Broken Friendship
By bebe_bonsai
@bebe_bonsai (112)
Philippines
May 5, 2010 8:03pm CST
What do you do when you start growing tired of a friend or the friendship? Should I walk out or leave it be until have surrendered to our pride?
8 responses
@maikeruk (405)
• Germany
6 May 10
Ok relationships of any kind or level can be complicated and of course we mght have to end it. Hst iz natural due the fact that xwe evolve during all our life. For that reason what i can recommend id just to move on and do new stuff and know ne peopleif that pezón ask what is going on just explain that you want to follow other ideals and that life goes on. There is nothing bad on it. Is the course of things :-)
@bebe_bonsai (112)
• Philippines
6 May 10
Thanks, that the same thing a wise person told me. Live my life, move on, and don't let anyone define me. Thanks.
@sweechi (157)
• Philippines
6 May 10
i think you should keep that friendship. With the path of life we are in, friends just come and go. You may first think that this person is my best friend, but you may not realize by next month, she's just only a close friend,by next year, she maybe a mere acquaintance and after two years, you two are best friends again. That's the way life works.
Keep the friendship you have but dont stop there. There are a lot of people around the globe that you can be friends with. Have new friends, enjoy their company.
BEing friends does not mean they have to there 24/7. They are not really those whom you are with at your highest point but they will be those whom you can rely on when you are in your lowest point.
i hope i had help you with your problem :)
@bebe_bonsai (112)
• Philippines
6 May 10
Thanks, sweechi, and you're actually right, but at the rate things are going and with the latest development, I don't think she's one I'd like to keep as a bestfriend. I don't even want to have a constant contact with her anymore.
@xxazndragon01 (1250)
• United States
6 May 10
well i personally would confront the person and tell them privetly of how i feel and maybe they would agree and move on as well but if they start to feel all down i might stick around them for life because that is my weakspot when someone is down i feel down as well
@bebe_bonsai (112)
• Philippines
6 May 10
That's the ideal thing to. However, I still hope that in her quiet room she will realize what this friendship is doing to us or how important I might be to her. Thanks.
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
6 May 10
Usually, when a friend is falling out i just do nothing. More or less, he'll just kinda phase himself out. And when we meet again it's just like nothing happened.
@bebe_bonsai (112)
• Philippines
6 May 10
Thanks, frontvision, but I'm usually paranoiac and sometimes wonder if falling out of that friendships means that I'm to be blamed. But I've been trying to be positive lately and doing a lot of thinking if it's really my fault and end up being more right than the other party. I know, jonjee, at some point we lose our excitement and I've acknowledged that, although there are reasons why. Thanks you guys.
@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
6 May 10
I never go tired with my friends and the relationship I have with them. The only time that my friendship with them is over is when they would give me a reason not to be in good terms with them. I had a friend before who broke my trust and I never considered him my friend after the incident. I still talk to him but I dont like being around him.
@bebe_bonsai (112)
• Philippines
6 May 10
Well, yeah, we actually share the same idea on that. I recently had a friend who I walked out from cause all she caused me were heartaches and insults. After 16 years, I finally decided to let go. Unfortunately, I had other friends to remind me that she's not doing me any good anymore. I hate it when people make me feel crap yet I still stick with them. But this time it's really OVER!
@radjapulsa132 (193)
• Indonesia
6 May 10
Keep good frendship. and make new friends. it is better for you, from the left your friends
@bebe_bonsai (112)
• Philippines
6 May 10
You're right radja but it seems that in that department I've never been so lucky. All my good friends are abroad and now I'm left with the bad ones. However, as jonjee puts it it is really hard to make new friendships and build a solid relationship, after all I'm in my 30s and investing yet again to another friendship is getting tedious already.
@hagirl (1295)
• United States
12 May 10
Break away little by little because although you might want to be friends with this person if they were any friend at all then you would not want to hurt their feelings..
@mavieserrano728 (670)
• Philippines
8 May 10
Before I get so fed up with the friendship, I have this habit of approaching the person and talk things out. If I feel that he/she is not telling the truth and cannot be that honest, then it's fine. I don't think I have to invest anymore with whatever friendship was established because the other person does not seem to care anyway. So. I'll just be civil, no strings attached and mostly no expectations.
