No Time for the Partner

My partner works A LOT. We live in separate towns sometimes as my job is in one town and his is in another. Sometimes we'll go a week without seeing each other. Other times I'll stay with him and still not always see him as he works 12 hours days. Sure it upsets me and I miss him but I also understand that in our case, he works those long hours for us. He's making money for our future together so that hopefully one day we can live in the same town together and have more free time together. It's not easy and we struggle with it from time to time. But we're devoted to making it work and to being understanding of the situation. It won't always be this way but for now it is. We both accept that and try our best not to get angry if the other person winds up having to work. I'm sorry you feel you're only giving and not receiving. Many of my past relationships were like that. I felt like I was the only one giving it my all. And that's not a good relationship to me. Both parties need to compromise. Both need to work at the relationship. You're supposed to be a team.

Look at the bright side. She may be really very busy. However, I think you should talk with her about your problem. If she can make some changes, then that means you two may be for ever. But if she does not want to change anything, I think you should reconsider this relationship.

I'll try to explain to her how one sided the relationship has become.If she is willing to listen you could talk it out.Otherwise its no fun in such a relationship especially in the long term.When one person feels he is giving in a lot or there is no adequate consideration for his views then in the long run that relationship will be in trouble.The best is to sit and talk and see where that leads us to.

Wow, that is so sweet of you to do that for your girlfriend. She appreciates that, I could tell because I'm a girl too. Anyway, I have too much pride in me so I think if I were in your situation, I'll probably ask for a cool off. But as you've said, you love her. You don't need to think that you have to receive more because love is giving.

I will talk to her about this and make some adjustment according to what you have agreed.