What is it that you don't like about your partner, spouse, bf or gf?
By _Honey_
@_Honey_ (780)
Philippines
May 7, 2010 8:12pm CST
What I don't like about my bf is he doesn't like outdoor activities. He hates the sun, the summer and going to the beach. I am very beach person and loves going out for nature tripping. I can feel him adjusting to spend some time with me during the times I like the most but I can feel that he's not really into it. I appreciate his effort though. But what I like about him is him being so caring about me, so sweet and he has such a great optimism. He cheers me up whenever I feel down or getting worried about my job, finances or my family.
So what about you? What is that you like and you don't really like about your partner and how do you manage to get along in spite of this?
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5 responses
@kedralynn (980)
• United States
8 May 10
He's too work oriented. Which isn't really a bad thing. It makes us money and helps us save for a good future. But sometimes I wish he'd have more than 1 day off of work each week. I guess I just miss him and he works so much. But it's something I've learned to accept and deal with as I love him and I love the how he's planning for our future. Hopefully he'll get to take some time off soon and we just relax together :)
@kedralynn (980)
• United States
9 May 10
Yeah we talked about it. Actually I got really sick and he had to take time off to take me to hospital and that's when I told him I wished he was around more. I understand his need to work and save up money so we can buy a house, but I said I still miss him. Anyway, he decided to take some time off work for my birthday this month and take me on a vacation! So that'll be nice :)
@COOLJAY5737 (72)
• United States
8 May 10
Hahaha.....That's funny. You sound like my wife. She say's the same thing about me......I would love to spend my days off in bed playing with my x-box. Where she wants to go the the park, or the beach in the summer........I hate being under the hot sun!!! lol.....And pictures.....omg....I think it's a Filipino thing. My wife LOVEs taking pictures......She's from the Philippines and I'm from New York where we live.
Like your boyfriend, I'm also adjusting. There is nothing better then her happiness.......And there are times I come up with things to do.
So give him time.....your feelings of him not being into it will fade......mine did.
@_Honey_ (780)
• Philippines
9 May 10
Hi CoolJay, oh my god! You're just like him!!! You know what? He keeps on playing his ps3 or computer and he's already happy with that. One time, I was planning of where to go for his birthday. I came up with different plans. Going to the amusement park, zoo, out of town or go to different churches here in the Philippines. You know what he told me? He said, "It's too hot. I don't like the sun, I hate this summer and why can't summer just go away?" So we didn't push for it. Instead, he wanted to rent an airconditioned room, watch dvd movies all day. I was so disappointed because I had planned for that for almost a month and everything will be thrown to nothing. 
He said he'll make it up to me once the season gets better. I can feel he's adjusting with me. I just hope he won't get tired of it because I'm trying to adjust too. I don't want us to break up just because of our manageable differences.
He said he'll make it up to me once the season gets better. I can feel he's adjusting with me. I just hope he won't get tired of it because I'm trying to adjust too. I don't want us to break up just because of our manageable differences.@_Honey_ (780)
• Philippines
15 May 10
Hi cooljay. I read your post like three days ago. Sorry I wasn't able to get back to you earlier coz I was at work then. LOL. But anyway, I'd just like to let you know that what you told me really hit me. Because on the night after I read your comment/advice, I sent him an SMS message telling him that, "Honey, we'll go to Intramuros on May 29th. I want to go there.". It was quite different approach for me because I usually ask him he wants to go. But then, I didn't ask him but I told him that WE WILL GO. and you know what, he just said we will with with a tone like he's already surrendering coz he knew that I wouldn't take no for an answer then. lol. Now i'm so excited!! I hope he'll enjoy it just like how you enjoyed bowling.
Oh, I'd love us all to go out together! Drop me a note, will yah? :)
PS.
