can a person really love two beings at the same time, with equal fervor?
By deriellevc73
@deriellevc73 (982)
Philippines
May 6, 2010 9:31am CST
do you think a person can love two individuals at the same time, with equal fervor and degree? or for this matter, can a man love two woman at the same time equally, with the same degree of passion? you see, i have a male friend who is very much married who is practically living with another woman when he is at work..(his job assignments takes him away from his family most of the time). He is devoted to his family and one can see that he loves his children very much. But he also professed his deep love for his other woman and he practically lives with her 90% of the time in a month. he goes home to his family for 2 days every other 2 weeks and goes home to them when a member of his family is celebrating a birthday, an event in school, etc.his whole salary goes straight to his family's expenses and there is no financial responsibility nor demand between him and his other woman who is a career-girl. they live together like man & wife but the wife and family don't know about the existence of the other woman, but the other girl is very much informed of the real family. the guy & his wife by the way are both muslims and the other girl is a christian..from what i have observed and heared personally from the guy, he both love these two women..equally..do you think so too? or is the guy just hitting it out with the other woman since she's conveniently there when his wife is not there..and the other woman is not demanding but loved him like a husband..what can you say about his alleged love for this other woman?
3 responses
@emerillus (467)
• Philippines
6 May 10
No, I don't think he loves both women equally. The guy is so selfish because he doesn't think about he consequences that his actions might bring and what it might do to his family. In the Muslim culture, I think it is acceptable for a man to have two or more wives as long as he can support both families, but I don't understand why he hides his other woman? I think he just saw in his other woman what he has been wanting or searching that he couldn't find in his wife. maybe the wife is n so sweet on him anymore, that's why he went to find another who could take care of him better. I don't think he loves the other woman more.
@deriellevc73 (982)
• Philippines
6 May 10
my thoughts exactly! i think that what he can't find in his wife, the other woman makes up for it..i pity the other woman actually because even though she's a career woman and holds a high position in the office ( the guy is also high ranking), she seems devoted to him..i once asked the guy why did he not tell his wife about his paramour..i even told him that maybe he doesn't really love his other woman..but he told us that he loves his #2, but he doesn't want to create havoc in their respective families..his wife has a heart condition and he is afraid that his children will blame him if something should happen to her because of him..and he said that he doesn't want to embroil the other woman in intrigues and scandals should that happen..he has been neglected as a child and he doesn't want his children to feel the same that's why he showers them with love and affection..but all the same, i am still confuse why take on another woman if he is not ready to face reality or the consequence of his actions? maybe you're right..he is just plain selfish..
@emerillus (467)
• Philippines
6 May 10
I also think the reason his family won't accept his doings if ever he decides to tell them is because the girl is not Muslim...
@ericpapasit (1274)
• Philippines
7 May 10
"You can't serve two masters" is the right proverbs for that because "You will surely hate the one and love the other"......... and love is patient, faithful and truth, and hates every wrong doing, love is not selfish.. So the guy feels not love then.
