to my mind when i read your discussion. Beauty is only skin deep & beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. If i really loved someone i would hope that a change in appearance would not change that.

The inside is the most important. The outside changes when the time affects every single one of us. I sometimes wonder if the mirrors were better some decades ago..!? There is a simple solution if we are disturbed by what someone looks like. Just turn off the light..then everyone looks just as good as the other.. Anyway, you have some good thoughts there.

I would stay, as it is the Person I love not the Looks When you really love someone you will overlook any flaws even this type so I would stay and support my Man

That's a pretty difficult question. If we have children together and a very supportive family. It makes it easer to stay with him. It's not easy to say that for the sake of love all problems will be vanquished. And pity is very different from love. If pity prevails you for staying with him. Both of your life will be miserable. If his looks are only messed up but still you can see him in a way. It won't be a great adjustment, compare with someone who has been totally disfigured. Like, no jaws, open wounds, unaligned eyes, that's horrible, and it will really put you through a lot. I don't know if I would stay. And hopefully, I will never have to be confronted with such great dilemma. And it makes me sad to think if something like that will happened. This a very good discussion Bunnybon.

I had a co-worker who had been in an accident and ended up walking with a cane. Her husband left her. I think if youve been with someone along time a person woould stay. I would. If it happened when you were young I would think a person would be more apt to leave. Now days people are shallow and selfish.

If some one leaves their partner because of disfigurement, then they've done their partner a favor. While the split may hurt for a while, ultimately he or she is now free to find some one who will love them for the person they are, not the person they look like. Losing some one who loved the gift wrapping, but not present inside, is no loss. All of us change over time anyway. Even if you are never disfigured in an accident, or through a terrible illness or disease, we all grow old. We turn grey, wrinkle, sag and bag. But we're the same inside...well mostly. Maybe a bit more feisty...

Had it been me, i would stay, because love is not limited to bodies but to hearts, it is an emotional concept, body may deteroriate but not the soul, it is inner not external.. Thanks for sharing.. God bless you friend, cheers. Professor. .

It depands on how deep that i really love her, If not that deep maybe I would choose to break up, but i would still be friend with her if she still be willing.

The world is so cruel. The story like Beauty and the Beast is only on fairy tale, is not true. The true love is like ghost. Many people had claimed that they had saw it, but actually that are only a few people who truly saw the ghost. If the guys is the one, then of course i will stay. True love is everything.

If it's my lover and we aren't married, I can't be sure what I would do. But if it was my husband, I would stay....because I've passed the stage where looks are important and there's more to our relationship than just looks. Having said that, I am not even the kind of person who bases her opinion on a person based on looks...even at the first meeting (unless they are really repulsive). I didn't marry based on looks....and I have been asked a few times about my choice of husband based on looks (well....I liked the person and I couldn't understand what these people were asking me about....he isn't a handsome hunk....but he isn't so bad either)

Of course I would stay if I loved the person. The outside does not matter, it's the inside you grow old with and truly enjoy. I think we put too much emphasis on physical beauty and not on the beauty that truly counts and makes a difference in our lives.

If a person is only seeking another for looks then he/she will jump ship. Genuine love stick through thick and thin. Yes I would stay if I had a beau whose facial is damage. It is not the look but the personality of the person that will allow me to fall in love with him which will let me stick through whatever bad that befall him in. Hey Bunny how are you doing? I hope the whole gang is still here. hugs

It depends. If I really loved the girl, yes, I would stay. But, sometimes, you might not even be honest with yourself about it, but you could be with somebody because of looks, and think your in love. In that case, it might make you seem like a jerk, but I think, it will just make you realize that you don't actually love that person, now that you aren't getting what you want out of the relationship. Mostly, I would hope that I'm in a relationship where we could last through a situation like that.

looks is important but if he got accident resulted to ruined his face. i will still stay for the one i love.

Of course I would stay. I have been with my husband for fourteen years and when I married him I promised to keep my vows. I think if this did happen the stress of the situation would be more difficult and emotional for us rather than the physical attributes.