Bowling Alley was removed from Mega Mall. Same as the ice skating area too. I think they were moved to SM Mall of Asia. LOL
@COOLJAY5737 (72)
• United States
11 May 10
You know, sometimes you have to make his butt do things......2 years ago, me and my wife were in the Philipines. It was in March. It must have been about 80 degrees outside.......Hazy, hot and humid. Eary that morning, my wife said that we are meeting her Aunts and Uncles and other family members to go bowling at the Mega Mall. I'm thinking there is no way I'm leaving this Air condition room and the T.V remote to go out in the heat to do some bowling which I don't care for........When it was time to go, she asked "why are you not getting ready"? I told her I'm not feeling well and she should go and enjoy herself......She looked alittle upset, and said ok, and left the room. I'm thinking, "now this is the life". Before I can change the channel, she came back in the room, turned the lights on, and said, "what are you wearing, I will get it ready, cause your going"......lol.....Had no choice after that....
But let me tell you, I had a nice time.....and we still talk about it up to now.....
So, sometimes you have to say "this is what we're doing" instead of asking if he wants to do something, cause I doubt he will want to.....
So good luck with you guys.......and maybe one of our visits to the Philippines, we can all go out together....:)
@joram328 (503)
• Philippines
8 May 10
Hello! I am married and what I can say about your discussion is first, nobody's perfect. Each of us tries to get through life trying to please our partner, making decisions, etc. Sometimes though, what I interpret as good for me may not be good for him or vice versa. And that's where misunderstandings occur.
However, in a relationship, it is all about compromise. Ask any couple and they would say the same thing. There are really things that you can healthily disagree about and there are things which you just have to live with.
The things I don't like about my partner are his "forgetful" tendencies like leaving his toothbrush on the sink and the toothpaste without the cap on, his tendency to shout when things gets out of hand, his irritability, leaving soiled clothes hanging on hooks, in the bathroom or anywhere he "forgets" them. Maybe they're just signs that he's getting older I often joke, but that's about it. He often makes it up to me by buying me my fave fruits, cooking for me and sending me text messages saying "sorry".
@_Honey_ (780)
• Philippines
8 May 10
Hello. I so agree with you. In spite of our differences, I always bear in mind that nobody's perfect and you can never find a person who has the same traits, preferences and personality just like yours. We really have to live with it, compromise and compliment each others' differences.
I'm guilty of being disorganized once in a while.I'm sure it's the trait that he doesn't like about me though I have never asked him about what he likes and and doesn't like about me. Lol.
Thank you so much for posting and I hope that your marriage will last stronger as time goes by. 
@Gemini68nOhio (134)
• United States
8 May 10
My spouse and i both love all kinds of sports, but i'm trying to convince him that there's a reason behind having satelite, with well over 200+ channels. Sports isn't the only darn thing that comes on the tube, ok?? So then, i get accused of not really liking sports and the battle begins. So, we have learned to really compromise, when the two of us really want to watch tv together. Now, unless there's really something the both of us want to watch that's different, that happens to be on at the same time, i go into another room. But guess what? For some strange reason do you know he always ends up watching the big screen tv and i'm always stuck with the smaller tv!
@_Honey_ (780)
• Philippines
9 May 10
Haha!! That's funny and cute. It's very simple yet imagine how much such a petty thing can annoy us in the long run. I hope you're starting to get used to it. Tell him to switch TV's once in a while. I hope your marriage stays happy in spite of your differences.
@elsewhere (53)
• Philippines
8 May 10
What I don't like about him is that, during essential instances, I need to ask/tell him what to do. Perhaps the problem's also with me-- I expect certain gestures to be automatic when one loves a person. But really, it hurts me when I don't feel the other's willingness and self-determination to do something (for me). One thing, he hardly writes me letters-- something which he has usually done for his past girlfriends. This often makes me feel bad about myself.
He could also be insensitive sometimes, but this is also because we're quite different from each other. I assume he thinks I'm somewhat insensitive too, haha.
That said, I love, love, love everything else. :)
