Some friends create such an annoyance...
By mr_pearl
@mr_pearl (5018)
India
May 11, 2010 9:56am CST
Dear myLotters... Do you know someone who becomes friend easily with anyone? Someone who wins hearts and share things with them? He lies a lot and impress people... Then, he asks for a little help- financial help... A gentleman or lady offers the help without even thinking about it... And then for many months one has to hunt for such people to get back the money... Do you know any such person? I know... And unfortunately, I have seen a lot of such people... And have loaned them my money, foolishly. 95% of them, have not returned it yet...
I have many friends... Friends from my native place, from college where I studied, from offices where I worked... And most of them have been very decent, good and helpful... But the one kind that I have described above have been my worst experience... Thus I have given away at least 100,000 bucks and have not got back any yet... Had I had that money, I'd have been with my sweetheart today, who waits for me beyond the seven oceans and I toil hard to make enough money to get to her.. I hope I'll be with her very soon, as there isn't a lot of time...
How I wish I had saved that precious money, which I had made after such a hard life and a lot of hard work... How I wish God has given me enough brain to understand things... Feel terrible!!!
My Lotter buddies, what is your stand on such people? Have you ever come across any such person? How has your experience been? I am sure it is not as bad as mine have been... Please share how did you cope up with such people... Thank you!
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8 responses
@quita88 (3715)
• United States
13 May 10
I do so feel for you but be honest you wanted to help did you not?
I am sure your lady friend understands and yet you are not with her. What a turmoil you must be in !
God did you brains. He also gave the capacity for helping others. Karma. What goes around comes around and those who owe you will someday feel the pain you are feeling only at least two fold.
I have given money and things to others and never been paid back. I've had to learn that I have to make it seem as tho I have no money and therefore those kind of person doesn't ask.
Truly I don't have that kind of money !
You have learned a valuable lesson tho. You have put your own life on hold in hopes that your goodness would reap you a pay back.
It hasn't happened and next time you will indeed tell the bums I am sorry but I am broke.............
Give yourself a break tho. You tried to help and you too will feel the powers of Karma. I promise.
@mr_pearl (5018)
• India
14 May 10
Hi Quita... Thanks for the comforting response... Yes, I am in an agony indescribable... Yes, it is true that when I helped, I did it with a feeling of kindness towards my fellows... And I feel terrible, Quita, that they haven't repaid yet...
Yes, next time if such a person ever asks for help, my answer is going to be the same as yours 'I am broke...' 
Thanks for this wonderful suggestion.. This statement will keep them away.. I feel terrible now, though... There isn't enough money and I regret that I have given away so much of it, in earlier years... Life is so awful...
Thanks for this wonderful suggestion.. This statement will keep them away.. I feel terrible now, though... There isn't enough money and I regret that I have given away so much of it, in earlier years... Life is so awful...@quita88 (3715)
• United States
15 May 10
No, no , no,no ! Life is not awful ! You helped with kindness in your heart thinking you'd get paid back. It hasn't happened. Tell me tho, have you asked for the money back ??
You might be surprised who will pay you back if you ask and give them the same reason you have given me, your lady ! Or, give them no reason at all. They owe you ...
You really have to always be aware there are scam artists even in your friends. That is one reason to be always BROKE. Do not allow even friends to know how much money you have in your pocket, your bank account or in a jar in the back yard !
You will get to your lady as soon as you can .......she might even come to you???
Life is full of love my dear mr pearl and never forget it.
Can you take on a second job? A part time one??
It wouldn't have to be for long..just long enough to get the cash to go to your lady.
Think on it :)
but again, thanks !
quita
@MaryTheIceCube (72)
• United States
11 May 10
Unfortunately, there are people out there who would take advantage of the kindnesses of people like you and I. I'm quite the trusting individual, though I do try to listen to my intuition about people and their true intentions. All you can do at this point is to learn from the experience, and be more wary next time someone asks you for money, no matter how trustworthy they may seem. Get to know them a little better before loaning them your money, perhaps. I'm sorry this person took advantage of your trust. I have come across people like that in my life as well. I try to see it as a learning experience for the next time. :)
@mr_pearl (5018)
• India
11 May 10
Hi Mary... Yes, I know that I have been taken advantage of, brutally... I have trusted people in a few hours of our meeting and have loaned a few of them.. I have learened a great deal from these bitter experiences... The feeling of regret of giving away so much of money, doesn't go away easily... This is the time, when I need money the most to get to my Love... And I am so helpless..
