What did you get for Mothers Day?
By cbwork6
@cbwork6 (44)
United States
May 10, 2010 10:28am CST
Well another Mothers day has come and gone and it was the same old same old. My family always seems to be out of money on mothers day. So I don't really get anything. I have three kids ages 5, 3, 1. While the 5 year old goes to school she did bring me home a card that she made and a small button with her picture in it. I love it! But it seems as though every year I don't the same thoughtfulness that I put into fathers day. I got up with the kids, I folded 4 loads of laundry, I bathed all the kids, we had lunch, then I got to shower. I didn't even get a card from my husband. I already got my husband his gift for fathers day nothing spectacular but something thoughtful. It is a plate that I painted with the kids hand prints on it and the date and their names next to the hands. I also plan on having the kids make something for him. Did anyone else not get anything?
4 responses
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
10 May 10
Well mine was a little better than that.. but not much, and I'm used to it. See our anniversary was Friday, and my birthday will be this Wednesday, and my oldest son's birthday will be Thursday. All our money is going into his birthday.. it always does. I'm usually lucky to get any sort of gift for any of my holidays. It does bum me out a little, especially my birthday.. Mother's Day isn't really that big of a deal to me, and it really stinks all these holidays have to be smooshed together on me. Oh well!
For our anniversary we went out to dinner on Saturday. On Mother's Day my 7 year old daughter came up with the idea all on her own to take me to breakfast, so hubby gave her the money to do that and she and I went just the 2 of us. Then the twins gave me some handmade presents from school. My 13 year old had apparently forgotten about Mother's Day because he just wrote up a quick card with pencil the night before.
I don't expect my birthday to be anything special at all.. though we will have a party Saturday for my son with my mom and sister, hubby's dad, and a couple of our close friends. I know he'll be happy because normally for birthdays we don't do anything except a cake, a couple small presents, and just us.
I'm hoping I get a gift of some sort.. but I'm not holding my breath.
@cbwork6 (44)
• United States
10 May 10
I didn't mention that he told me he would get up with the kids and then didn't because he didn't come to bed till 4:30 am and there was just no way he would have been able to function. It just seems like I try so hard for him but then I get nothing in return. I am sorry that you have so many things going on in This month that is a lot to handle. My birthday is January 6th so I don't get too much on my birthday either. I think women know how to prepare so much better than men that it is almost unfair for the things we do for our family. Don't get me wrong I wouldn't change my life for the world. But it is hard on me because I try to do so much of my family. Right now I can't work because we can't afford the child care so I am around my kids all the time. I don't really get a break unless it is a quick run to the store once he finally gets home. I guess talking to other people is the only way to get things off my chest and just move past it. I just really hope that at some point he can realize that he needs to prepare a little early. Thanks for your post. Hope you have a great Birthday and a fun time at the party for your son. Have a great day.
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
11 May 10
Marriages only work when both parnters share their feelings, good and bad. If you keep it all bottled up it will just get worse and you'll get bitter and he'll never know why because men don't pick up on subtle clues, you have to flat out tell them point blank. Just tell him calmly and start your sentences with "I feel..." so it sounds less like an attack, and don't say "you always" or "you never". Also try to throw in a compliment or 2 so he doesn't feel like he's being put down. Doing so shouldn't stress him out, and hopefully he'll get the picture and do better next year.
@cbwork6 (44)
• United States
11 May 10
Before mothers day even came I saw a few things on television and told him "hint hint". I actually said that. He got it and understood, but I went away for a week and he said that he was going to take some money from the account for it and when I came home I noticed money was taken out but then mothers day came and I got nothing which means that while I was gone he wasted the money. Also we watched The Middle I don't know if you have seen it but the mothers day one that they showed was pretty much what I got but no gifts and no breakfast in bed. I bet you could find it some where online to watch. It was funny and sad all at the same time. There has been several times that I has forgotten Mothers day all together then I get the really bad flowers that are left over from the closest store. I can remember the second mothers day after my daughter was born, He got me a picture frame that said MOM and a bunch of other writing on it with a picture of my daughter and me in it. I guess mine have gone downhill instead of up. I would tell him but I don't want to stress him out anymore than his job already does.
@sallyj (1225)
• United States
11 May 10
It was that way when my son was young. My husbands favorite saying is "your not my mother." Any time i ask him to help me, or why didn't you remember me.
Back to the subject--My son called on his cell and ask where the beagle was. The dog did not hear them drive in. They were getting ready and was going to be late for church, so they came our way instead. Three kids (5yr, 2yr & 3 month). They brought me a pot of flowers, with each kid's hand print along the side and the 2 yr old put dots along the top. As money is tight, it was so thoughtful of my daughter in-law, as usual. She is great.
@cbwork6 (44)
• United States
11 May 10
That is a nice gift. I got my husband a plate with the kids hand prints on them for fathers day but he doesn't know it yet of course. I am happy that I got to spend quality time with my Family. But it always seems like he gets an amazing fathers day and mothers day isn't so great. I guess maybe I try too hard. I did not get to see my mother this year But I think I will see her on Thursday. That is her day off. I am waiting for the items that I ordered for mothers day still I ordered quite a few so I will just send them out when they get here and I let everyone know that I don't have them yet but they will be coming. They are bracelets. I am glad you had a good mothers day and hope your week and year are equally good.
@jillhill (37354)
• United States
10 May 10
My son came over on Sat. and fixed my leaking kitchen sinks...he pulled out all the plumbing and resealed it....I did get a card from my daughter in Arizona and a package from my daughter in New York...sorry you didn't get anything! Soon when the kids are older you will!
@cbwork6 (44)
• United States
10 May 10
I understand that things will change when they get older but I kind of think my husband should help the kids out with making something like I do. I know that he doesn't really do the craft thing but he could try. I always have to be the one that gets the gifts even for his mother which doesn't really bother me but he doesn't give me any input on what he would like to get her. Thank you for your comment. I hope your mothers day was great and it is always nice to see your kids I am sure.
@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
11 May 10
A hearty kiss on her forehead with lots of prays and good wishes for her good health.
Thank you for this touching post.
Regards,
Thank-s
