moving in with my husband

Wow the sacrafice you both have made over the years. I have to say that your fears are normal. You have basically been a single mother and now all of a sudden you will have some one to share the responsibility and the raising of your children. You may think that your way is the best and he will think his way is the best. Just always discuss any situation that may come up and things will be fine. You have been raising his children alone basically so I am sure you will live up to his expectations just fine if not even better than he could have ever dreamed. You may have him thinking he is not worthy of you . Good luck I am sure it will be ok for everyone. The kids are just gonna love that there daddy is now gonna be right there with them.

I understand what you are feeling. When my husband first joined the Navy I stayed home with my grandparents and our son. It took us about 6 months before we moved to florida with him from Texas. I had the same thoughts. I tried to do what I saw growing up as far as my grandma caring for the house and my grandpa. You can think like that at first but eventually your true self will show. I loved you for you and not what you could do. A marriage is about compromise and communication. And situations come about that you have to adjust to them, believe me the military through alot our way. But in the end you just have to let your worries go and communicate how you feel with him is what I can tell you. He might feel the same nervousness as well, you'd be surprised. Good luck and congrats.

teriyaki18 its just being apart, so you will slowly feel the same old way you did before. You will just have to take it one day at a time and by and bye you will wonder why you were afraid you would not live up to his expectations. I am sure he will understand that you have some qualms after having been apart for so long. I have not been in that position but I have seen the situation before and time and patience does wonders to alleviate all fears. Your own husband probably has the same fears so be your loving self to him and you will both adjust again. good luck God bless.

Hi, it is nice to know that the entire family will be moving in together again after several year of being away from each other. I believe that every family should live together. It is really different if everyone does. I mean the children will have their daddy with them and you can enjoy your time together. I know this will really be an exciting event. Don't worry about the adjustment stage it is part of life but what is important is that you will be happy being together. Godbless!!!

I am also moving in with my husband in 2 months. We have been married for 1.5 years. Four months after our marriage, my husband is moved to USA as a part of his job, but I continued to live in India trying to get my visa ready. Visa kept delaying and now the great time has come. We got the information from the government last week that my visa interview is scheduled in June. So, I am hoping to move in with him by the end of June. I am very very excited about this after being seperated for almost a year. He visited me once for 3 weeks during the time of Christmas. I can't tell you my excitement and I am sure that we will enjoy the time. We have lots of plans to do when I reach USA. He has listed out the things to do. We are planning to do some travel, he wants to take me to movies, go for walks, visit friends, etc. I can't wait for it. We don't have kids. I am not worried or tensed about being together again. As a couple we get along well and we love each other very much. It is normal to do minor adjustments when you live together and those things won't stand out, but become invisible in the great love you have for each other. We have many common interests. I like to shop a lot, but he is not that fond of shopping. But, he comes with me for shopping because he knows that I like it very much and it makes him feel happy because he thinks that he has done something that made me happy. He is very fond of coffee and he often visits coffee shops. I am not that fond of coffee, but I go those places with him, just to accompany him because I know he enjoys spending time in coffee shops chatting with me for hours. I won't even call these things as adjustments. They are small acts of love we do each other to make the other person happy. I don't regret even 1 percentage for doing that, rather I am happy that I made something that made him happy. I am very excited my friend.