Misusing friendship
By Jotomy
@Jotomy (6322)
India
May 11, 2010 11:55am CST
Some of the people will make friendship for want of some thing from others. If their target is over they will vanish. I experienced such, do you have any experience like this? Share with me.
4 responses
@consultrainer (4991)
• India
12 May 10
YES. I also get well too many such FRIENDS .
But, now i am able to differentiate between ACQUAINTANCES and FRIENDS.
mostly, because of my medical back-ground, everyone I meet, either in social meetings, or in marraige parties, or while travelling, .. I get a lot of business cards, and contacts.
I mostly keep myself restricted to Hai! Hello ! Thankyou ! Have a nice day! or the most is share a cup of coffee, or a dinner ! maximum.
But, yes. People tend to use me, and vanish later
i AM not, these days, expecting courtesy as a return, and so... no regrets about these friends.
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@consultrainer (4991)
• India
21 May 10
Jotomy, an acquaintance is one, who is just a known person. But, a friend is more than that. That is what I wished to convey.. i am glad that you liked my phrase.. once bitten twice shy. you should be careful..
all the best.
@soulist (2985)
• United States
31 Jan 12
I had a friend who would call just to complain about her life and didn't really care about things in mine. After a while I got fed up with it and stopped answering her calls and not really calling her. I would talk to her from time to time but not as much as I did. There is only so much you can take when you feel misused in a friendship.
@Jotomy (6322)
• India
6 Mar 12
Hi soulist, i think your friend misused your friendship right and you are in frustration. But i learned why we should feel frustration, talk to them freely then they may come to know their mistake, we have to give a chance to understand others and forgive others.
Have a good day/night. 
@keep_onwatch (2680)
• India
21 May 10
Yup! I did experience few like that in my life and it hurts. It hurts that ppl don't value friendship and they don't have consideration for others either.
@Jotomy (6322)
• India
21 May 10
Hi keep_onwatch, yeah we will get hurt when we know about the other person that they skip from us. I have a friend, when i was working, she was so close to me, i thought she is my best friend. I and her mother use to meet in yoga classes too. So i used to get information about her through her mother also when i didn't call her or didn't meet her. I even searched for alliances for her marriage too. I did even money help also. Recently she purchased a big house for that she didn't called me, i made a call to her mobile she didn't responded, even my mails have been blocked, i felt very sad, even i got cry. We have a common friend through her i came to know, that she don't want old friends she wants to go for new friends. I don't know how can she changed her attitude i just can't believe this. But i surely know this can't be the reason. The reason will be something else. Hope she will come back to me again.
@Nahsik (205)
• India
11 May 10
Well i'm sorry for wat happened with you.
But no such thing has ever happened with me.
Its because i have a good choice of friends you know.
You should make friends trustworthy only if you have known them well.
Dont let anyone get close to you even if you have the slightest doubt about him/her.
Just be careful in life.
@Jotomy (6322)
• India
12 May 10
Hi Nahsik, I agree with you. Some times its happens without our knowledge. Since i believe everyone will be good. My neighbour girl become so close with me i thought she is a our neighbour and we should help when they need. I given money also. The next day they vacated the house. I thought she planned before itself and without informing me she left. This is making me so unhappy. Till today she didn't respond to my phone call. What to do people will be like this.
Thanks for your response. Have a nice day.
