have you ever felt like you're carrying on a roller coaster relationship?
By peyang55
@peyang55 (23)
Philippines
May 11, 2010 10:12am CST
how does one handle this feeling?
something like you're riding a roller coaster -- one day, you feel so high and full of passion; then the next day you don't hear from your partner at all. no explanation, no known reason. just disappears. and this goes on and on.
then, you don't know what to do. will you wait? will s/he be back? or is it over? do you worry that something might have happened? ask yourself what you did wrong? do you get sleepless nights? do you get sad? confused?
my main problem here, i guess, is i really hate riding roller coasters. gives me a headache and a queasy stomach. so, when it happens to me in a relationship, i get the same feeling . . .
4 responses
@kedralynn (980)
• United States
11 May 10
Let's try this again... There was an error and my response was lost...
In the past, all of my relationships were roller coaster relationships. Lots of drama, lots of fighting, lots of breaking up and making up. I've even been in relationships where the fighting got physical. With things being thrown and people getting hit. The times were fighting were horrible. The times after when we made up were amazing. The times in between had me feeling unsure... I thought I loved these guys. Swore I did. But did I really when I was soooo unhappy?
Maybe things are different now because I'm older or maybe because my current partner is more mature and calmer. I'm in a stable relationship today. No fighting and breaking up every other week. No yelling about silly things. We communicate. We're patient. There's still amazing highs. But none of those miserable lows. And the in between times are soothing.
I wish I could give you tips for dealing with the roller coaster relationship. Something to help with all the tears and sleepless nights. But honestly, the best advice is to shape up and fix what's wrong or get out of there. I'm a lot happier now that I'm rid of those up and down crazy relationships.
@peyang55 (23)
• Philippines
13 May 10
sadly, am still on the waiting line again. trying to give him the benefit of the doubt. but i guess, since i am a lot older now, the waiting will be shorter and if ever, the moving on will be faster.
am happy for you that you now have a more stable relationship. i pray that i will also do, someday. if not, then i shall be content with my single-blessedness.
thanks for sharing.
@kedralynn (980)
• United States
14 May 10
I hope you find a good stable relationship too and that you find happiness there. But remember sometimes we have to have those ups and downs and go thru the bad stuff so we can learn to appreciate the good. I know if I hadn't been in those bad relationships, if I hadn't learned from all the fighting, hadn't learned what NOT to do, I think my current relationship would be suffering. I had to learn how to be an equally good girlfriend and how to handle rough situations without causing the roller coaster effect. Good luck!
@ebuscat (5935)
• Philippines
12 May 10
For me it is really matter but if you don't mind everything then you happy not at all and then when it is.
@1anurag1 (3576)
• India
11 May 10
in a relation there is one time only when you are in love with some one.
that was really a very nice feeling. and at that time the whole world seems so beautiful. you will not remember your bad time during the time when you are with your partner. so that is really a roller coaster ride.. lol
@alocure (370)
• United States
11 May 10
yes i have and many times they have all failed because my feelings or their feelings is constantly going up and down sometimes am like ugh why am i still with you if am having these feelings...but how i would deal with it is talk to my partner and see how if she feels the same way and think of something that would make the relationship more exciting and if that dont work am moving on because i just dont want to stick around in a relationship thats going to fail anyway.
