Same man - different views.

Yes, a mother and wife would definitely see the same man differently. A mother has seen the son grow up and knows the thought process and all the changes and experiences that lead to the man being who he is as an adult. But a wife has seen him only as an adult...and will relate to him only at that level...as an individual, as her husband and the father of the kids. A mother will never be able to see beyond the man being her son. It is very difficult for her to think of him as the husband...and sometimes even as a father. Most men I know also behave differently with their mothers and wives. They themselves are two different people then. They turn into the son when they are around their mothers.

hello dpk, This comparison is really uncomparable. The man will always stays a child to his mom and a husband to his wife. The two woman will always had comparison. Since the small kid turns into a family man/head of the family,there comes a big difference on his image. A mother could never expect her son to become a perfect family man,but wishes he could. And the wife expect her husband to be a perfect one. Whilst,this expectation give some pressure to the concern(man). Let the guy grow up from the kid to his mother, and learn to become a good husband and a loving father to his kid/s,by his own way.

It is impossible for a mother to have the Same exact view of her son as his wife. They may agree for time to time about a behavior or lack of one but thr Same view?Never. All a man can do is be the best husband and son he can be. If his wife and mother can't be in the same room without there being tension . then keep them apart. It isn't fair for a wife to Try to get a husband to choose betwen his mother and his wife. In some cases the wife May win but the relationship may be doomed from then on. If a guy or anyone , because I am not a husdband and I would feel the same,is forced to choose he soon will resent Having to choose and the relationship is doomed because resentment is a killer of love and respect.

Hi Deepak.. yes you are right.. views of both Mother and Wife to the man will be different.. Since mother takes care of the son from the time he born she still thinks him as a small kid to her even though if he is a married and as his kids also.. She keeps advising him for most of the things as she done for him when he was a kid.. But when it comes to Wife's part she would have met him only after when he was 25 or above so for her he will be elderly.. caring and Loving husband so the perspective of views of Mother and WIfe are entirely different and I think we cant compare the views of the both...

A man’s mother will almost certainly view her son very differently from his wife. To the mother he will always be her little boy who needs looking after and guidance. To his wife he is her man, her protector, in some cases her provider and she is the one who needs him to take care of her. Two very different relationships, sometimes the two women can meet half way and sadly, in some case there may always be conflict between the two.

Hi Deepak A mother and wife will never see that man in the same light. One is protective of her child and the other loves him as a husband. They can never eally be compared. TATA.

Deepak ! I think I have misunderstood the question and have written a lot of blah blah. Forget all this and delete my responses mentally if your queston is about the mother's and wife's estimates of the boy's qualities and character. This is my answer to your question-- TH e mother and wife would definitely look at the man from different angles for one important reason--the mother has brought her son up; the girl has come into his life later. If the mother asssesses him negatively she has herself to blame.Have you not heard of the statement"there is one perfect child in the world and every mother has it".The mother would always look for positive qualities of her darling son.The wife would mentally consider him an equal and would not be as forgiving as the mother. On the other hand if it is related to some mundane thing like "my son has changed after marriage" or "my husband always cares for his people more than what he does for me", then you can read that "blah blah "stories.

I feel sorry for this poor guy who is like a tabla beaten on both sides.[it is a famous regional proverb where the reference is to the percussion instrument and I have translated this for your benefit. Regarding my opinion, the older person must be very careful to see that the couple get their personal space and not sit in judgement over the youngster. THe younger new wife is bound to have a lot of insecurity in her system and it is the duty of the mother not to fan that into flames.Regarding their opinions about the younger person, there must be no tug of war here Deepak. If it happens, both women would keep bombarding that poor young fellow making him hate the married state. They cannot have similar view points on any account.Even if they have similar thought processses , when it comes to selfpreservation, thye may differ and pull the male in different directions testing his grit to the maximimum. Women are very complicated creatures. But why give rise to a clash? I would make hundred percent effort to see that I do not sit in judgement of my son and listen to him and go by what he says.This is my expereince.My son's peace of mind and selfrespect are more important to me than my own.

dpk my mother in law lived in Walla Walla Wa. while we lived in California so I only met her once but surprisingly she and I got along beautifully . she liked me at once and I was utterly charmed by her. However my hubby's sister did not like me at all, and I felt so sad about that as I really wanted to be friends with her, oh she was polite , painfully polite but I sensed that as I was not a Seventh Day Adventist she did not really like me.I really did my utmost to be really friendly with her but she never really warmed much to me. However since we were only there for a week I was okay with it and thenwe went home and i was really glad to be back home again.

I suppose it is natural for this to happen, in way a man's life changes after marriage and it is bound to effect his relationship with his mother and then it is a tight rope act LOL...whereas for a woman it is not so bad as regards her family since she moves away...But I see that nowadays things are much better in many educated families because after marriage the couple make their own residence and it is easier that way...

That is true deepak! A wife and a mother certainly have very different views of the same man. I would best describe it as a mother seeing her son as one needing to be provided for and a wife thinking of him as the provider. That is a very basic statement and by no means applies to every situation. There are a lot of different views that a wife and a mother can have of a man.

Hi dpk... yes. Definitely different. My mother would always view me as the delinquent child. The one who's always into trouble. The one who is a rebel. But my wife sees a different person in me. She was able to see me as a person who is gentle, meek and kind. I still don't know how all these work. But both are true. I am a rebel and yet I am also gentle. I guess I better live it to them then.

Not only in man. Its true about the living things. Human, animals everybody changes their views as the responsibility changes. If you take a man as example then when he was a kid he was responsible free. And after growing up he got the responsibility to satisfy his parents with good results in education, after that a work to settle in life and to earn money. He changes as per his work, He becomes responsible to his company and as well as to take care of his parents and siblings. Then after marriage he get another responsibility of his wife. After when he becomes a father then he get another responsibility. People changes their view as the responsibility is changing. In animal world also same thing is applicable.