Are you obsessive about your half pat??
By umit_umit
@umit_umit (1984)
India
May 16, 2010 5:51am CST
Are you obssesive about your wife or husband?if you are not then dosenot it will take you away from them as if you will stop worrying and asking them about their routine life their thoughts it can so happen that they may be not intrested in you??or what is your prespective in this matter??you shoul be obsessive or not??how to find a correct solution?
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4 responses
@greenace (123)
• Philippines
16 May 10
hi there umit_umit..you mean possessive?any relationship should be built on trust and when you say you love someone you should, by all means, give him the space he needs (if there's some point in your relationship that you think your other half is not being himself/herself). insecurities at times do drive a person to act that way and i think that will, eventually, force the other person to shun, if not be more discreet, of what they think, even with what they are doing. it doesn't mean, however, that you would neglect your partner (as if he/she is non-existent). balance is needed in everything one does. you should know when something is enough. look for cues from your partner.
@greenace (123)
• Philippines
17 May 10
that's my point..but should be taken on a positive note and communication with the partner should be more of an assurance that you are mature enough to accept his/her response..people do play games at times, to manipulate or drive the other person into believing that he/she understands the latter when in reality the former is just verifying his preconception. remember, what you sow is what you will reap.
@umit_umit (1984)
• India
18 May 10
yeah you got it very right friend its that you cant say that i am not at all obssesive about your partner,i am and i will tell!!but in limits not that mess is created!!
@umit_umit (1984)
• India
16 May 10
hmm!well its true but i think that there should be some flavour of being obsessive in the relation as we tend to ask from our partner about the life as then there will be agap in the relation!!in a balance mode not in excess!
@umit_umit (1984)
• India
16 May 10
well anyone may say this but all are obsessive!as if we donybget a word we will be in graet panic fron inside may we dont show it on front?
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@staylor7506 (45)
• United States
30 May 10
How are you characterizing the word obsessed? What do you consider being obsessed is? And have you ever thought you might actually be just "in love" with the person? See the problem is, we get very confused over the word obsessed and Love. Because in some ways, the two walk hand in hand.
I lost my husband 11 months ago because the war broke him. Broken meaning the war changed him in such a way that he came back home and couldn't handle being in a "home" situation.he did everything from stop telling me he loved me, to completely neglecting me. Well there's more then that but I won't get into to much detail in less you ask me. But anyways, My point is, I have had my friends tell me I am obsessed. Then i just point out to them the fact's. I have been away from him for 11 months.. I have not said much to him at all. He pops back up on Myspace and comments to a blog I posted and I pretty much flipped out. I have been sick for the past % days because of it. I love him, and yes he gets to me. Every relationship I've been in had gone utterly wrong, and that was four different people. I mean come on something isn't right here...
@deve_annrn (1856)
• Philippines
31 Jul 10
i am aware that being obsessive or too possessive with my partner won't do any good to our relationship...and i don't know why i can't seem to control myself at times... i do it because i love him..but i know he felts imprisoned and i feel bad that he feels that way... i need help in controlling my attitude...
