Should Husbands and wives have the same educational level?

Do husbands and wives with the same educational level guarantee a couple with a happy and successful marriage? As with most other reasons cited for the holy matrimony there has never been a guarantee for a happy and a successful marriage. And never will. A happy and a successful marriage doesn't mean one without quarrels and conflicts. Instead quarrels and conflicts make up a part of married life. But how a couple resolve their quarrels and conflicts may just be a part of that happy and a successful marriage. In my limited view a happy and a successful marriage is what we make it out. It is a common consensus, a choice adopted by two adults, the husband and the wife. It is a decision to be made. It is also a skill, a skill not necessarily acquired from the institutions of higher learning but may be just a simple knowledge from the school of life. Learning from one's own experiences and the experiences of others, one's own commitments and undertakings all assume roles in making or breaking a marriage. The same educational level may help or may not help either.

I think that this is not a question of educational level but more of emotional intelligence. It happens that wives with obtained University diploma stays at home at looks after the household. Maybe it is the problem in some parts of the world, but it surely is not the same all over the world! And no, home life is possible without conflicts! Even if there are money problems, wise couple will never make a battle out of it, because problems come and go, but family remains all the time the same. We have to take good care of it. And the amount of incomes or the level of obtained education should never be a reason to feel somewhat superior or weaker. It is just a diploma in order to obtained some working skills! Even if a wife with a highest education stays at home, she still can forward her's knoledges to the other members of the family. And today, I know many people who have obtained a diploma of University but works as a seller in a fast food snack bar. So, diploma is never a guarantee of respect, success and a good job.

For me no matter if you have different level the important is know how to be humble and wife must subject to his husband.

I guess the degree doesn't matter as long as you respect, love and value each others opinion. My mom and dad had the same situation, my mom finished her masters while my dad wasn't able to proceed in his masters. They talk calmly and value each others opinion. Educational level has never been a problem to them, maybe because they are both mature and they love each other so much.

no. a couple can be happy as long as they understand and love each other. they should have a give and take relationship and they should help each other for their development.

It's best if both people in a relationship have the same education level , so that one doesn't feel superior over another. Also if one partner is more educated, this leads to the other partner feeling that they're not as valuable in the relationship. Depression can result because of this. Also this might lead to partners competing to be better than each other in particular fields in order to feel of value. However , if the feelings of love are mutual between partners , then a difference in education level shouldn't really affect anything. In fact , if having different levels of qualification does damper the love , then it shows how weak a relationship is...

Not exactly the same educational level, but each one should be able to know how to communicate with each other. Sometimes there are couples who get troubled in their marriages because there comes a breakdown in their communication because one gets offended because they cannot understand what their partner is saying.

In our community where we go in for arranged marriages in a big way [i n select households]we always see that the boy is better qualified than the girl.Personally I feel that it is easier for a boy of superior intelligence an d capability to respect and toelrate his wife than what a girl does. Mine is a statement based on what I have felt and seen .If you ask a libber woman she would say that a boy of inferior capacity cannot tolerate a woman of superior intelligence or capacity [I have heard this personally from women libbers]. Ultimately I would put it down to the level of maturity ,expectation and tolerance in a person.

here in our country, it's more acceptable if the man's educational attainment is higher than that of a woman. ours is a conservative culture, being asian, so our society dictates men to be the macho type, the breadwinner, with lots of superiority complex over female species (yes, a paternal society). if a woman is smarter than them, they get insecure easily. so to maintain their status in a family, they often choose a woman of lower social status. luckily though, our culture is evolving and women empowerment is growing. as a result, we, women, don't want to be the underdogs in the family anymore. so men can save their egotism for their selves. hahahah... most now settle for same educational level between husbands and wives.^_^ i personally think, it's better that way as i don't want to be dominated by any men AND i have the tendency to dominate them if i think i'm better. hahahah...

no they should not, but maybe not too far away. so they can still communicate better. can you imagine when your husband talking about tech but you don't understand at all? they should complete with each other weak.

In my case we are both university graduates. My parents have the same educational background too, and so do my inlaws. I think it helps a lot. Nobody feels superiior or inferior and understanding, discussions and talking are more level and understandable. I know a couple where the wife is with all due respect very dumb, and the husband is a university graduate and holds an executive position. I do not know whether they quarrel a lot or not, but what i am sure of is that whenever i meet them the husband always makes fun in some way or another of his wife and her stupidity. That is not fair even though she really is a bit ignorant. But he should have known her educational level, and she should tell him to stop doing this to her.

i'm really not sure if both should have the same educational level but i am quite sure that even those with the same educational level does not mean that the marriage will succeed. they should have the same "wavelength." i think quarrels have to do more with financial matters. hmm. on the other hand maybe you're right, especially if the society both live in dictate that men should be the bread-winner and the more "superior" one at home.

well,like my parents..they got different eductional level..my mum has a master but my dad only got a degree..but my dad is alot smarter than mum my but he kind of busy to further study now as he got a great position which is the head of chemistry department while my mum is a teacher..although my mum got a master but my dad is better than her..

According to me, we do not need an equal education as long as both of them understanding each other... Higher education daesnt mean we can make ourself superior and remember husband and wife are one (your wedding promised)

I don't eduacation has anything to do with how a couple has a relationship. I think if you both respect eachother for whatever career choice, etc that the other has chosen, that is what is important. Love and respect.

Levels of education should not fall necessarily to one gender in particular. Men women or husbands and wives should have equal opportunities to share in this. Everyone should have the chance to shine here.

well friend its like 65 percent to be on the same level as when it comes to the question of ones self respect and dignity may be when one have to move in the society where there is world of remarks,slangs,one should have this treasure with one self to counter the proud persons all around!!as it may be husband or wife both have their own grind and in order to be cushioned from the slangs both should be ready!as it may happens that in the society your better half starts degrading you for your education,and feels you are not equal to him or her this is very minute complex which accurs even if you day that it doesnot matter that my partner is not educated as i am!!o think you understood my point??

Gosh...should this be discussed here? I think it depends on the spouse themselves, how to manage their households and so on. What is needed most is understanding and sacrifice from both sides. Regardless of the level of education that one might have, in the end the conclusive part relies on whether the couple themselves want the relationship to work, but then again, it requires a lot of sacrifice. I respect those who are willing to give up most of their self-interests just for the sake of making the relationship a relationship. That's true love. And pick your partner wisely, for you don't want to end up regretting having made the choice.

People have different preferences regarding choosing a lifetime partners. For practical reasons I would prefer my partner to have the same educational level as mine because its really a fulfillment if you marry a guy/girl with same as your educational background besides both of you can go to work to boost your family income. On the contrary I would choose my lifetime partner with not the same educational level as mine but to be sure that I have a higher degree above her. For some reasons she will become a good housewife of mine since I don't want my future babies to be taken care of by maids, I will choose the best care for my babies and that's the mothers care. Whatever preferences you choose it may varies with your personality.

Yes,this is a common problem for a lot of people. I think that different people have different views about this problem. For one thing,some think that husbands and wives should have the same education level in daily life because only this way shall they avoid quarrelling in everyday life. Of course, they don't always quarrel.Just because of some trival matters in their lives. For another thing,they think not. In their lives, they may quarrel,but not because of their educational level,but because of other reasons,such as raising the family,earning money or educate chilren and so on.If a husband has a higher education, that doesn't mean that they will quarrel wiht each other. On the countrary,they will be in harmony with each other. So in my part, I prefer the latter one.