how to be a christian friend...

You might have some problem there. lol. I know, CHristians are known to be sympathetic and kind people. Hmm. Well, what you can do is pray about it. Ask God to help you to be more patient when listening. About your words, we do have a verse that goes something like a mouth is like a dagger, i forgot. But the point is, we really have to be careful with the things you say. As Christians, we really have to change some habits of ours. That's why Christianity is a process to be like Christ. We change for the better.

I was told by a friend that when you are able to help a friend who is in need in whatever way, you have to be happy because you are an answer to this persons prayer. Giving godly advice to a friend is really hard especially if the friend is not a believer but still this doesn't stop us to help and give advice. I read that in giving comfort and giving Godly advices it would be better to share with this person your own personal experience where is this friend can relate into at the same time tell them how you got out of the experience and how God help you get out of the experience. Being a Christian friend doesn't necessarily mean you have to read out all comforting verses from the Bible because if the person doesn't like to listen to it, it won't have any use. Just listen and goive comfort without judging the person will help a lot.

You might find the answer by reading Jesus' "Sermon on the Mount" found in Matthew chapters five through seven.

I too have this problem and I always pray and ask God to help me and change me cos really I want those gentle qualities I admire in others. Best way is to live close to God, surrender to His will on a daily basis and let your self life die that hE may live

To be a Christian in today's society is very challenging, especially if most of our friends are not Christians. However, as Christians, we have a responsibility to share your experiences good or bad to your non-Christian friends and allow them to choose for themselves if it is a direction they want to take. To be a Christian friend, one must lead by examples and show concern for your friends, neighbors as well as your community. One of the most important fact I learned quickly about being a Christian is that you cannot force your religion to someone else or demand someone to be a Christian as a pre-qualification to your circle or to be your friend. With either approach, you will not succeed. Religion is a sensitive and serious subject, please allow someone to make that decision, the same way you have, when they are ready. Your job as a Christian friend is to be there for them when they need you and not be judgemental all the times. We all make mistakes, even Christians.