Anarexia or Bulemia.. for it

Ive wished that many times, but when I think of the problems of you're gonna deal with then I would think like its not that bad being obese than being anarexic... I just need determination and self-discipline to work on my diet... Its most irritating and sucks when its your own mother who discouraged you the most.

well...sadly i have had feelings like that b4...i am overwieght and i hate it. but i thought about it...if i don't tkae the pproper measures to lose weight the right way, one i could end up even worse off in health than i am now, two i could potentially doe, or three i could gain all the weight right back and then some if i start on a stable eating pattern again...please just do it the right way

I have not. But what an awful thing for a mother to say. I can not imagine. I have a teen aged daughter who is the perfect size, I get to see what I would have looked like skinny! And she will say that she is too fat. I get horrified. I tell her how great she looks and that even if she put on weight, it is her health that is more important. I think if nothing else, you should talk to somebody so that you can come to love yourself the way you are. Your size is not who you are. It goes up it goes down, but you are still the same person. I know it is easier said than done but the thing you need to purge is your hateful mother.

LillyBelleDaisyRose I have and still am inyour shoes. I was overweight in high school and college then I went to work as a nurses aide and there I did lose some weight. but again I put it back on again. but no I never wanted to binge then purge as that is horribly unhealthy. I always worked in the health system.Your mom with her verbal abuse probably did a heck of a lot more harm than good talking like that to you. My dad did that to me, but my mom was my go to. no I never wished I was anorexic as that is a good way to die young,I wish I weighed one fifty instead of sixty pounds more. any way once you deliver that baby you will be kept so busy with three small children I bet your weight will go down. too it is probably true that you have a different body build than your mom. You will always be larger in the thighs and hips than mom. but if you get down to a normal weight for your bone structure you will look great even if you are not teensy.YOur mom was all wrong in the way she treated you.hope you keep healthy and have a great delivery and a healthy little baby. let us know how things fare.

Although I was never officially diagnosed as anorexic or bulimic, I had an issue with eating from the age of 13 to 16, although even now at 21, the beast can sometimes rear it's ugly head. I didn't eat, simple as that. Sometimes I chewed my food then spat it out, which I understand is a common " technique". I also exercised quite extremely. I cycled 30 miles a week to school and back, as well as 1000 sit ups a day. It wasn't until very recently that I discovered my extreme exercise regime was actually bulimia. I always thought bulimia meant throwing up, when in fact it is any way of expelling calories from your body, be it vomiting, exercise or taking laxatives. Because of all the sit ups I did, I am in pain everyday. I've done a lot of damage to my spine and hips. My immune system is shot to pieces and I am yet to find out if I have damaged my fertility. A lot of people don't understand that eating disorders are a mental rather than a physical problem. If you are going to have an eating disorder, it is in you from birth, it's just waiting on something to trigger it. They say that people with eating disorders want to remain childlike, so by losing weight, your appearance becomes similar to that of a child. From what you've said about your relationship with your mother, especially when you were no doubt going through puberty, it seems probable that you follow this rule, and wanted to be nurtured and mothered. My parent's divorce triggered mine. I guess they were so busy hating each other that they didn't have the time to notice me crying out for help. I don't blame them, because if that hadn't of set me off, something else would have. I still want to lose weight. I still feel like a second rate citizen, even though my weight is within the normal range. But I know now that my thoughts of losing weight and thus becoming successful and happy, are false. If you are still struggling sweetie, may I suggest finding someone to talk to about your feeling? Remember the ramifications of extreme weight loss on your body, and that thin does not equal happy. I wish you all the best for the future. We are all beautiful.