misunderstandings

Hi, ongtina. I think misunderstandings are something inevitable in everyone's life as our original intention may not always be understood by others. I've experienced this a lot. I didn't mean to say that, but the other person just misinterpreted me, thus causing some problems difficult to deal with. As a result, I had to explain to him/her my real intention. I always try my best not to misinterpret others by listening actively.

misunderstandings are perfectly normal.i see where your coming from. your words use are too unfamiliar for them try to settle in and use more shallow words when engaging to them

So very often people see only what they want to see rather than see what is. This will show you who they are. My advice to you is don't worry about it. Say what you mean and mean what you say. After that Explain, explain, explain. Pointing someone in the right direction is a good thing. Know that if there is a real question, your true friends won't believe anything until they hear it from you.

there sometimes are people who misunderstands what is said. they think it's sarcasm when it's originally a complement. thing is, we all have different experiences when we were growing up and through this phase, we accumulate different informations and some of these informations turn to beliefs. then the beliefs we've made for ourselves serve as kind of a baseline in judging an event, a thing or a person. that person you've talked with and percieved you wrongly might have an experience that triggers 'sarcasm' based upon his beliefs. the problem is, these beliefs are hard to change especially when it has been with him for the longest time so talking to him that you didn't intend to offend him may or may not work, but it's more probable that it won't work. i suggest whenever you talk to him, change your voice tone, speed, pitch, etc.. whatever it takes so he'd percieve it as something sincere. if you succeed on that then it's time you talk to him about the misunderstanding.

We will always come across people who will take what we say and turn into something else. It's a perception. You might mean well but that person might percieve it as critizism or judgemental. People like that are very negative beings. If something is said to me and I might percieve it to be something else, I will ask what that person means. There are a lot of negative people in this world that will take what you say out of context. Do not be afraid to speak your mind. If you are always afaid of what people will think, then you will be walking on egg shells forever and who needs that. Sometimes we just have to better explain what we mean and if they still don't get it, at least God knows that you meant well.

I think that one of the biggest problems with Facebook is this matter of things been taken the wrong way. I know of many families and friends who have had terrible arguments and falling out all through a simple phrase being read the wrong way on Facebook. It happened to me, my son in law was making a comment about something that was happening in his family, I made the simple comment 'Famalies eh!!' and a couple of members of MY family took that as me having a go at my family!!! As my mum would say 'There's nowt as strange as folks!!'

i also have the same experience with you, that conduct being distorting into something that is totally different from what i really want to say is called ???? in china. i really hope that parents and eldership could obtain what we really want to say before they give their percious suggestion or criticism.

i hate when there r misunderstandings.. its happened to me many times. many people dont understand me...