Getting older

There are some great responses here and I agree with a lot of them. At 14 it is perfectly natural that she starts being interested in boys, and at that age, your friends are the most important thing in the world to you, often more so than your family, because they are who you talk to when you can't talk to your family. But she is lucky to have someone who loves her. I always felt my older brother was not the slightest bit interested in me, and while I wouldn't have wanted him to interfere and nag, I would have loved some indication that he cared. So by all means try and talk to her, coming from a place of 'look, I love you and I have noticed this, and I know I sound like an interfering old person, but I just care that you live in a way that is going to be happy and healthy for you and these are my concerns'. At least if you have that conversation, even if she is angry or dismissive, she will know that later on if she needs it, you care and she can come to you. Good luck, I wish you and your sister well.

i think that you're scared that your sister is growing up way too fast. i think the best thing to do is just let her be, but still keep an eye out for her. let her make mistakes but just be sure that you're there for her when she makes them. you're right, if you talk to her about it, she'd probably think that you're lecturing her and would think of you as a nag. so just be there for her, she's a teenager and she would do whatever she wants because she thinks she knows best.

i know what you mean. we have a daughter that is 16 and one who turned 13 this year. my 13 year old isnt interested in boys at all but her sister was as that age. it is very tough being a teenager these days. my suggestion to you is to talk to your parents about your concerns.

u should take time to talk with ur sister. talk about how u life,about dreams, about how to achieve them, about the meaning of life. sharing is the best way to motivate and influence others

just always talk to her about stuffs she's doing. dont be like a parent to tell not to do. just tell her that you trust her.

I have a 16 yr old daughter and she was close to what you are seeing. Her brother and I her father set down with her and had a very lond discussion about what our fears were and why we had thoses fears. My son with a very straight face told her that her would not allow her date anyone that he didnt feel was right for here, because she was his sister and he really did love her.She was so taken by his honesty that not only will ask my permission but will now ask her brothers advise too.

Be the good big sister. I know the words you need to tell her and what you think she will hear are two different things but she will have more respect for what you have to say than another adult nagging her about it. Just make sure that you do not talk to her in a condesending way and she should respect you for thinking enough for talking to her about it.

I would say just be there for her. She is going to experiment on many different levels. I had no one to guide me through my life and made many mistakes. But I learned from each one and have moved on knowing what I didn't back then. Let her do her thing but give her your thoughts on the situation, (don't nag) and she can take your advice or not. If something bad comes out of situation be there for her to talk with. Don't make her feel bad about the mistake, I would hope she would learn from it and not go there again. I wish I had someone watching and being there for me.

explain to her your thoughts , your reasons and surely she'll understand it.. :) just be friendly on talking to her don't let her think that you are nagging.. good luck.. :)

It's perfectly natural that you care for your sister and that your concern means you love her very much. Being 14 years old is tough, and your sister's feelings and concerns are valid. She's very fortunate to have someone older like you who actually cares. Try having a conversation with your sister. Begin by saying that you're concerned for her, and tell her that you know what being 14 is all about, along with the other things that she's concerned about. Hear her out without dismissing her and listen to everything she says. When she mentions her friends, don't be judgmental since you don't know her friends very well. The one thing that you should tell her though, is that while she may want to do anything she wants, she'll have to think of the consequences and deal with them when the time comes. This also goes to say that she has to think of what she really wants, why she wants is, and what it means to her. I hope she listens to you, and I hope that whatever comes out of this conversation, you'll be closer to each other than ever!