I am whoever you say I am

I love this. There was an episode of "The X-Files" where a shape-shifter shifted to look like Mulder. He basically concluded, at the end, that while he looked like him, he actually *was* him, because everyone thought he was, and so treated him as though he was. Basically, he decided that we are all who we are, based on how others perceive us to be. I don't know that I necessarily agree with that, but it is food for thought. As for me, gosh. I don't really know who I am. I'm a husband, and son and a brother. One day I'll be a father. I don't like how I look most of the time, but when my wife looks at me, every now and then, I see myself the way she sees me, and I know I'm beautiful. I think I'm not as good a friend as my friends think I am. I have a hard time letting my family into my life, but I don't know why. I secretly fear that I'm not nearly as interesting as those around me pretend I am, but I enjoy living the lie. I'm a good person, but not as good as I've convinced people I am. I sometimes play up my weaknesses for personal gain, which is probably my biggest weakness. Posting this was liberating. Thanks you.

hi LillyBelleDaisyRose Sounds nice to me as a lot of us here I would bet are overweight too, and we too are not perfect either so join the crowd. I am a senior citizen . a woman female type person who is also overweight and a diabetic. I love to write, and journal every day. I have one child, an adult son who is a computer genius, I love to surf the web,and to mylot and through no fault of my own am first in user ranking as I am retired with a lot of time on my hands and little money and I live in this tiresome retirement center.I love pop rocks too. he he.I have long white hair which my best friend Nelda says old people like us should not wear, and know what I like it long.I went back to college to get my degree BA In English at age 54 and graduated at age 56. I wo rked for years as a nurses aide then as a library page but am now retired. thats a big part of me too.

I believe those who love to judge others are themselves lack of self-confidence and has low self-esteem. That is why they must find someone else to compare with so to prove they are better than others. They have their own qualities but sadly they don't know how to appreciate them. What do they gain out of judging others? Nothing but unhappiness, because these people will always find others better off than them. Living this kind of life is most wretched. I can see that you live carefree, enjoying what you're doing and not the least affected by others. This require courage and courage is happiness. For me I'm skinny, but I can eat all kinds of food and don't have to worry about putting on weight. I have a good job and people around me who respect me for who I am. I am very happy for who I am.

people judge others for a few reasons, one they dont understand who or what they are, and what they belive. so they think they should be like them, or just want to trash talk. and sometime they do it because they think they are so perfect. i never judge anyone for who or what they are, i could careless. like if someone is gay who cares, dont push it off on me or touch me. same as someone who is racest, i am not so dont push it off on me and dont talk about it in front of me. now if i am around someone and they are acting dumb or rude then i will say something about that, to me its not judging its speaking the truth about them, so like if someone is being mean and nasty toward someone else

some people judge by how they look and sometimes it is not our fault too if we act just like they said. what a person forget when judging other is one self have some weakness and strength. if we tend to see the weakness of others, we could not see the strength.

I respect people in who they are as persons, and not with how they look. I have friends who are overweight and it does not bother me. I believe a lot people are like that too. Overweights are now treated fairly in the society. As long as you're comfortable with and you feel happy, then you don't need to worry about it. Each of us are unique individuals.

A lot of people are not what other people say they are. People are just trying to take away your shine. They just dislike you because deep down inside they really want to be you. So, instead of befriending you, they choose to be your enemy and talk bad about you. These people are called haters. I'm one of the realest people you can meet and I say it how it is.