to cheat or to be cheated?
@realbusinesswithyou (226)
Philippines
May 16, 2010 9:00pm CST
hello mylotters! if you are in a relationship, you have to give and take. and usually there are times when you get fed up with the other one with her attitude, or sometimes there is just no spark anymore. there are also times that you yourself screw up, when you just didnt know why you did it, leaving you no choice but to take whatever she has to give you (if she/he would break up with you etc). most of the time, these are the reasons why people cheat. when things dont go the way you want, or simply your tempted to "try something new", or just want to be bad and want to satisfy your "needs" someone else. so which do you prefer? to be the one who is enjoying everything, cheating and just satisfying yourself, but your conscience could get into your head, or the "martyr", who would let his/herself get hurt, just for his/her love, but with a clean conscience. so which situation do you prefer?
10 responses
@MRSSTEVENS (125)
• United States
17 May 10
neither....i would not ever in a million years cheat, but then, i wouldn't want to be cheated on. at least if it was someone else's fault, you have justified leaving and being angry. i would never ever want to feel like it was my fault that marriage/relationship ended. i will do whatever it takes to keep a family together. that being said...i am happily married with four children and cheating is just not an option!!!!
@med889 (5941)
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17 May 10
What you are saying is really difficult because either way you are the bad one. I do not wish to choose among the too because even the thought is frightening. I love my partner so much that I cannot cheat him and I will be very hurt if I will know he is cheating on me.
@poohgal (6845)
• Singapore
17 May 10
I rather be cheated. I am loyal by nature and it simply goes against my values and beliefs to cheat. 'Do not do unto others as you would that they should do unto you.' This is my belief. There's no point in trying to 'take revenge' by trying to do what he did to me. I believe he will be punished in one way or another.
@KathysLaw (77)
• United States
17 May 10
Well, I've been in both sides. I've cheated and been cheated on. After being cheated on, I felt devastated and realize that this is not the kind of person I'm. I think that in order to make your best choice one has to really get to know the other person quite well. But, you could be with someone for ten years and still don't know that person. So take a chance because you never know.
@Selpmis (1)
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17 May 10
It's an awkward question, i'll give you that.
There's a saying that goes something like 'Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me'.. or something.
I was in a relationship with somebody a couple of years back, and he was a lying cheater. I have honestly never had my heart crushed into so many pieces, and there is no way I would put myself through that again.
For that reason, I couldn't cheat on someone. If I wasn't happy, I would leave.
I don't understand why people don't just leave relationships, infact I do, it's because they are very greedy.
If I was being cheated on, I would end the relationship so I would not prefer either situation.
@spalladino (17891)
• United States
17 May 10
I definitely don't cheat because I have to live with myself...and I won't tolerate a cheater either. If my husband decided to cheat for any of the reasons you mentioned or any other reasons, he would be out of my life so fast his feet would be on fire. Relationships are built on trust and mutual respect. If I can't trust my partner or be respected by him, I don't need him.
@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
17 May 10
I really dont know what to say about this cause both are heavy things to do. There are consequences in both choices and there are so many things that we can do about to prevent it from happening to us. Though I must admit that I have been cheated upon by 2 of my boyfriend's in the past. I know for myself though that I am not going to do the same thing that they did to me. I think I am mature enough to handle a situation, unlike them.
@caliya (1169)
• Philippines
17 May 10
I have tried being cheated on and I know how it feels. It was very devastating and it took me a long time to get over it. I hate to be cheated and I don't want to cheat in a relationship because I know how it feels and I believe in karma. If you do something bad it will come back to you eventually.
