what do you think of a single mother having a baby girl

yes thank you, i just hope i can teach her and show her the good way as im also a single mother alone with all the problem in my head so im scared if i really can guide her alone. Its my first baby and i never had any responsibility before even to my family coz im the youngest and normally i can get whatever i want, im just scared if i can be a good mother and if i can give her all things that can make her happy since she doesnt have a father. i know i will going to learn a lot in the future though right now im just scared. ill just lift it all to god.

If you teach her to be strong, and she doesn't need a man/partner to feel whole, she will take those lessons with her when she's older. Exactly!! I was a single mother and both my son and daughter have become amazing, strong, independant, loving young adults..because thats how I taught them and raised them... Regardless of what many think..a child DOES NOT NEED both parents to grow up happy and successful..what they DO need is positive, loving role models in their lives..

It's normal to be afraid, but you still have a few months to get your life on track, as we say. Look forward, not back and find the strenght in yourself to teach her what you want to teach her. Believe me, it's there, you just don't know it (yet). Have a great day

i have no idea if he will come back again as i dont know where he is now, he already transferred to another place and i dont know where, his mobile is no longer ringing, his no longer in his previous work as i heard he already transferred to another place and got new work, i just wonder if theres another girl that make him change a lot, i really dont know, though someday if he comes back maybe i will let him for the baby sake but not for me as i already promise to rather look for another guy than accept him again after what he did to me, he totally crushed me to the ground without nothing.

oh sorry with the words ruin, i just felt that way when he left me as during that time i felt like he left me hanging as i dont have job so i was thinking that time of where to get money, frankly speaking, the money i used for my prenatal check up and prenatal vitamins, including the money i pay for my ultra sound is actually coming from my earnings online thats why im so thankful to have my online earnings as it helps a lot though so sad coz some are scam. anyway, i felt so ruined that time as like ive said as i dont know where to go since i have no money and i really felt that he totally smashed me to the ground leaving nothing for me. though i thank my sister nor family for helping me even though they already have their own family but then they cant give me money coz i know they have their own expenses too, so i only live with them for free lodging, free food and free electricity but all in all im still the one whose trying to look for money to support me and my baby's need. if looking at what my life before as compare to now i really felt that i was totally ruined and im just starting to pick up the pieces one by one to start a new.

thank you, though im happy and scared for my baby's future, i just wish she will have a good future and not be victimize with those irresponsible guys out there like what happened to me as i know its very painful, emotionally, physically and even financially coz i dont have any job right now. though im just lucky to have my siblings and parents who supported me all the way.

yes i know that you know my story since from the start of my pregnancy since i open it here and im glad to see you here still, im just scared of having a baby girl coz you already know how risky it is to have a girl for the fact that we always burden everything specially when it comes to love and we got pregnant since guys can easily get out if they dont want responsibility, though in girls whether we like it or not as we carry the baby then we have no choice but to accept the fact. and thats what i dont want to happen to her in the future though i know its still far from now but i just wish she will not going to be on the same situation as what i have now.

yes your right, its my first time to be a mother so i guess i need to just enjoy the moment than think of any worry. besides i know god will not let this happened to me if he knows i cant get it through, and i know im not the only person whose with this situation though i wished to have a boy but having a girl is not really bad as maybe god have other reason why she gave her to me.

yes i guess your right, women are really prone to risk when it comes to love whether the father is around or not as it really depends to them, and i guess its alright to have a girl since im also a woman so i can tell her what a woman must be and must not be as ive been there already. since i can relate to her and she can relate to me. though i really dont know if i can give her enough time as i might going to be busy with work since i will be the one supporting us, i just wished i can. though good thing is that girls can easily bond each other so maybe we will. im already excited to see her now and i cant wait to start a life with her.

congratulations! i wish for you and your baby's future.. =) well., almost all the advices are give to you.. for me, don't be scared of having a baby girl.. think of it as a blessing from GOD.. think of it as an OPPORTUNITY to raise a girl whom you have wanted you to be.. (i'm not sure if my grammar is right.. LOL) as she grows, it will be a very good feeling seeing your daughter heading to the path you have always wanted to reach when you were still not pregnant with her.. and if it's a boy, i can visualize him, protecting you, being a father to his own siblings and being strong for you.. children are angels sent to us.. don't think being a single mom is a burden, if you are busy with your work, think of her/him as a pain reliever and stress remover..=)

thanks, yes whether its a girl or boy, the baby is still a gift from god and need to take care with.

one thing i also scared with a girl coz what if i found another guy and what if that guy is not really a good guy, like here in our country we had numerous cases of rape even as early as a baby by a step father. since i cant be with my child for the whole day coz im sure i will also going to be busy with work those time, i just cant help but think of those things. as i know for sure that if its a boy no one can harm him sexually even if i have a new partner or not. though i just lift it up to god so god will protect her all the way.

yes your right, physically, emotionally and financially its not really easy while the guy is just having fun for sure, he didnt even know the hardship ive been into and i guess i have no idea if im going to accept him again as if somehow someday he will shown up again maybe i dont want to see him but for the child sake only.

thanks