Are you a GOOD Friend to yourself, others?

United States
May 9, 2010 11:12pm CST
I had brunch with a friend today and she'd been working herself ragged. I told her that she needed to slow down abit and take batter care of herself. She's always a good friend to me so I told her that she needed to be a good friend to herself. That really surprised her. That got me thinking that I do try and balance out time for others and time for myself. I have a few things I do to nurture myself every day so that I can be a good friend to others. How about you, are you a good friend? And how about being a good friend to yourself versus others?
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• Bangladesh
10 May 10
Yes i think i am a good friend.i love my friends and can do anything 4 them.Sometimes i forget to take care of myself.but i never let them down....they are my life!
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• Philippines
11 May 10
Wow, that is nice to be hearing. And there are few of the people right now that are becoming few and few to be true to the friend. And being a good one is so much harder than we thought about it should be. Congratulations, that you are able to say that. I hope I can be your friend too. Hehe..
• Philippines
11 May 10
Hmm. I do try to be a good one. And as much as possible be as competent and be able to commucnicate and accountable with them as well. It wasn’t easy though. But with a fast growing internet connection and cellular phones and with the latest inventiontions. We can always be a good friend and try to communicate and follow them up. Being a good one is not that easy. but a worth thing to be doing.
@umabharti (3972)
• India
10 May 10
Hi,Yes first we should understand what we are and are we good friend to ourselves.It is then only we can understand others better .If we are enemy to ourselves then we are creating problems for ourselves as well as others .
@linwang (12)
• China
11 May 10
be kind to yourself as lifetime won't last long.
@maxyl12 (236)
• Philippines
10 May 10
Yes am a good friend to my friends. Even I have to scold them because I belive its for their own sake and not mine. We should take care of our friends because to so hard to have a real friend.
• Bulgaria
10 May 10
I think I'm good friend to myself.But i don't know what is "good friend"..Maybe to buy a lot of thinks about myself or to be very happy every day.There are a lot of warrants..I think it not hardly to be good friend with youself or with anybody.This world isn't have enought good people.To be friend to yourself is really cool think. :)) BY Micov
@daliaj (5674)
• India
10 May 10
This is a good thought. I don't think I am a good friend of myself. I should treat myself more nicely. I take a lot of effort and don't mind to travel too much and in sun. I don't really care about myself, but once in a while I feel guilty that I am not taking care of myself well and treat me with a good meal or my favorite snacks. But, I am sure that it is not enough.
@bamrahkirti (1821)
• India
10 May 10
You are right.We cannot make everybody happy around us but at least we can try to make ourselves happy and satisfied.I am a working mother and hardly have time for myself.I have a full time job,a family to take care of and a son who is just 2.5 years of age.Amidst them i did not have time to pamper myself,take care of my needs and aspirations. But all this was driving me to depression so i thought of making some changes in my life.Now when ever i have time ,i try to utilize on my interests and hobbies.I shop,i watch T.V.,i go to beauty saloons and visit friends.I am being faithful to myself and now i am happy.
@marguicha (223720)
• Chile
10 May 10
Hi friend, You are right! We must be good friends to ourselves. And besides that, we can´t be friends to anyone unless we are good friends to ourselves. Love is learnt at first when we learn to love ourselves. That doesn´t mean being self centered, but just capable of feeling the warmth of love. Take care!
• Philippines
10 May 10
I thing i am good to myself more than others. I can't care for them if I am not well.
@nessosamu (193)
• Japan
10 May 10
hi tallygirl09. i think i am a good friend to myselfe. i take good care of myself. and also, i like people around me and try to be a good friend to them. but my personal thing is differnt business. and they totally understand it. so when i need to concentrate on something, they just leave me alone. when they can afford to help me, they do and if not, they just don't and vice versa. i think my friendship to myself and others is well-balanced.
@alexies29 (124)
• Philippines
10 May 10
Yes I'm good to myself and others. Even if there are other people who can drive you mad sometimes, I still try to be good to them. If a friend is becoming bad to me, I'll just give her time, until she's back to herself. In that way, the friendship will be kept and conflict can be avoided. A lot of times I realized that I'm more of a friend to myself than to others. I think there's nothing wrong to that as long as you maintain a good relationship with other people.
@imready (149)
• India
10 May 10
hai we have to understand our-self so that we can understand others. I you are a good friend to you then you can be a friend to others too. I think you agrees with me don't you???