Defensive again are we?
By abitcurious
@abitcurious (1422)
Philippines
May 16, 2010 10:01am CST
I get tired, of course, of always having to explain my every statement when I talk to this friend of mine.
So why do I have to explain? Because every word I utter has to be rationalized and interpreted the wrong way. An innocent remark can turn into a very malicious statement. What's more annoying is I always end up defensive. Am I just being too sensitive or did we get lost in translation somewhere between the first word and the period of soem statements?
Weird really.
What's up with that?
Have you had the same experience? How do you deal with it?
4 responses
@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
17 May 10
Hm, that would be me and my husband as our relationship gradually deteriorates...
@abitcurious (1422)
• Philippines
19 May 10
it's just so sad that something so negative can come from something that started so promising the first time.
Don't you hate it when everything good gets trampled on and comes up all bleak and muddied up at the end of each relationship?
I just hope you'll both survive this without being too destructive on each other (emotionally I mean)even if you don't want to continue with your romantic relationship
. I'm cheering for both you. 
. I'm cheering for both you. 1 person likes this
@ifa225 (14461)
• Indonesia
17 May 10
it happened to me too. usually when we got PMS we tend to turn to the malicious statement.
When i started to joke, she got me wrong by response in defensive way. women tend to encounter this. but when the PMS past, we got better to in communicating .
@abitcurious (1422)
• Philippines
19 May 10
Won't all men love to blame our nuances to PMS? 
Kidding aside, maybe hormones got something to do with it, but when its happening all throughout the month then something might be off.
Kidding aside, maybe hormones got something to do with it, but when its happening all throughout the month then something might be off.
@macdingolinger (10386)
• United States
16 May 10
I don't have time for that kind of mess. I have to only make small talk, nothing serious with a person who over-evaluates every word I say. I stop talking after awhile. That makes them mad too though! Not worth the time..
@abitcurious (1422)
• Philippines
19 May 10
Yep not worth my time to. But today I woke up and my silence yesterday was, again, misinterpreted. I'd rather keep mum or I would surely find something to say that I'll regret later.
harhar.
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
16 May 10
I just let them judge me wrong. I couldn't care less. I've had the same experience. I was being judged wrongly with everything I do. At first I explained to them that it wasn't my intention and that they're getting me wrong. But eventually I got tired of it. What I did was I just explained myself once and if they don't believe me then so be it. But if they utter a single word about a wrong judgement about me then it's a whole different story. I easily get pissed off at that kind of situation and often times, I can't hold my fists back, if y'know what I mean.
@abitcurious (1422)
• Philippines
19 May 10
YOu and I are kindred spirits. It takes about all of my self control to hold myself back, too. Yep I know what you mean. I always think of some kind of a retort to at least get back my control of the situation.
IT's really frustrating and draining.