Thanks for sharing my friend... Have a nice time!
@MaryTheIceCube (72)
• United States
11 May 10
It is true, especially when you need the money the most, that the regret does not fade away easily. I understand that for sure! However, I'm hoping that some miracle happens for you and that you get the money you need to go to your love. Best wishes!!
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
12 May 10
Simple they are the scum of the earth and they Will be punished some day. Please don't feel bad . You gave money out of the goodness of your heart. You are a good person and G-d sees this. I just feel it! And soon you will be with your Lady Love. Keep looking forward not back.
@mr_pearl (5018)
• India
13 May 10
Hi Sarah, thanks for the warm and relaxing and comforting words... I am sure that they'll get their punishment one day... And I don't care about them anymore... It is just that I have spent so much on them... That feeling doesn't go away... I really want to be with my lady... Thanks for your warm wishes...
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@Donbiggy (6)
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11 May 10
Things like that do happen in life not all the money you make goes for better things some will go well and some will lost into tin air we just have to be careful in life because life is all about care fullness if you are not the wise will take it away from you .so try and know be peoele so well before doing anything funny in terms of giving loan study the person well and you know now thing are really bad people are really trying means to be alive because of the rate of hard life.
@marguicha (222856)
• Chile
12 May 10
There are several definitions of what a friend is and each one is suitable for one person. I have lots of friends here at mylot. I mean, those people who ask you for friendship and you aprove. But I would lend money to exactly two of them. They have been friends with me for a long time and I know that they might have a money problem at some time. It is doubtful that they will ask for it though: they are not the "asking for money" kind of people.
As for the rest, I have a big list of what to do first with my money and would not lend money to anyone.
@mr_pearl (5018)
• India
14 May 10
Hi Marguicha... Thanks for sharing... Seems as if you have got perfect friend circle... I Congratulate you... I have been a bit unfortunate though... Things have gone wild and stupid with me.. .Have been betrayed by many whom I had called friends.. You are truly lucky...
Have fun!
@coolsharvan (144)
• India
12 May 10
My advice to u n fellow mylotters s only one wise say:
THINK A 1000 TIMES BEFORE U CHOOSE A FRIEND
BUT
NEVER THINK EVEN ONCE OF QUITTING FRIENDSHIP AFTER CHOOSING ONE!!!!!!
@blue_thr3e (403)
• Philippines
11 May 10
i know someone who becomes friend easily with anyone. but he's the one who's lending his friends money.^_^ he doesn't lie but he always impress people. my first impression of him was that he's such a big bag of wind with a really big mouth. and so i didn't like him. i don't really like people who make friends with anyone easily. they're my complete opposite. i don't get along really well in crowd but he, on the other hand, always stands out. as time went by though, we've become really good friends. as in REALLY good friends. we don't tell each other that but maybe we treat each other as best of friends. i found out his weaknesses and he found mine too. we're both the superior type then, although, i'm more the "don't touch me" type. (but i'm not that snob really, i just look like one). i'm not as friendly as him and i don't talk a lot.
as for someone who becomes friend easily with anyone and steal everyone's money, i'm so lucky i haven't met one. and i probably will never meet one because i don't really lend money to someone who can run afterwards.^_^ also, i don't really have enough money to help them. i'm broke too. as a matter of fact, the many friends i have since grade school, rarely runs to me for financial help. they know i can only offer them comfort (they're welcome to sleep over) most of the times. hahahah...
@mr_pearl (5018)
• India
13 May 10
Hi Blue... You really are lucky... I have had many bitter lessons so far.. .And I guess, I am going to be a little alert when I meet such a person next time.. I surely don't want to get fooled again.. And moreover, I don't have a lot of money anymore...
Thanks for sharing.. have fun!
@anjyell (127)
• India
11 May 10
Dear Pearl,
very sorry......to heat about your situation
luckily I have blessed with very trustworthy friends in my life.But one of my cousin has got into the same situation like you.He toiled hard in his life and done his savings.One of his friend asked him for some financial help when his wife(friend's wife)was going through some operation and lend money from him.And its been around 2-3 years they didn't returned him a single penny.
I just can't blame my cousin since he played a good part in friendship but people like his friends usually are not worthier for being a human being.
