Marriage Life...

it's funny, when a couple gets married, things turn upside down. my opinion here is that when COMMITMENT comes in, different reactions are seen. at the start of the relationship, without marriage everything was smooth. the relationship is smooth sailing. though there are fights but it can easily be patched up and back to the old loving ways. but when marriage comes in, different scenarios comes in. that's when the trouble starts pouring in the relationship. there's no perfect formula for a marriage life. but i believe that understanding, forgiving, loving, and caring would make things owrk out great.

No, marriage is not the answer. Love of your partner is.

It is said that - 'either one could be happy or married' Marriage has many plus points and it is better to be married than remaining single.

I don't think marriage should ever be an answer or a solution. I think that's what makes marriages go wrong because people enter marriage thinking it's going to solve something or make things better. If things are bad to begin with, marriage isn't going to fix that. The couple has to do that themselves. Marriage can be a beautiful thing. I've been married for almost a year now and I wouldn't change it for the world. Yes, we argue. Yes, he makes me mad sometimes and I make him mad. Some days I really can't stand him. Most days I miss him so much because we work opposite hours, so we don't always get to spend a lot of time together. But that's how it was before we got married, too. Marriage didn't solve anything. It was a way for us to show how much we loved each other and to vow to be together for the rest of our lives. Nothing more, nothing less. I know a lot of people that view marriage as being a solution. Like we argue now, but we won't argue when I'm his wife! You know, things like that where it's clearly denial. If things don't change before a marriage, they won't change after it either.

for me being "married" is simply being with the person you love. It goes beyond the piece the piece of paper we call "marriage contract". For some people even without the ceremonies nor the paper, they are happy. Where for other people, even with the formality and even after going the through the lavish ceremonies, they just end up hating each other. For me, marriage is about love, respect for the person you're with.. and respect for yourself as well. No relationship will last without any of those three..

you are right.but many of them are living with their life partner for their children. this marriage is not ever lasting happiness. no couple without fight. but fight is not life. it may change. many of the people will get happiness after their marriage.

LIke many said, marriage is the grave towards to freedom.. haha =D MUch as many wanna deny, but it's the proven truth, with more and more such unhappy cases now.. Getting along well is one thing, while living together and sharing of personal space, is entirely different thing.. As such, marriage is not as simple as it seems to be, and no matter how high of tolerance one has, will they be able to hold back their displeasure over the years?? I dun think so.. haha

i don't think it's totally in the marriage for one to say that he or she is happy and secured. even one who is a single parent is happy, contented with his or her life. i could believe that with a stable job, a respectful child is a total security and could also give everlasting happiness. there are even a few i know, that they opted to have a child but never thought of getting into a marriage.

Hello PTzkoh!! You get married because your going to a different level. Now it's not just you your going to think about your partner as well. You became one when you get married. You decide and do things together. It is security and happiness for some if you know what love and marriage is all about. It's not always a bed and roses every partner should know that they should be financially physically, emotionally and spiritually ready as well.

well, i dont think so. if you know what your role as a partner is then marriage is not the answer to security. as a matter of fact, there a lot of married couple who then got separated. so it only shows that marriage is not the answer for security. however, it advisable to be married with the partner for some legal purposes..