Do you keep looking for a perfect partner/friend?

I have found him. Well I Should say he found me! He is perfect for me. Being perfect to me means I can accept his imperfections and he can accept mine. My guy Gets me. And I connect with him. But when he found me I wasn't looking for the perfect mate. I had Just broke up with a guy I Thought I loved. I had just healed and there he was. He treated me like a princess and yet he Saw me as I am ans loved what he saw. It took some time but I love him with all my heart . He is perfect for me.

Hi Deepak, Let me first say that ‘perfect’ persons are really really very difficult to live with. They are both irritable and irritating, finding faults with everything you do and sitting high on their lofty pedestal, expecting the world to ‘fall’ in their line and rise to their standard of ‘perfection’…. notwithstanding the fact that no matter how much you try, you can never reach that level. These all are about the character traits of people I’m talking about... however, to me perfection would be somebody who’d be more of a fallible human being rather than a well-oiled machine. That person would have many many faults his/her own and similarly recognize and accept my faults too! While that person would be loathe to change himself/herself, s/he will not expect me to better myself either. To me that would be the ‘perfect’ friend/partner/soulmate…thankfully I’ve found him in my hubby *touchwood*…we both are so comfortable with each other’s imperfections that I think we make the ‘perfect’ pair! LOL

I think a perfect partner is a myth. If you want perfection you have to have a definition of perfection. I think everyone's definitions will be very different. I would rather an imperfect partner this way we can live up to their expectations. If they are perfect they may want a perfect partner and that I am not. I am the type of person that would be bothered by the fact that my partner is and does no wrong then here I am an avid mistake maker. This is my opinion. Im sure others may be able to handle it. I just ask this: Isnt the whole point of meeting someone you love to spend your entire life together growing and learning. If one of you is perfect how can there be equal growth? dl

No such thing as a perfect person anywhere! Human beings are not meant to be ‘perfect’. Having said that, I do believe that it is possible to find the perfect partner, that is the perfect person for us! I believe that everyone we meet and who comes into our lives comes with gifts; the problem is those gifts come in the shape of painful lessons sometimes! I have the perfect man for me; he is perfect warts and all!

Hi deepak, I think looking for anything beyond what we already have or hope to have is human tendency.If we are satisfied with what we have then life becomes stagnant.I am not saying that one has to change partners lol, just that you want make things better within the given circumstances, so you may grumble about your partner or friends and wish they had this or that quality.I dont think there is ever any perfection in any relationship....One has to accept there are imperfections on both the sides and make the best of it - all the best deepak

Dear dpk, How are you? I think you are perfect! As the popular saying goes : " Beauty Lies in the eyes of beholder" When we are in love, our partner always seems perfect to us. After married, then we begin to see their weaknesses. How? Learn to accept as no one is 100% Perfect. However, anyone can be perfect as thought by their friends and love ones. Reason being we see all the positive elements and accept the weakness as strength too! All the best and take care

I've never looked for Mr.Perfect even when we were groom hunting for me. I always believed that if two people try to understand and open up to each other, one can have a great if not perfect relationship. Being married for more than 10 years, I can say that my husband and I have undergone many changes and now we've reached a stage where we are not the perfect couple(not yet) but we try to understand each other and react accordingly without compromising on our individualities. Even when we've had problems, I've always said....we are perfect for each other...we just need to open our eyes and mind and see it!

Because I believe no one is perfect I do not seek for perfection when it comes to my future partner. I just want to have someone with sense of humor, a person that can really makes me happy and very responsible. Some says that do have a higher expectations when it comes to men that is why until now I haven't experienced relationship. Maybe yes or maybe not, because I never gone to a date. I never explore. I am always at home, maybe that is the reason why.

I think once married, people need to accept what ever happen. We must be prepared to accept the characters of the person that has entered our life. Nobody is perfect. There are bound to be differences when two people from different backgrounds are united to journey life together. But one must know how to overcome the stress in managing the ups and downs of married life.

i think if i were to find my "perfect" mate (which im already happily married lol) that i would go crazy. i am one to love imperfection more than perfection and having a perfect mate would drive me nuts

Hi Dpk.....being a practical person,I know its not possible to find a perfect friend or partner.....a beautiful partnership or friendship is a matter of give and take,and adjusting to the imperfections of the other person and making compromises on your part too,which is not hard to achieve if you like the particular person and is able to establish a good rapport with the person in the beginning itself.... While making friends,its easy to get along with people who think on the same wave length,since I am are able to establish a comfort level with them very easily......But if I find that I have to compromise on my values or my integrity,or I find it difficult to get along with certain people then I try my best to distance myself from such so called friends...

Hi deepak! I think that when finding a partner...we find someone as messed up as we are and settle down...LoL..not more messed but as or almost as messed up is the key. Does that make sense?

Hello dpk, i am married since 1966 and i am happy in all respects, there is nothing perfect in a relationship or marriage, it is rather a question of adjustment.. Thanks for sharing. Welcome always. Cheers. Professor

To me, a totally perfect partner is like a myth. A totally perfect partner is got if luck is too good. We need to make someone our life-partner whom we can make such like our dreamed life partner. But in some cases we also need to compromise to be a perfect partner of hers...

Never and that too a CAPITAL [b]NEVER.[/b I am a very imperfect person and so what right do I have to expect a 'perfect' partner? Don't you agree Deepak? I am one for fairness and justice in life . I would appreciate only if both people adopt this "live and let live " policy and give respect and take respect . I belong to a society where the woman is supposed to respect her husband and I am not willing to sit in judgement of his flaws.If he starts analyzing my flaws then there is no end to this game and we can as well end in a divorce court.

I got married very young and I dont think i knew at such a young age what perfect was or anything close to realizing what it ment to say this is the person i want to spend the rest of my life with. I dont think perfect relationship exsists but i do think there is a happy medium that a couple can be good for each other. Everyone is going to have their differences , after all we are all human and not perfect.

I didn't think one person can achieve a perfet, however when I changed my job three years before, I made a best friends when I worked in which company, I thought she is very perfect, she is very gentle, kind, keep the house are clean, and the most important she love life, and treat every people very kind, and help them to resolve the problem, at last she is my best friend.

I could say that I have never tried to find a "perfect" partner.It is not unrealistic.If you feel happy when with your friend,that is just perfect!

the idea of perfection is relative to the person. like what they say, "beauty is in the eye of the beholder." in my case, my friends may be the perfect group for me, but may not be so with others. anyway, with that being said, i don;t really expect people to be perfect nor am i looking for a perfect person, because i believe this gives me the risk of disappointment. i think one should accept the partner or the friend for who he/she is, "warts and all." it's like pizza, you eat everything on it, and you don't eed out what you don't like. may be a poor analogy, but i hope you get what i mean. honestly i used to look for the perfect partner but i always ended up getting disappointed, hurt, and frustrated. my husband may not be a perfect person, but i know he is the best for me, one who truly makes me happy and brings out the best in me.

I am not looking for a perfect mate because no one is perfect. Everyone has a flaws in terms of character. Physically, not everyone has perfect feature. Instead, If I may have found a partner, I will try to be perfect to him. In many ways to understand and accept him as what he is to me. To correct undesirable things for our relationship and make resolutions for certain expectations. With mutual agreement, I believe things becomes perfect for us.