Moving On

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To all who have been through broken relationships, I hope this news article will remind us that moving on really requires us to evolve within and most of all accept the reality that things are over when it is really over. I think everyone would remember our much talked about and reported Ian Usher, an Australian who some time ago, putted his house and all its contents, his car, motorbike and jet-ski, even his job and his friends, on internet auction website eBay - after his wife divorced him. He was so adamant that he would be able to cope and move on after he has purged himself of everything he owned that reminded him of the happy years his ex and him had spent together. Sadly, the much raved about hits on his auction site - "A Life For Sale" did hit the headlines, attracted an incredible 1.75million hits within hours and there was a report that the bids reached a whopping £1.2million. Yet by the time Ian’s auction closed in June 2008, it had left him feeling as flat as his imminent divorce. The £1.2million bid turned out to be a hoax and the second highest offer of £230,000 was withdrawn. Six more bidders who had put in six-figure offers backed out. That's right, his cloud nine venture eventually came crashing down on mother earth and as quickly as he had became a global phenomenon, he is now a highly publicized failure and largely forgotten. I am not trying to hurl stones here at him or any one who has fallen but realities are both harsh and cruel. As such we need to be equally straight and most of all down to earth with our approach as well. Like Mr Usher here, it's hard to let go because he never did let go in the first place - even if he thinks he did. Truth is time doesn't really heal wounds - what time does is to coerce us into resigning to fate and get used to our situation. Recovery is by choice and quiet reflection, often spurred from personal enlightenment. I am not saying that this is easy. But, it should not be any valid excuse for choosing not to move along in life. If we do have that wisdom to understand or discern that, it doesn't matter how many girls come into your life, achieve 100 of lifelong ambitions in say as many weeks, raising £30,000 for charity and working in a soup kitchen in Vancouver – to adrenaline-fueled activities such as swimming with sharks off the coast of Japan and running with bulls at a Spanish festival - you will just be like a kid when mommy refuses to buy that particular toy; lying on the floor, kicking your feet and throwing your hands all over, hoping that somehow, you will get what you ACTUALLY want. You see, nobody can make anyone to move on if that isn't what he/she wants to do. Eventually as time passed naturally, we will probably realized that there's no way the other party could return... and like that kid who couldn't get what he wants - we will just succumb to the power of time and move along, like Mr Usher here. The difference is that all these while when we have decided to remain where we are, we have probably wasted much of our emotional self when we actually do have a choice to LEARN from our previous relationship(s) and empower ourselves spiritually. We make our own choice in life, and we live with what our choice dictates. Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1275382/I-ve-tried-100-ways-fix-broken-heart-I-admit-defeat.html