Online Chatting? Virtual relationship? Is it love?

Figuring out whether he or she is the one is the same online and in real life. The question "how do you know?" is just as prevalent in both sides of life and so is the answer: "you'll just know." I'm in a relationship that has to date spanned 5 years. We met in a chatroom and since then, we've been going strong in every way. Our situation is by no means unique to other long distance relationships. We chat, use the webcam and talk on either Yahoo or Skype. 5 years seems to be an awful lot of time to wait to see the other one in perosn. But that's part in our story is different post altogether. My bf's grandparents (he was raised by them) wrote letters to each other for 2 years before meeting and eventually marrying. It really is no different. Of course, the difference is we talk more frequently than what regular postal service offers. A long distance relationship isn't for everyone. So let me sum it up: Yes, it can be real love, but only for the lucky few whose long distance relationship works and has blossomed.

I think when it comes to matters of the heart, anything is possible. There are others seeking love online either accidentally or not, as well as those whom have agendas of their own; like looking for affairs and etc2x. That's where the being cautious online have to come into place, because you never know what this person or that person has in mind. But I do agree that great friendships can be formed online too; whether through chatting, emailing, video chatting, msn(ing) and many more instances. Good topic.

two true stories for you!!! My daughter's brother n law met his wife on line she lived in California, he lived in Michigan. They got married in 2002 and now have a baby girl. He has moved to California...so far all is well.... My daughter n law's father met a woman on line, divorced his wife, gave up his job, cashed out his 401k and everything, moved to Australia and married this woman, then she found someone else and they divorced and he moved back here. Now he has no home, no job, and barely a car that runs. so there you are there are no guarentees in life or online!!

Sure it's possible I met my hubby in a chat room back in '97 & we've been married for 10yrs. I think online relationships are no different than any other relationship really. I knew my hubby was a keeper when he called me everyday and was super upset when he had to leave to go back to the other side of the country. He was going to his sister to trash his stuff he wasn't going back but she convinced him it would be the right thing to do to tie up loose ends there before returning. I dunno I figured we did well online, in person the week he was here, and on the phone he was worth a shot. Especially when he told me about moving back here after meeting me and meeting with his old boss to get his job back! Really all you can do is take babysteps and do what you feel comfortable in doing.

Don't know how they figured it out, but that's how my son met his wife and they have been married eleven years in October. They just seemed to know and it's working just fine.

On my point of view, true love is for them to find out. When they got married, in many things they have to adjust and learned from it. They will passed the test of time. Adversary would come. But during the courtship or flirting through online, true love is not yet there. They lured of the sweet words and hot dollars that is why they will come to marriage. Some people look for a relationship and get marry for convenience. Well, some didn't get the luck financially. Some get a change of a lifestyle when suddenly their pocket has plenty of dollars. There must be some kind of acting there to project thet they truly love each other. I believe love developed only when they are together,when they discover each other emotionally, when they know each so well, that's the time they will learn to love each other. Some came from a broken marriages and that they wanted to start for a new one. Some want somebody to look for them when they get older. It needs an instinct to choose a partner through online.

i use chat and have made some friends on it, i've met one in person and he is real nice. i've got friends overseas that i chat to, but know it will be a long time before i get to meet them. i feel we have got a good friendship, going and that's going more with gut instinct. u never know who we may meet about the place and having friends in the right places is always a good thing.

I dont think anyone really gets to know someone till they've lived with that person and then its still a toss up as whether you really know them. my son has gotten this darn long distance relationship from online. shes come to visit once and did not really like me. ive never had such a problem with people till living with my son i met my last hubby on the telephone dating line. he was the love of my life soul mate. so, yes, it can go either way just like if you meet them at a social setting.

i think we can say, love is mystry or love is blind. sometimes we can say thats they are crazy.but they their self more know whats happen with them. sometimes it is impossible for us when hear from chatting we can love someone but for some people it`s possible

I think that there is a part of you that immediately knows if there is a future with a relationship whether it is a relationship that is started in real life or if it is a relationship that is built from the internet. My relationship with my husband started nearly nine years ago on the internet and we met about a month after we started chatting on the internet. When we met in person I knew that he would be the person that I would be spending the rest of my life with. We've been together since then and I can't imagine my life being any different.

Hello I have so many chatmates around the globe, but i never visit any chatroom, i have heard about scammers there, if you see the person in cam with whom you chat, then only it is good, becoz many in net are 'virtual' they are not what they appear to be, many men pose as women and viceversa.. Thanks for sharing. Welcome always. Cheers. Professor

Awww kababayan i love your topic and found you are from pinas me too, ehehehehe, im from manila but i live in sudan for 10 years na and i really am a net addict and naku i should say then it is really so so possible to fall in love through chatting and through the net agree ako dyan no doubt, just that last line you wrote oo nga how can we be sure been passing through many virtual relations and ouch its a lot more cryings and heartaches and lyings but sure i can assure really in a million you fine one who is really so true and honest and yes all depends in just the two persons communicating everything its just between the 2 persons which i can be so sure on everything they say and give for each other and how the relationship is being handled and of course always time tells in later. hope to hear from you again always i hope to see you write many things ehehehehhehehhe. hugs...

Chatting with someone you've never seen personally makes one's imagination work as how he could look like in person or it makes one fantasize about someone as her dream guy. This could be love of some sort. Or I think just a dream come true for some.

For me, I don't believe that people will fall in love on the net. For most people would like to flirt on the net. Well that is my opinion. I dont know to some but for me is not relationship love. Its more on cyber love. It means it is outside reality in a virtual world.

Well, love is felt via our hearts.. IF one is bend on lying, and giving all the too good to be true promises, and yet cant even fulfil any simple ones, then those are really liers.. haha =D Most love or relationship started out when both parties are able to get along well, and it's really not easy to find someone whom can be thinking on the same wavelength as us, especially in a site with 100s of thousands of ple?? hehe ^_^ With that fate, feelings will change, and we will start falling.. With days and hours of getting to know each other, love might blossom, and thus a realtionship is borned.. haha =D

You can't until you get into a relationship with the person and try it out. It takes time and faith and hopefully you find that your instincts were good.

I have never had a romantic relationship with someone I met online but I have made some good friends. As far as romantic love goes, there are many facets to it for a meaningful relationship and in my opinion, that cannot happen until both people physically meet. Online communication can build the foundation, sure, but I don’t think it’s enough until the two people meet face to face and spend some time together.

well, even in face-to-face encounters, it is always difficult to say when one has found true love. the basic difference is in the distance, but even this has been addressed by modern technology, specially now that we have webcams. i believe the most important things for a successful relationship, whether online or not, is a sufficient amount of honesty and mutual respect. any relationship should be two-way; otherwise, it can't be called a relationship. i have friends who have had successful online relationships and i have heard of some who were not as lucky. perhaps, the success or failure of an online thing is really dependent on the individuals involved

well, even in face-to-face encounters, it is difficult to say whether "it is true love" -- the basic difference is the distance. but modern technology has addressed this also, especially now that we have webcams. i believe the progress of a good relationship, whether online or in person, really depends on the individuals involved. if both parties are honest and give the necessary amount of respect to each other, then there is much hope for that relationship. i know of a a few who have met the love of their life via the internet and have heard of some who were unscrupulously "used" by their partners. i guess there are really no strict rules where falling in love is concerned.

Finding true love nowadays is easy because we have the latest technologies like internet surfing, online gaming, online chatting and so much more but still you shouldn't stick with just online relationships, sometimes it makes you frustrated somehow because some guys pretend to be a woman just to fool people. Honestly I'm not against with online relationships but just be careful when searching our missing piece in the web that's all.