who can be our real friends
By qujing1710
@qujing1710 (210)
China
May 9, 2010 2:21am CST
do you feel better today or everyday?i am alway afraid that my parents take care of me everyday.even all the time,they ask me about my lover and whether i keep a touch with him.i am so angry that i don't have any secret at home.they will control me forever.they,especially my mom without job,know what i am doing ,what i am thiking,who i am calling...i am crazy,crazy!help me!help!i am like the prisoner!
5 responses
@redhotpogo (4401)
• United States
9 May 10
Maybe they're just curious about what's going on with you. Maybe they feel like you aren't communicating enough with them, so you must be hiding something. You probably aren't, but parents worry. I don't want to take their side, because I know how you are feeling. I went through that too when I was younger,and what your parents are doing is wrong. But they don't realize it. They are worried about you, and they don't know what else to do. So give them some info. Even if they don't ask for it. Just talk to them, and say I know you are worried about me, but look you raised me. Did you teach me the wrong things? Did you teach me to be a bad kid? No. So trust me a little. If you don't trust me, then you don't trust yourself. If you think I might do something wrong, then maybe you aren't confident in yourselves as parents. I love you guys, and I don't want to distance myself from you, but I am growing up, and I need a little room. Don't pressure me. I will share things with you on my own. You don't need to nag it out of me. That just makes me not want to share anything with you.
@qujing1710 (210)
• China
9 May 10
everyone have their rights to produce any curiosity about anything.but it seems that they have endless curiosity to my life.my god,i have to say i am going to die if they can't stop.i can't breath normally.of course,once i said to them that it was good for you not to know my things sometims..true enough,i see..as you say"did you teach me the wrong thing?"maybe,they did it but can't tell me.this is why they worry about me to do wrong like them.muse over my past memories that i did the wrong thing and ever became a bad kid,too.whatever,i should trust my kid in the future.after all,no one can be in place anyone.
@qujing1710 (210)
• China
10 May 10
dear,at least i didn't quit school though once indeed i plant to do like you at that time when i suffered form some sickness which is called vegetative nerve functional disturbance.yes,freedom is important as responsibility.the key is how to search a nice reason for the so-called resposibility.don't worry.i have found it
.it is:life and time belonging to anyone are limitied.lol
@redhotpogo (4401)
• United States
10 May 10
I'm not really sure what to say to you to make anything seem better. I went through it, and it seemed like everyone was on their side, no one would listen to me. I couldn't take it anymore, and I ended up quiting school, and doing alot of stupid things. Sometimes Qujing, you just have to suck it up. Be the bigger person. Fight for your freedom, but be responsible.
@Saranggola (956)
• Philippines
9 May 10
Aww. That could be suffocating in your part. Anyway, maybe they're just too concerned about you. Have at least a voice to tell them about what you feel with regards to what they're doing and what you don't like about it. It will somehow help. (I hope so)
@qujing1710 (210)
• China
9 May 10
yeah,my dad is better.but especially my mom can't understand me forever.she thinks children have much responsibility to parents than them to kids.ao she has to let herself be satisfied wieh my behavior towars her.i've past playing with dolls and i am an adult.
@qujing1710 (210)
• China
10 May 10
no,you are wrong.i can't stand on my own feet facing them.if that,it is called not being filial towards parents.so sometimes my eyes and brain are all like the boring wood,forever being silent.the clever can explore but not the foolish including me.thanks all the same.i am better now
@Saranggola (956)
• Philippines
10 May 10
Yeah. You are old enough to stand on your own feet. You do love them but there are so many things in this world that you would want to know and explore with your own eyes and brain.
@parshince (22)
• Philippines
10 May 10
dont made a thought like ure a prisoner..because everybody isn't!..well, thats life being protected by anybody means they loved you that much..dont ever think that they dont want you out,or go w/ somebody like your jerk boyfriend..it isnt that the fact..the fact that you are protected by ur parents is for your own go0d..honey, dont ever think that u are a prisoner because anybodi is not..u shud think in ur mind..that sumbody is doing well w/ u because they loves you...
@qujing1710 (210)
• China
10 May 10
love,love..how many kinds of love are there in the world?but i always hate myself not being able to accept this love,do you know?can't i understand it?am i so yong?those reasons are false.it is too naive when i face to life.i have been better since i talked with my dad.
@Nahsik (205)
• India
9 May 10
If you are getting thoughts as if you are being held as a prisoner, may be you should talk to your parents tell them that you're a grown up and take care of yourself...
But the bottom line is that you are very lucky.Yes you are very lucky to have such good parents who care about you all the time.
Yes i understand sometimes it gets too heavy and we feel that they are becoming a burden an obstruction to our thinking processes, but thats the way it is.This IS THE WAY parents behave.
@qujing1710 (210)
• China
9 May 10
they are responsible for me very much.i wonder that whether all the parents are like mine.yes,it is too heavy.right,they are obstruction to my thinking processes.thanks for that you told my aspiration to the public.maybe i can consider how to be responsible for them.
@babshish (1387)
• India
9 May 10
Hi qujing1719, Sorry to say but I thiink you should change your attitue of thinking towards your partents. Whatever you are today is because of your partents. It is always good that you are frank and transperent to your parents so they can help you and guide you if your are in wrong path or ignoring anything. Whenever you will be in trouble, trust me no one will be with you, not even your best friend but only your parents. Parents care for their children and always thinks for their better. You may not understand this at this point but you will releaize when you will become mother. You should treat your parents as your best friend and take their guidence and share your feeling with them like you would do with your friends. I can gaurantee you that you will surely benefit in long run. You are one of the lucky person who got such caring parents. Think about the people who don't have parents and lacking their love. Just my views, please don't take it otherwise. Sorry if I hurted your feelings.
@qujing1710 (210)
• China
9 May 10
two years ago,i went out for my work.they were not together with me at that time when a boy deceived my love.yes,i felt sad and angry.what was worse,i couldn't find anyone to disscus what i would do to relax myself.finally,i dealt with it in my own way.i thougt i was sucessful at least.but now i have no train of thought in which i deal with any thing in any time.
