Understanding Cheaters.

I have often heard that people cheat because of the way the other person makes them feel. Not the way they look or how much they weigh, but the way they feel when they are with them. This is usually a feeling that is lacking in their current relationship. This does not excuse the cheater, but it may explain their motivation. This is a popular theory at least. Not sure what I think about it.

First of all there is not such a thing as ugly people, but people who, according to social standards, aren't necesarrily compatible with mainstream's social preferences. What is beautiful in western culture might be ugly in an oriental one and vice-versa. There is no global/common shared sets of values/norms and common understanding of them. However, coming back to the "ugly" part. When a person who is usually socially avoided has the chance to be in the arms of a someone, not only that offers her/his EVERYTHING to his/her partner (from making love like there is no tomorrow till offering his/her sould, his/her life, his/her dreams, practically everything). An asymetric relation (in terms of beauty) makes the beautiful partner capitalize alot of things easier than with a beautiful guy/woman. The "uglier" partner, also affected by the social norms, will compensate his/her partner's looks with something else (love, money, protection, etc). An asymetric relationship (in terms of beauty) is apparently easier to obtain, easier to maintain, easier to give up. Yet, there is no such a thing as a common recipe for beauty. Neither for phisical or spiritual beauty. Yet this is how a supperficial person might think. But again, there is not such a thing as ugliness. Evaluating people with social instruments of beauty is just an atavic reminiscence of our stupid evolution.