The two choice relationship question?
@xxazndragon01 (1250)
United States
May 7, 2010 7:12pm CST
Mylots
Yesterday my girlfriend gave me two choices break up with her or get a job at a computer store. I mean i am good at computers and all but i don't really like selling people computers and getting all active just to show people software i want a more interesting job. anyways have you ever been asked that question break up or some whatever that person whats out of you?
6 responses
@climber7565 (2579)
• United States
8 May 10
awww that is sad to hear about your girl giving you ultimatums. See the thing about it is that your girl like most, also wants security and I gather she does not see you making enough money. I remember you talking about getting married soon and also unstable choices with your friends? so I think she is tired of you not acting mature and not showing you can be a good provider. Still, it also shows your girl is too quick to want to leave you. That is never good. Even if you were a good provider she is likely to give ultimatums? hmmm not the best choice.
@xxazndragon01 (1250)
• United States
8 May 10
haha well then again climber you got to understand i know for a fact my girlfriend is joking about the leaving part and yes she wants to be a good provider for our future family and i know for a fact i have a long long long list of things to thank her for i mean she like change my life put me on the path of success when i was on the path of the devils play ground. So i understand why she would say this because it is sorta of a motivational taunt you know?
@climber7565 (2579)
• United States
8 May 10
oh yes I agree, such important detail is something to be acknowledged and only you would know better. I have seen couples fall apart after 10 years based on similar jokes and biased motivation. Meaning one party or the other fail to understand the bottom line.
@Tallygirl09 (1380)
• United States
8 May 10
No, no one has ever given me that type of an ultimatum. Why is she insisting you do that? Is it that she wants you to earn more money? Or so that you can make a career out of it? The way I look at it, she has no right to tell you where to work. I don't know how long you have been together but if she's that bossy, it might be time to break up. If you decide to do what she wants or rather DEMANDS this time then you are setting yourself up for her controlling your life and that is not a genuine relationship. Good Luck!
@xxazndragon01 (1250)
• United States
8 May 10
well actually she wants what is best for me and i am apparently really good with computers if someone teaches me what to do or i can learn by just watching someone do it. I mean don't get me wrong it is a good paying job but i would wrather like be managing a business then putting together computers but i guess ill start off by making computers xD
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
8 May 10
I thought you were going to marry this girl? It doesn't seem nice that she's giving you such an ultimatum. If you love her I'd take the job, maybe work there for awhile, save some money up and then quit and go on with another career you want better. Then again you may go to work for this computer store and realize you really enjoy the work.
@melloncollie (661)
• Philippines
8 May 10
My wife never ever gave included "losing her" as a choice. She always give me choices or always ask me to pick one from whatever it is she needs help deciding. But never was a time that she presented the "break up" option.
@jacquiline (124)
• Philippines
8 May 10
believe me , its between two things. its either she wants to break up with you not blaming her for that instance or simply the case that she wants you to be productive in life.
