How to tell someone to let it go

Hi, To let something go easily, one should first come up with a firm belief that everything that happens, happens for good reason. This is not just a belief. It actually inspires a person to look at the positive side of everything, and indeed there is always a positive side. Nothing can be void of positive or negative aspects. It is a combination of both that makes material things complete. When we loose somebody, does it really change the person we are? Having someone around is just a habit. If that habit can be developed, the reverse habit can also be developed in time. However I firmly believe that you can't convince anybody to let something go unless he understands and appreciates the need of it. There is a duration for which person stay absorbed in his loss. There is a need for this stage of mourning and it is perfectly normal. The duration differs from person to person. But in the end, one has to feel the need for moving on. A break up of some sort usually breaks up the self esteem and confidence. It takes time to build up that self esteem. It definitely gets restored sooner or later. But how quickly one will recover completely depends on how accomplished he thinks he is. As a friend we can remind him that what happened to him will ultimately be beneficial in the long run. We can continuously remind him of his positive aspects, aspects that were his own and existed independently. Not having a certain person around can never change those things. Those are the capital things upon which his morale will be reconstructed. Thanks God bless you

i see were your coming from 100% and yes my guy did ask wat the matter was with me one day a nd i had to come out with it truely even tho how bad i felt after it but im now getting over it it has took me along time but in all consideration im glad i did Jeanii

Hurt is part of love, so dear ones mostly hurt each other where i feel thats not a pain of hurt, but a part of love.

You should tell that person, letting go of someone you love is a good thing. It is self autonomous. It means that you have made that decision yourself and you can come to terms with it because you didn't have it forced upon you. Letting someone go can be the ultimate show of love you love them that much that you will let them go if they will have a better life without you. Letting someone go whom you love is going completely against your emotional nature is an overwhelmingly hard thing to do. Letting someone go who you love can bring so much sorrow, and yet paradoxically so much peace. I know it is hard, but you have to know, what you are doing is for the best.