Do you care about what others might say or think?

hell0 there! nice too see you around every day well, if you have asked me the same question 5 years ago, I guess that I would definitely answer to you "YES, i really care about that, what others think or say about me", but nowI really don't. so let me tell you about my life years ago, when I still was at high-school: so, at that time I stil was a newbie there, I didn't knew many people and the most of the students were onlystrangers for me. all the time I had the feeling that they watch me, maybe just because I have had some inferiority complexes, maybe it was something else, but al the time I walked by with the head down, and listen all the time what other talk about me. I even aslked the few of my friends there, did they know what others say and think about me, I was so worried about their opinion on me, and thoughtmy life depends on it, and my reputation too, and always tried to look good, have some mordern and cool clothes, just to try looking better in their eyes. but year later, I just realized that people who erally like me and hold on me, never will carea bout that what I wear or what I do, they just will like me the way I am, and I suddenly stopped thinking about all those people who talked about me, behind my back and just rejected them. and I am really happy now, becaues I feel much happier then the old times and feel much better then that time!

Sweetie, if we have to care what others say and think, we will never have normal lives. I ignore those kind. I am me and know myself. That is what's important. TATA.

Hi,Caliya! Such a great topic. I really cared about what people say or think because i want to impress ohters before graduated. I changed completely as i grew older though i still respect the opinions of ohters. For some people we meet, we are not important or special. So, we don't need to worry about what they might say or think.

No not really. I have never been the one who cares about what others might say or think in response to what i am doing. I have always been the one to do my thing no matter what it is. Its not that i don't respect others feelings, i do respect it but here i am talking about the stuff where there is no offence to others. You know there are a lot of people around you always if you start caring about everyone then you are no longer living your own life.

I care what other people would say or think but it sometimes depends on the situation. There are so many times that I also have to be careful of the things that I say but if it happens that people are not gonna respect what I am going to say then I react.

i also care about what others think or say of my actions..i mean although we can't please everyone but i don't want others to be annoyed of my actions.i got a friend when seldom make me feel really uncomfortable of her..that's why i don't want others to think the same way of me either the way i dress or whenever i speak..

Sometimes it is good to do our own thing as you called it as long as it does not detour to somewhere.

I have never cared what people say. Some people only show themselves to be really dumb by some of the weird things they say. This seem to be more prevalent when they are trying to impress other. However, IMO, liars are the absolute worst people and one I find out that they are liars especially habitual liars I stay far away from them.

No I don't care. I guess since I was teased when I was in school I never felt part of the group and ever since then I do what I want and I simply ignore what people say. I have had plenty of practice.

Hi caliya! You are absolutely right! Don't waste your time with what other's say or think! The only person that matters is you! People will say or think whatever they want to and there is nothing that you can do to change that! The sooner you realize how unimportant they are the better off you will be! That is the real part of growing up and realizing that you are the most important person in your life and always remember that and keep YOU first!

I used to. I used to worry about how I appeared to everyone, before I realized that no matter how you appear to any one person, there's always someone out there who still doesn't approve, understand, etc. A few years ago I thought I'd just focus on making myself happy, rather than others, and since then, I have become happier in life and therefore am making better impressions. There's a few people that I hope continue to have good thoughts and words of me, if only to make everyone's lives easier. My mother-in-law, for instance, or anyone of my husband's family. It keeps connections light and not strained if they have nothing to hold against me. I can't help it nor will I worry about it if someone in his family wants me to be a person other than who I am, however. That's their problem, not mine. So no, not any longer do I care. It's useless. If you go through life hoping to make others happy, looking to have others see you for this great and beautiful person, you'll be sourly disappointed. There are those out there that just can't be pleased.

I cared a lot what others thought when I was younger but I would never have admitted it. My mother used to tell me to dress a certain way or do certain things, to impress my aunts. That always made me very mad! I never cared about fashion trends, I just wore what I liked and was comfortable in. Now that I am older, I don't care at all!

Hi my friend, I don't care about what others thinkng, the only person i care about would be my pareents, my girl friend and colse friends, i think their opinion is intent to make me better.

no no & no!

At one time I used to care quite a lot about what people thought about what I did in life, but then one day, I was attending a Zen workshop and decided that I couldn't live my life worrying about it any more. Not that I am outrageous or crazy or anything like that, it's just that I don't live my life worrying about what people will think any more. _Derek

Hi, caliya. Yes, I do care what they say and think. But only if it is for my own good. I don't pay people any attention when they want me to do what they feel I should be doing. This is based upon them feeling that I should do what they think that I should be doing. That is how they feel, but I never feel that way. People should mind their own business and let me do what I have to do. If they don't like me, then they should go the other way. I am only here to please myself and God, and not them. People are just too judgmental for me.

I think self-esteem has alot to do with it. If you don't have alot then you care more what people think. I do care way too much what people think and I try to change that. I am better than I used to be. It would embarass me alot when my daughter acted out in public.

In my teens, I was so shy I could barely bring myself to say hello to friends, much less strangers. In my twenties, I opened up a little and could speak with co-workers, although I watched every word for fear of upsetting or offending. Walked on eggs around my mother-in-law, who decided without anyone saying so, that I made her son quit college (he left because he played bridge more often than going to classes. Although he passed every test with flying colors, he kept losing a grade for not showing up in class.) In my thirties, I became a manager, which definitely required talking to people since I was the head of the Personnel Department, but still worried about saying the wrong thing to people with titles larger than mine. I found my backbone with my mother-in-law when she insulted my son and tried to mess up plans for his prom. Told her to leave or straighten up. She stayed and finally shut her trap. In my forties, wondered what I had been afraid of all those past years and for about ten seconds mourned that I had not had the guts to speak up. Then decided what's past is past; looked to the future. In my fifties, lived a full, happy life unburdened by giving a dXmn what others thought. In my sixties, am now at home most of the time, caring for my husband, who is either in bed or his wheelchair. AND, I'm darned glad I had at least a few years when I spoke my mind, whether it was about my children, the weather or politics and religion. Today, I've carried my voice to the Internet since I seldom see people from outside these walls and am enjoying it. Although I do not go out of my way to offend, it happens. People cannot see my facial expressions when I post to the Net and sometimes take things the wrong way. If that's the case, I come back to let them know no offense was meant, but if someone is on the other side of an issue in which I strongly believe, and are atrocious to get me to shut up...IT AIN'T GONNA HAPPEN! Getting older is one of the most freeing aspects of living and I'm enjoying it to the fullest.

A lot of it depends on who, what and why..My friends I'll listen to as, often enough, they do have me in mind more than themselves and then I decide to accept or not from there. With other folks I can usually fathom their intent and act accordingly..But to just do my own thing with no regard to the thoughts of others seems too isolationistic to me and I just can't work that way.. Enjoy!

Actually yes is my answer. and in reality most of the people do this, they care for others. otherwise you would not found any fashion store. even those people who are on top are more cautious about others. what ever but this is not good every time to maintain yourself according to other and think about them. because due to these things we are not in the state to live our life freely