how do i teach a young one to ignore racist statements at him?
@mario_stevens (6971)
Malaysia
May 10, 2010 3:33am CST
i've got this genuine problem..
i'm an active volunteer at a local home for neglected children & orphans. last weekend while going over some of their schoolwork and catching up on their activities, one of the young boys was sitting and crying in the corner. he was a bit scared or shy at first, but after much coaxing & promise of treats, he finally told me why he was crying. apparently while he was out in the playground this morning, a passer by pointed a finger at him and shouted out a very offensive racial remark. now this little boy of 6 years knows what the remark meant. he was crying because he knows that it simply isn't true, and that it hurt his feelings. and it must have been quite traumatic for him until it's effecting him like this. i honestly didn't know what to say. i left the home in the evening all perplexed about the situation.
now i've been through quite a bit myself. but lucky me, my parents were there to shield me from all the world's nonsense when i was just an impressionable kid. i've learned to let racist & negative comments just fly past me without effecting me one bit. maybe that's just me and the way my parents taught me.
but what can i do for this little boy now? it's so unfair that he has to grow up so fast in order to deal with the nonsense that some people spout out. he should be learning & playing, instead of being worried about racist remarks and such. he's usually has a playful & colorful character, but after last weekend he's been so withdrawn into his own world, thinking about what he went through.
hopefully someone here can give me ideas on how can i assure him, and hopefully teach him a trick or two about how to ignore ignorant people.
myLotters, heelllp! i've seen that some of you do have some good advise for different situations. hopefully there is one useful for this little kid..
4 responses
@CynicalStephen (283)
• New Zealand
10 May 10
Perhaps you should explain to this person why these people are being racist in the first place. Explain that they have a need to exert power over him , that it gives them self esteem, etc,etc. Show how pathetic these people really are. Then tell him next time he hears a racist remark , he should just laugh at these people(quietly of course) :)
@mario_stevens (6971)
• Malaysia
10 May 10
yeah...it's kind of sad to explain to a kid that adults can be so unthinkingly juvenile sometimes. maybe i can explain to him the word 'pathetic' and use that incident as an illustration..
what a sad world those racist are stuck in..
@mario_stevens (6971)
• Malaysia
12 May 10
thanks for the suggestion maura..but i don't think that would be enough for him. i've got to find a way explain reality to him, but i don't know if i can really be honest and tell him that some people are really unkind and thoughtless... *sigh..what a world we live in today..
@grecychunny26 (9483)
• Philippines
11 May 10
when I was attacked by a racist before I didn't know what to do and no one can't help me too. I was 18 back then. What has happening to that child you were talking about is what had happened to me too. I feel aloof, I feel I don't want to live anymore. I was hurt and traumatized. Until I went to our University chapel and cried there. I pray and I cried and I asked forgiveness of my sins. Maybe I had done something wrong that is why I became a victim of this. Just there, while I was seating I realized something. i feel the power of God. HE was erasing the hurt I felt inside. And then after that I walked out of the chapel feeling good again. If you are a believer of God, the only thing I can be able to help that young boy is to pray that his thoughts and bad feelings will all erased too. Only in that way I am pretty sure he can move on with his life. Just advice him that all people are different, we have different believes,not all are kind and friendly and sadly there are many who are like them. Just advice no matter what people called him, they don't have the right to judge him of who he is. If people don't like him for sure we have our God who will still love us no matter how bad we are. Let God alone works for those racist.
@dotaking (38)
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10 May 10
I am lucky like you too.I have a couple of enlightened parents.They tell me that everyone is free and everyone has right to be free.So i dont discriminate them. I
think it was due to the education circumstances and it is very important!If a child remark himself a lower group it is danger.Perhaps he will be unsociable.But it is really a difficult problem.What we can do is that we should respect them and tell your frieds to do it.Let the people realise that so many people can be their friends!We can tell them this problem is a history matter and they should keep a calm heart.You shold make friend with the child.i think he is happy to construct the
friendship with you.you should let him feel warm ! What can i say is just so!Good luck,baby!