Sometimes Moving On is Hard to Do

Yes, I had been to this situation once upan a time.That was a hard time for me,I was in a great pain.We fell in love with each other,and we had such a good time.But finally,I didn't what happened,which caused his misunderstanding of me,we broke up at last.... A long time has passed,But I still always thought of him,and tears suddenly fall from my eyes.I just let them go,I don't care!I will get better and better~

I think I'm going to be breaking up with my boyfriend soon. I'm not looking forward to the heartache but I am looking forward to possibly meeting the man of my dreams. I'm going to do it as soon as I get the nerve. Follow the story on my blog at www.boysbagsandshoes.com I wish you the best. It will get easier as time goes on and you will love again, I promise!

..hi.. yeah.. and it's real hard when you're in that situation because you are still inlove with the person.. what I did was to give myself a break.. I cried for several times until I decided that I'm just ruining my life crying over spilled milk.. that's the time that I made up my mind to do my best and forget him.. Sharing also your situation to a friend who can listen will help.. expressing your emotions to somebody will help lessen the load.. they may not give you the best advice but they can be a good listener.. later, you will realize that you can easily talk about your past without crying or feeling bad.. its hard but nothing can help you but yourself alone.. only when you make up your mind and set your heart to move on that you can really move on.. you won't forget easily but you can move on just like anybody else.. remember, its not only you who experienced such pain.. cheer up my dear and let not you beauty fade away because of a person who doesn't deserve your love..

Well if that is the case, I believe that person is still on the stage of recovery and forgetting. I n time that person will overcome all the pain and all the memories, bad and good will subside. Time heals on wound. In time everything will be okay, you'll be surprise one day you have totally forgotten about that guy -- well not really the guy but all the pain that the guy has caused you. Forgiving and acceptance plays a very important role in that recovery period. We need to do that "two" in order to move on truly.

it is really hard to move on especially if you have finally learned to put your heart on what you are doing but as the saying goes everything has its own beginnings and end. the only advice i could give is that one should not hurry him/herself moving on to a someone/something rather he/she should give time for him/herself to heal and to digest the whole event for life must always go on and on.

I have this one special man in my life. He's my childhood love, my first crush, first love. I've been waiting for him. He had this heart to tell me that he loved me too all those times and yet that was not the right time anymore as I was already married to the second best. I made a stupid decision way way back when I thought waiting for him was not wise anymore as I was really hurting during those 10 waiting years. We had an affair that lasted for 3 months. This happened 9 years ago. I admit that I still love him until now but i can say that I have moved on in way. In the sense that I don't cry anymore whenever he crosses my mind. In the nine years after we had that affair, we seldom communicate and the last time we texted was last year. We still love each other but both have moved on. It is the essence of loving -- to let go of a person although you are both in love with each other. It is better that the two of you are hurt that the people around you, especially my kids. Last week, I heard that he is planning to finally marry the mother of his son after 5 years. The girl loves him and was just patiently waiting for him. My husband loves me despite my shortcomings as a wife. My first love will remain in his spot in my heart. It is my heart's choice. I've been doing my best to forget him to no avail. Forcing my heart to get him out of my system just worsen my moving on that's why I just let things go in their own way. I know that he knows I still love him 'till now. I can also that we have the same feelings until now. But, we have let go of the things that are not meant our hold. Moving on is also just a matter of acceptance for you to overcome of the crying blues. I am happy now that he has decided for his own life now.

Yes, moving on is really difficult to do especially if what happened to you really left a big mark in your heart as well as to your life. I've been in a difficult situation wherein not just my future but also my kids' was put in the line. It was hard and too painful to even think you want to move on. It seems that your life has come to a big halt and you aren't prepared for it. Help from friends, (I seek comfort from my friends here)not hesitating to pour my heart's out. Knowing that you have someone you can rely on helps. Wrote everything you feel. I tried this. I have written so many articles about how I feel and it makes me feel better. I read it over and over again until I realized I had enough. Remember the world doesn't revolve around this person alone. Think of your love ones who are still there for you. Think of all the wonderful things you have in your life right now. Think of the love people around you are giving to you with any expectations in return. Remember how he broke your heart. He is not worth it. Cry for a week or month if you want, but do not sulk in a corner and pity yourself for losing him in your life. Love yourself. Remember that you deserve the best of everything. Don't let his memories pull you down.He will not come back to you even if you kill yourself in self pity.For all you know, he is having the best time of his life right now. Remember that God made you special and that no one has the right to make your life miserable. Lastly, accept that he is gone in your life for good. So dry your tears,put on your make up and welcome a new life without him with a smile. There's a whole lot of bunch of good guys out there.Make yourself a better person by being stronger and wiser from that experience.Be proud of yourself so that others may be proud of you, too. Letting you go: IT IS HIS LOSS NOT YOURS! Unless,he is a darling person who went 6 feet under...

