Think Twice About These Marriage Rules

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Thank Yahoo! I just read this article where it listed the 9 rules one shouldn't follow. Here they are: 1. Never go to bed angry. 2.Always be 100% honest. 3.never vacation without each other 4.If you fight, you are headed for a divorce 5.Once you have children, they come first 6.You should never sleep in separate beds 7.Partners should sync up their hobbies 8.If there is no spark, you are doomed 9.Boring is bad. Never go to bed angry? If I am angry I Can't go to bed. I have to focus on the solution or the proper revenge.But I can see agreeing to disagree.That's what the article said to do . Agree to disagree and revisit the issue later. I'm sorry , I am Always 100% honest. But I Am Never mean or rude. There is a way to talk about something you hate or what is hurtful Without hurting your partner's feelings.The article said you " need to be polite and caring when it comes to your partner's feelings."Never vacation without each other? Why not? If you are lucky enough to agree on the Ideal vacation , like my buy and me, Then Go together. But what if you like the mountains and he Needs the beach. Why not go on separate vacations?If you fight, you are headed for divorce? No! It all depends on How you fight.If a good argument clears the air , you two may remain together. The article said the couple who never fights because they are holding back to avoid a conflict are more likely to split. I always thought once the children come , they come first. It is one o the reasons I Never wanted children. But the article said that a couple who make their relationship top priority is better . Kids need to " see you in charge and they feel safe and more secure with parents who are in a loving relationship."you should never sleep in separate beds. Well , I remember my mom saying she preferred to sleep in her own bed and she was married to my dad for 35 years!One partner can be a morning person and the other a night owl.The article said " Getting a good night sleep is crucial to the health of your mind, body, and marriage."Syncing up hobbies can be impossible. And the article said, " giving up your passion is to akin to forgoing your independence.Without independence in a marriage , people feel trapped." Funny I Thought I was suppose to feel trapped! Lol! But I can understand going and doing your hobby Without yor mate may be a good thing.and Sparks? Who truly expects fiery hot passion from beginning to end? The problem , many feel the passion wains the relationship is over and they look for someone else.And last but not least, Boring is bad? I think they are talking about a relationship Without Drama. Ok. The less drama the better I guess. The article was saying Knowing where you spouse is and being in a routine is a good thing. Your thoughts.