Yes, I can relate to this in terms of relationships, but I relate right now more in terms of homesickness! I am grieving for my country. I left England to get married and live in America, I hate it here but am committed to my marriage, so I don't feel I have a choice to leave and go home. I have been here 5 and a half years now. This may not sound like the same thing you are talking about, but one thing I have found interesting when I have thought about it is that it is really the same feeling. I hear a song, or see something that reminds me of home, or my best friend or family, and cry again, even if I am feeling fine that day.

Hello Elle, I have been studying your discussions and comments since you joined myLot. I sensed something inside you. I knew you were in a phase where one can't forgive her ex, moreover one can't forgive herself. I didn't responded to your discussions because this acerbity was quite evident in your discussions. But I believed, like I did in my own case, that it would soon pass. So you may say, I was kinda waiting and hoping for your recovery. I went through similar phase and I overcame it by practically taking no help from others. During the first few days after my last break up, I was totally paralyzed with shock and pain. It was much too strong for me to bear. I was completely gutted inside. I didn't even know what to think. Everything seemed to me quite sour and dull. I didn't even know how to try to recover from that phase. Even before planning something like that I remarkably recovered. Then the next phase came. It was a phase of having mixed feelings of hope and disbelief. I hope that she would be kind and would come back once again. I still couldn't believe that she was gone. But as it was already said and done, I knew that the hope was slowly fading away. The next phase began with a strong wish to pull myself together. At the very beginning a certain thought occurred to me, quite surprisingly. I knew that I had to survive, and by continuously living in the past, it would be rather impossible. So now I really needed to move on. But I didn't have any plan about my near future yet. I started to feel that I wouldn't be able to forget her, unless I sincerely try to forgive her. That was difficult but after trying really hard I finally accomplished it. There still was the hardest thing to be done. It was to forgive myself, for being unwise and cruel to myself, and for constantly ignoring my instincts. I finally realized that I was the sole person who was responsible for whatever happened to me. I didn't repent much, as I knew that wouldn't avail anything. I sincerely asked forgiveness from God. Then I promised Him that I would try my best to follow the righteous path as dictated by my soul. After this phase my true recovery began. Now I am a completely new person, stronger and better than I was ever before. I now sincerely thank God for letting me have this invaluable lesson in my life. It actually changed my entire life. Thanks God bless you

I'm going through a similar situation at the moment... I am so in love with my boyfriend, and I have tried to break up with him, and even though he leaves me alone it is always me who phones him or texts him, and then I break down, and I can't handle it anymore. I am so scared of being with out him, and so scared of feeling that pain again, I just let things ride at the moment, until I find a stronger side to deal with the pain. It is the worst pain I have ever felt, and I was a mess the last time, and I have children to take care of which makes it harder:(

yeah..it really is hard to move on sometimes. i had a childhood sweetheart who grew up together with me. we were close and moved apart. got back together for about 4 years, then circumstances brought us apart. finally when we did get back together, after working hard to make sure it happens..it was a glorious time for me. very magical, very special. and then her parents wanted to marry her off to another guy. just because that person's father has more money and is more influential, her parents thought that would be a better husband for her. and there was nothing i could do about it.. so, here i am. so and so years later. i'm in a new relationship already. and we're planning to tie the knot soon . but sometimes, just sometimes..the memories come back and sends a painful jab into the heart. i know i've moved on. but i don't know if every part of me really did move on...

i have been in a three year relationship with my first boyfriend now my ex. things didn't turned out right for the both of us. he wants something that i can't give it that easy/ you know what im talking about. finally seek into others girls attention . he gets what he wants from them from them. i do really love him but if can't wait to make things the right way and for that proper time to do it then go ahead . i can survive without him around. its just like going back into basics anyway. i went out with my friends all the time. my parents knows what i have bee dealing and they were very supportive. they even encourage me to go shopping and go pamper myself.

anyway ,time will tell .you don't need to try hard to forget .the more you try ,the hard you could forget .everything will change as time goes by .you will let it go eventually .and you will fall in with another people .cuz time is so long and it's enough for you to love in another .